Improving Your Appearance: You've Got To Look Fresh!

[SeanE]

Women pay an unbelievable amount of attention to the small details in a man's appearance, whether it be flaws or perks.

If you don't keep your hair in check... they'll notice.

If you brush, floss, and use mouthwash... they'll notice.

If you wear the same outfit two days in a row... they'll notice.

If you keep your body hair trimmed and neat... they'll notice.

Get my point?

Women make judgments about you based on these petty details. If you keep every aspect of your appearance in check, it can score you a ton of "bonus points," but if you don't... she probably won't even put you on the scoreboard.

Chances are you don't naturally look like a male model; if you do... congratulations. If you are an average looking guy... you CAN become stunningly attractive looking to women if you keep your appearance 100% all of the time.

It's not about being the best looking guy in the world... it's about looking YOUR best!



Trying to keep your entire appearance top notch and perfectly groomed can overwhelm you if you try to do everything at once. My best tip to handle this is to maintain a constant cycle of self-improvement.

Clip your finger nails when they start to get too long. Get your hair cut BEFORE it gets out of hand. Trim your excess body hair as soon as it becomes too visible... and whenever you think of something new that you can add to your routine that will benefit the way you look, throw it into the mix.

You might not want to believe it, but the truth is that if you are poorly groomed or out of shape, then you are literally cutting your chances with women in half... and these are things that merit no excuse - get them under control.

Lift weights, play sports, or run on a regular basis. You don't need to get cock diesel like a WWF wrestler... just keep yourself in decent shape. It'll make you feel much better as well as improve the way that you look. I've never met a hot girl in my life that preferred an unfit guy to a fit one, so if you don't want the competition to have an advantage on you... get in shape!

The more muscle the better, but don't push yourself too hard... and never, ever take steroids.

Keep improving yourself every day; try to discipline yourself to attend to at least one small detail each day. After a month of this, you will notice a huge change in your appearance, and also the way that women treat you.

[Bethany94]

You make us sound like we reject men left and right for things like untied shoelaces and having their shirt wrinkled. Yes, you shouldn't wear the same outfit two days in a row, because they should go in the wash after wearing them for a day. Yes, you should brush your teeth for fresh breath and to avoid wearing dentures. I personally don't care about hair, in fact I like guys with unruly hair so long as it's clean. Also I'm not going to judge a guy soley on if he has a six pack.

[ArtistBboy]

Great article - excellent advice ; also... for men it is much easier to "style" themselves - meaning a plain t-shirt works for a casual event, while for a woman it will not... Sucks for the double standards, but they do exist! *Thinking back to m&m commercials...*

Anyways, thanks for the info ^_^ I was born into modeling (quite literally O_o) but at the same time I love keeping myself with a great hygene - it makes me feel better ^_^

[sweetaspie]

I like your answer and def. agree about grooming and dress but I happen to like a chubbier guy myself, not fat but meaty ya know almost like a football player build. A guy with a bigger build but not too much muscle. For me too much muscle is like eh....lol. I don't know maybe its just me....

[kentuckywildcat243]

With age comes wisdom and I've got more than enough wisdom to share, so here goes...

MEN: You don't have to be perfect. We don't want you to be perfect. In relationships there's only room for 1 princess and most gals want it to be us. Get a haircut when needed and fix it before you go out. You don't need to walk around with a can of Dapper Dan though. Brush your teeth, shower, use deoderant, don't get obese, & CLIP YOUR NAILS (why the youth can't do this is beyond me-it's gross not to).

[grahamcracker]

I am glad to hear this coming from a guy!!!!!!! I love a man that smells good and looks good. My guy is not considered to be "cute", but he is very hansome and has a wicked cool sense of humor. He smells good, brushes his teeth and takes baths. All pluses in my book. He does not dress in expensive clothes, but he has nice clothes. These suggestions are just simple things that a man can do to keep himself up. Guys always want us looking nice for them, we want that from you too.

[Standingpretty]

The article is OK but it has some flaws...Like first off, women don't scrutinize every single detail...and I don't believe basic hygiene such as brushing your hair and changing your clothes are little details. Even other dudes would notice if the guy next to them was unclean and lacked basic hygiene.Seriously? Basic hygiene is considered "petty details"? Wow girls really are so petty for expecting guys to brush their teeth and actually wear different clothes every once in a while.

[Jilbill212]

You are totally right here. I mean If guys always want woman to look 100% and put together all the time we expect the same from guys. Its only fair. Guys want girls with a good body and girls want the same as well. Looks are important in today's society and that's all there is to it.

[coltdiddy]

And i'm going to listen to a guys advice who is wearing a condom on his head? with the biggest douche looking expression on his face? No thanks

While I will agree with the fact that one should improve themselves, I disagree with the wardrobe bullshit.

I got more attention when I didn't take a shower for a week, then I ever did with nice clothes from abercrombie and bitch, or any of the crap from the gap.

I say keep your body hair, It grows for a reason, nature isn't stupid.

[DeanW]

Like ZZ Top said, every girl's crazy about a sharp dressed man. I have found that when I wear one of my tailored suits women are much more likely to notice. Typically a shirt and tie works better than business casual for getting attention (I used to be surprised by the number of times I would be considered "dressed down" with a silk-cashmere shirt on, but that's the way it goes). It's amazing, but men and women are often overwhelmed by cleanliness and expensive clothes.

[lovelylife]

Great article SeanE! These small details make a HUGE difference in the way a girl will look at you and what will go through her head.

When I see a guy checking me out, I will also check him out. I will look at everything from his teeth to his nails and everything in between in 5 seconds. If they look like they need a bath, hair cut, or there nails are dirty, I will just say to myself, wtf and smh. So guys please take a good look in the mirror before you leave the house. And girls too!

[Moobacca]

Short version of this article: girls like it when you keep up basic hygiene.

And trimming body hair? "Manscaping" is pretty gay dude. Most chicks don't care about body hair unless you've got a hair sweater going. Some even like it.

But really, if you perform basic hygiene and don't look or smell like a trashcan, the rest is just preferences.

[Kelly34]

While I disagree that an average guy can become stunningly attractive I'm still going to say this is the best article for guys here to read, at last someone acknowledges that women are very picky about the appearance of their potential boyfriends. I also disagree on the steroid point to, like most drugs if you use them sensibly they are very safe, its idiots and those who abuse them that give them a bad name.

[What-If]

I agree with you, but I don't believe they're "petty details". It's hygiene. But yeah, no girl wants to be with a sloppy guy, it makes you look lazy. And if you can't put effort into yourself and getting a girl, are you really going to put the effort into the relationship?

[vanillapinkcake]

This article is ridiculous. Yeah, I like men who shower, and smell nice. And I always seem to date men who genetically don't seem to grow chest hair which has become a preference, the rest of this though is crazy. I don't like my men to manscape. Dudes should be hairy. I also love a beard, or the sexiest of all: a 5 o clock shadow. Swoon. I don't take notice when a man I'm seeing wears the sane outfit twice in a row. I don't like men for their style. That's my thing. Confidence is sexy.

[noricat]

A good article, though a bit needlessly long for saying: "Look after yourself"

As long as you make the most minor effort to stay in shape and keep up good personal hygiene you'll be okay.

[anewcowboy]

I like the article, but I have some questions. 1. Facial hair good or bad I'm trying to grow a Goatee should I just take it off? 2. I have a slight problem with facial acne and a HUGE problem with acne on my back and especcially on my chest, anything you know that can help with those? 3. what are some good ways to try an build muscle when you don't have the funds to purchase weights?

[mantobee]

ive been working out for a year and women still find me ugly

[Nicholas]

I agree with you 151%

[Lorna]

I wish all guys were like you, Sean!