Do you think there's something wrong with this situation?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 13 year old girl. I'm obsessed with my body pretty much. I obess over the tiniest of things that most people don't even know exist. Like right now, I'm obsessed with my knees. I hate my knees. For ex. obsessed with the pale color of my skin or the weird shape of my butt. Pretty much everything. I workout everyday. Not huge workouts, but like squats, lunges, push-ups, planks, etc. I hate the fact that I'm so obsessed like this. I kinda just want to be happy without worrying about everything I am. See, I'm a perfectionist so this is probably a huge factor in the first place. also, the weird thing is is that everybody loves my Body. I can name Like more than 20 boys who have liked me or crushed on me sometime in my life. Many people tell me I'm beautiful and such, but why can't I just see it? idek I'm just wondering what others think of this weird situation.

[TheBag]

Not uncommon. However I'm extremely impressed that you are 13 and do body weight exercises everyday. So what I suggest is you take pride in that. Forget about your body, it's fine; start thinking about all the great things you are doing for yourself. You probably do well in school too. You sounds like a lot of girls I knew in university. Seriously, good job. Please make sure to stay at a healthy weight.

I will also mention females are more prone to anxiety disorders, which you do not have, but perfectionism and obsessing about your body are distinct symptoms of certain anxiety disorders when they become dysfunctional. Again, you aren't at a point of dysfunction, but you are feeling like these things are starting to control your life- you are feeling stressed.

I can give you some practical advice. Many studies show deep breathing is effective for alleviating symptoms of stress, but also anyone can do it. It's almost like meditating. It's super simple and at worst, you'll feel great doing it. I'd encourage adding it to your workout routine or whenever you feel is best. It's a good thing to practice daily. How to do it?

From health. harvard:
First steps. Find a quiet, comfortable place to sit or lie down. First, take a normal breath. Then try a deep breath: Breathe in slowly through your nose, allowing your chest and lower belly to rise as you fill your lungs. Let your abdomen expand fully. Now breathe out slowly through your mouth (or your nose, if that feels more natural).

Breath focus in practice. Once you’ve taken the steps above, you can move on to regular practice of breath focus. As you sit comfortably with your eyes closed, blend deep breathing with helpful imagery and perhaps a focus word or phrase that helps you relax.

Search google for relaxation-techniques-breath-control-helps-quell-errant-stress-response and the page should show up as the first result- I can't post links.

There's nothing wrong with your situation, keep up the good work!

[Asker]

Thank you so much!!

[carson500]

It isn't wrong per say, but it will quickly become unhealthy. I was in the exact same situation as you at that age. It started with my chest, but then it became the smaller things like the size of my ears, my chin, my eyebrows, etc. The thing is, (and it took me a very long time to realize) you're not under a microscope! No one looks close enough to see what you perceive as imperfections! You look the way you look and as long as you're healthy, you're doing everything right. Im sure you're beautiful, and just because you dont see it doesn't make it untrue (as Im sure you're aware). There are small steps you can take to stop worrying about it so much, let me know if you would like to hear some of these I think it would help a lot.

[Asker]

Yes please help me because It almost controls my life😕

[Anonymous]

It sounds like your overanalyzing. Nobody's perfect and I'm sure its not that big a deal.

[DarkHumorRUs]

Sounds like every teenage girl ever.