Should I be concerned that my boyfriend sleeps way too much?

[Anonymous]

I may sound childish and selfish but I don't feel alright with this.

My boyfriend sleeps from 12 am till 5 pm! .. stays till 7 pm and then hits the gym until 12 am , then he sleeps again. I can only talk to him an hour a day .. which sucks! Sometimes I would need him earlier , and he is sleeping! Sometimes I need help .. but he is sleeping! We don't live together and it is super hard! I have no one else and I really wish we would spend more time together ..

I don't wanna suffocate him but sleeping around 16 hours everyday sounds wrong to me .. and now whenever he wakes up so early, I am mad at him and can't even laugh or act normal .. Am I over reacting ?

[komotion]

Everybody has a different sleeping pattern. I myself was a night owl until I started college. Sounds like he's become complacent with you and is taking you for granted. Talk to him and tell him how you feel about this. You can't change him, since only he can do that, but you can bring it to his attention.

[Asker]

We did talk about it .. and he would try to wake up earlier , but then goes back to his routine. He wakes up at 5 am when he has college which is 2 hours away from his house.. I understand this is hard and all , but come on , I do the same things and I sleep 8 hours.. I know we all have dif. sleeping patterns but 16 hours a day ?

[komotion]

It's really not that uncommon. Hell I knew a girl that would sleep the whole day so she could stay up the day after. Didn't make any sense to me then, and it still doesn't now. I even thought she was cheating on me (usually a cheater will stay tired from splitting time up between companions) and made a complete ass out of myself because I simply could not accept the way she was. I found out she wan't cheating and that she just had a quirk.

[SkinnyG]

I would get sick of that really fast. Is he on some kind of medication? I would say this is not normal. Maybe he's depressed.