Would a girl that's "too hot for you" put you off?
I'm going to sound so conceited whichever way I word this such. I'm not a superficial person, I study medicine and devote my life to charity. I met... Show More
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Yes it is possible but it all stems from the guy's low self esteem/poor self image/insecurity. Unless he can do something to raise his own self image and self esteem he will always be wondering in the back of his mind what someone like you could possibly see in him, and it CAN (not saying it will, but CAN) lead to lack of trust of you and other things that COULD cause the relationship to implode on itself. Unfortunately there isn't really anything YOU can do on your end to help that you aren't already doing, except formaybe stepping up to defend him when your friends say things like that about him.
In my experience the best thing he can do for his own self image (because this worked for me despite being overweight and not exactly being successful with the ladies) is trying to move up in life by doing things such as getting a better job or education, etc. But for him he may need other things instead.
What Guys Said 5
A girl can't be "too hot for me." I have higher self-confidence than that.
i think maybe he is getting some attention from OTHER girls since he has lost that weight...
This story sounds so cute, both of you seem to idolize the other person and worry yourselves to death about looks and being good enough.
For him its probably not just be about your looks, you sound very sweet and caring, that combined with good looks is pretty rare so he probably can't believe his luck, hence the insecurities. It's almost like you like each other too much in a way since you are now worrying about your looks and weight.
Have you two sat down and talked about all of this? Been completely open and honest, its something you need to work through together.
I can be so insecure in my thinking that I would think that a girl would be 'too hot for me'. I guess many guys don't have that much confidence when it comes to girls perceived as more attracted than they are.
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