I know a guy like this that is so shell-shocked (9 years later) from his terrible marriage that he is one to like only FWB relationships. That way he gets the perks of a relationship without the "emotional headaches". The really odd thing is that he will hang out with that girl day in and day out, go to movies, go to dinner, spends nights together, share what's going on with his life but never talk about feelings. He will not, however, commit. Once the girl starts talking about her feelings and whatnot he will shut it down with, "I am not your boyfriend." or he will just change the subject. This can leave a girl to feel pretty hurt or that something is wrong with her. Please be careful with yourself here. You have to be fair to yourself. If you are ok with what is going on than go on. But if you can't be in a relationship that has no said commitment than you may want to talk to him about it. Tell him hat you don't want him to treat you like that anymore and that because you are getting attatched.
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i am in the same situation..and I've been debating for the longest time what to do..i am already attached but he reminds me we are just friends because he's not ready for anything serious...well then can you let it become serious...all I can do..if hide my attachment issues..ive enjoyed our time together..and I think oneday things will change once he is ready..so mybe just relax and let the good times roll. try not to get overally attached tho..just put some of those feelings on the back burner until they are ready to be brought up
me and this one guy (who I dated for 6 weeks, then broke up) are like that. he says friends, but I know that we aren't just friends. he recently 5 months ago broke up with his inane ex... so if you boy has a child, he may have commitment issues. that's what I think. just be there for him
I think you're so eager to have this guy in your life that you're willing to overlook the obvious:
You are an FWB.
You're rationalizing like crazy. Womens' biology has a strong urge to bond with whoever they're sleeping with, and that urge can make you blind to the obvious.
He might have a completely different view of this "undeniable chemistry." He obviously likes you. But whether he wants the same things as you, in the long term, is a separate question.
Unless, and until, you both agree to be exclusive, committed, monogamous, you're an FWB. Unless, and until, you both agree to shared rules and expectations, you're an FWB.
Good luck.
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If I were you I would wait and see what could happen.
my advice, just let it go naturally
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