Okay guys what should I do with my sibling?

[Anonymous]

So there's just this weird, ironic thing going on with me and my sister. It seems like she stole my dream. She used to be chubby, big, etc and then she decided to lose weight. I believe it was something personal but eventually she started taking her workouts more seriously and she's now all into fitness. I was into fitness since like 10 years old. I started working out at that age but not in a bad way like anorexic or anything, I was pretty smart at that age to actually just work out to tone my body. So I've been into fitness since forever but never took it to the level that she has taken it in the last year because one, I had other priorities and two, fitness and nutrition were just all naturally a part of my life so I never felt like I needed to get into this specific diet, unless I had some specific goal. However, some of my dreams were to be a fitness trainer on the side, and just overall be a fitness inspiration to others. Now, I feel like all that has been taken away.

Not necessarily though, cause nothing stops me from what I wanna do so its not like Im not gonna try to achieve those dreams anymore however, it feels like I won't be that original anymore, as if I am copying her. I hate that because back then at ten years old and so on, we didn't have instagram or fb to showcase what we're doing and now we have all of that so obviously she's been doing those instagram pics and videos of working out and I have posted some pics but not of every thing I do. I would but again, I feel like Im not being original. One of my biggest pet peeves is to convince close-minded people to not believe everything they see or believe. The first thing I know others will think if I start pursuing my dream is that I'm copying her cause everyone is close-minded like that. So what should I do to make this whole situation better and not as dramatic as it could turn out? Does anyone out there have an open mind and see through the stereotypical assumptions and understand where I am coming from? I remember one of my fitness instructors was saying how she became an instructor and her sister is one too (before her) but my instructor was the first one to be into fitness so I was kind if relieved how ok Im not the only in this situation.

[coolbreeze]

Try not to take it personal. Look at it like you was a big role model for your sister. If you haven't noticed siblings mimic and copy other siblings. Use it as ammo to motivate yourseld and achieve your goal and dreams of being a fitness trainer. And who cares what others think. You don't have to proove nothing to nobody but yourself. People will always player hate when your doing good things or bad things. Yeah your sister copied you. You inspired her to get in shape and be healthy and exercise. She did it because you did it and she looked up to you. Its nothing to be sad or ashamed about. You was her rolemodel.

[Klaatu51]

first of all is she older or younger than u? if she's younger then actually she's copyin u by default. first of all u were into fitness since u were a little kid... but she started recently right?

as for ig/fb and stuff like dat... nobody should have to showcase anything he/she does... those who take ig or fb literally must be really stupid... and if u try to convince "close-minded" people as u say... then u'll fail anyway... close-minded people will never change.

so wot u can do's pursue yer dream and fuck anybody who'd think u r copyin her coz this is wrong... and u KNOW it's wrong!

[Asker]

She's the older one so exactly, not only everything I mentioned but the fact that I'm the younger one its by default.

[Klaatu51]

oh shit... anyway... y people should think u r copyin her? that's wrong... u have yer own ways ;)

[Asker]

Lol exactly you said the truth, the reality of what everyone's going to think. I just have to come up with a clever plan I guess to prevent any false accusations cause shits annoying.

[Klaatu51]

Does everybody knows u r her sis?

[Asker]

Um not everyone but that doesn't change the fact that we are related. Eventually you find out. But I'm specifically talking about the ones who do kno

[Klaatu51]

anyway as i said ignore 'em if they think dat... u KNOW already u r not copyin her... and if someone thinks otherwise it's their prob not urs ;)

[Sofiamullenix]

Just keep living your drean. don't give up. It seems like she looks up to you and you should use this your advantage. Its kind of like you got to be fit by being fit. People probably think you help her with this stuff. Just be cool about it.

[Stefan1738]

Sounds like you're a bit jealous to me. Instead of worrying about who's copying who, why not get into fitness with your sister, motivate each other.

[Asker]

See that's the ideal situation but she also is a little possessive of the things she does so in other words, if she's doing her thing she wants to keep it that way. So why should I share when she's not up for it 100%?

[Anonymous]

So, basically, you're upset that your sister is basically stealin your thunder? Is that what I'm getting?

[Asker]

In a way yes. I mean good for her but what I am most fearful of is once I accomplish those goals its going to look like I did cause of her when I've been wanting to do these things since a little kid.