How to not feel so bad about myself?

[Anonymous]

Basically I have really low confidence. My whole life I have been over weight. I'm not going to come up with excuses or any thing. It was my fault and I've realized it. I've been working on it and have lost 20lbs. But I still weigh 240lbs and I'm 5'7. I feel like no guy will ever like me. Specifically an average size guy. Like I will always have guys that act like they like me and everyone says to just talk to them, but I don't want to because I have it in my head that they don't really like me because I'm bigger than them and I'm just imagining all these signs so I just never go forward with any thing. Like now there is this really cute guy and he does all the general signs of someone that likes you. But as I'm seeing these things I'm thinking he doesn't like me. I'm also really shy. Like there are guys that are always talking to me and trying to get me to be more outgoing and I try really hard to be outgoing, but I always end up really uncomfortable. I've been told that I'm "F***able", but never someone that a guy would want to go out with. Or I'm the girl that the guys would hang out with for a couple hours, but never a relationship. I don't know how to get more confidence.

[Lacutis]

The biggest barrier to your happiness isn't your weight, it's your self confidence. Until you are happy with yourself you can't expect anyone else to be. If you think losing weight is what it will take to make you happy then that's what you should do, if it's something else than you should do that.

Once you are happy and have more confidence in yourself the rest of your life will fall into place.

[Sexy-Senior-09]

Join a gym and kill youself for a couple months (Work Hard).

You indentified the problem that is hurting your confidence, now eliminate it.

focus on taking 500 less calories each day for 2 weeks then increase that amount after the 2nd week to 700 or so.

Imagine yourself in 3-6 months if you work hard.

goodluck!

[Anonymous]

Congratulations on losing 20 pounds! That's an accomplishment! You already made progress so you can continue to make more! You know why you feel bad so continue to keep working out and in a few months this won't be an issue anymore. The more weight you lose you will feel more confident and beautiful. Right now I wouldn't worry about dating until I got more confidence, then you can take on the world.

[ivarei]

you're losing weight, keep going at it! you can't start speculating about rejection when you're not finished working on yourself. don't worry about "regular-sized guys" or being datable, focus on being the best you can be.