Well, I'm 242 lbs. So yeah you do the imaging;) It helps that I'm tall tho. I have very much trouble accepting who I am. And yes I'm working on losing the weight. I'm going to the gym 5 times a week, 2 hours a day.
I couldn't say honestly that I love my body. But I love myself. Like the person I am. My personallity. The way I act the way I am. I'm a very positive person, I smile and laugh and giggle and do crazy sh*t all the time. I've always been very honest with boyfriends, that I'm insecure about my body and that I hide it very well. So they've all known. And they didn't mind at all. And I had hot boyfriends, I can promise you that.
You should just give off happy energy or something. Just smile and laugh and be happy! You don't persee have to love your body to love yourself. Ofcourse you could never love yourself like a 100 percent. But 80 or 90 % is pretty good too:)
In the mean time; don't stop working out. It takes the body a while to switch the metabolism. It took mine about 4 months before it got it. Since then I've lost 15 lbs. I've been going to the gym for about 8 months now. I wanted it to go fast and quick and I get discouraged very easy. But I just stick it out, so what if it takes the next 2 years or longer. Eventually I'll look better and be healthy. A good thing to think of is; how long have you been overweight? and for me it has been all my life. It's a bit unrealistic to believe 18 years of being overweight is gonna go away in a matter of months.
Good luck to you! ^^
Love yourself means that you are ok with all the good and bad things about you. Be confident, that's all you need. I know it's hard for some people to get confident. Maybe you see a lot of desperating things about your looks or friends or behavior. But after you will be self-confident you will see that a lot of people give you compliments, are jealous or look at you (that awesome amezed way). When someone say you are not good enough, take it as a part of your personality that makes you special. Everybody wants to be perfect but you will be pround of what you really are.
All the confidence will give you a different point of view. It took me longtime to realize that I'm pretty. Then I suddenly heard lot of people saying it. And they were thinking it all the time while I was worried. It's not like you will turn to a supermodel, it's like you will see, that there is someone who finds you attractive.
While you keep thinking that you are monster, you are blind, you can't see those nice people around you and it hurts.
Before you can even take THIS step you need to get rid of those misgivings about the opposite sex. Learn now and learn right away, before you're too old, the difference between MEN and WOMEN and the difference between PEOPLE and OTHER PEOPLE.
WOMEN have a vagina, MEN have a penis. WOMEN produce estrogen and testosterone, MEN produce only testosterone. This effects behavior but not anywhere on the level you seem to think.
PEOPLE can get past OTHER PEOPLE's looks. PEOPLE can love or hate OTHER PEOPLE for any reason. PEOPLE are not attracted to OTHER PEOPLE who think bad things about them right away.
You're creating a reason to keep your guard up, which is preventing you from loving someone else. The reason behind loving yourself before loving someone is you will be MUCH more guarded if you don't think you're a good/good enough person. If your guard is up to another person, you cannot love that person as deeply as you should. Accept yourself for who you are, and if you really want to love yourself do things that you believe a good person does or change your self-evaluation.
You may also be falling for all the wrong girls, and are not yet emotionally or mentally mature to find the girls deserving of love. All in all, there's too many problems I see for me to be able to sum it up nicely. One step at a time though, there's no rush at 21.
When you don't love yourself you become self-conscious. You become critical of yourself and focus your attention inward. Yes, you may want a girlfriend, but simply wanting isn't good enough.
If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to?
And just because you love yourself doesn't mean you need to stay exactly the same. If you love yourself you will devote the time and energy into continual self improvement and personal growth. When you love someone, you want the best for that person. It sounds like a healthier lifestyle is the best thing for you.
If you continue to do good things for yourself because you care you will notice a difference. You might not even realize it, but one day you'll wake up and realize you are a lot more comfortable in your skin and happy. Girls will pick up on that energy and will be naturally attracted to you. It will just happen.
Just keep in mind it is not an easy or quick road to travel. It takes time and dedication, but if you love yourself you will be the best for you.
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If you don't love and respect yourself before, you love someone else, you can't have a good relationships and you will be pushed around. You know those pathetic people in bad relationships that get pushed around and waste all there money and ditch all their friends it's cause that person doesn't love themself and as a result they may love someone but they can't be truly happy.
Oh shut up about being the fat friend! You know why you'll end up the fat friend it's cause your giving up before you even try. My best friend is not a small guy actually he's probably bigger than you. He will not end up being the fat friend to some amazing girl he has said it himself everyone can get anyone if they have confidence and try hard enough. No no one likes the pathetic loser fat ass that only feels bad about himself, but they don't like the skinny guy that feels bad for himself either. The skinny built guys don't get the girls because there body cause trust me that only lasts till their personality comes out. They like them because they have confidence in themselves.
number one stop complaining about your weight and do something about it...GET P90X..my cousin is 6'3" and weight 215lbs a month and a half ago...he now weighs the same as me (175)...FOLLOW THE WORK OUT PLAN ANDDDDDDDD THE MEAL PLAN and you will see results and you can then stop complaining about how you look...the key is WHAT YOU EAT
ok now...you are supposed to love yourself first because in teh end we all want what makes YOU happy...you want to be with a girl because she makes YOU happy...she wants to be with you because it makes HER happy...see what I mean...you've got to learn to lvoe yourself because this will give you confidence which girls thrive on and you'll feel a lot better about yourself...sure losing weight may be hard but you've got to STICK TO A PLAN AND DUKE IT OUT MAN, honestly...just running isn't gonna do it for you, get a personal trainer, EAT PROPERLY - that is the most important thing right there...sleeping and eating properly will make you see a huge change in yourself...
basically you need to stop hating on yourself man...girls are more about who you are as a person, if they can't see who you are then screw em you deserve better...but stop hating on yoruself and complaining about your weight, its p*ssing me off, do somethign about it or you'll forever feel this way
its not BS because when you think of yourself as a fat ass friend people your project that to people. You become really negative and no body likes someone who is always negatve. But when you start loving who you are you project confidence and what girl doesn't like a confident guy. My boyfriend is 6'2 and 250 pounds but he has me and I love him for who he is because he is confident and has ana amzing personality. He doesn't focus on what's wrong with him so I forget about those things and only see what's good about him. And like you said your working on the weight and hopefully you'll lose it :) and even if you don't do you really want a girlfriend who focuses on how you look on the outside? or one who loves you because of who you actually are?
because a guy that doesn't even like himself, and is all insecure and down is just annoying to be around. plus if you cannot love yourself how can you really love someone else? loving you would be the first choice and the easiest person and if you cannot get that down, how can love carry over to another person?
please stop with the pity party. you are blessed. you are not a paraplegic, you are not mentally disabled so you CAN do something about your situation. but sitting around feeling sorry for yourself won't do it. if you really want to lose weight you can do it. obviously your current workouts aren't working so maybe you need to intensify your workouts or eat less and healthier? I promise if you put in the effort you would lose weight
Not true sir. would you rather hang out with an overweight, not-so-very-attractive yet very friendly, positive, happy, upbeat cheers-you-up-all-the-time-girl or a VERY physically attractive, very depressed, hateful negative girl? Guess. Alright, now look in the mirror. The minute you start loving yourself, enjoying your life, that aura will rub off on someone else. Looking averagely and acting like a gentleman will attract a girl who is not so shallow.
I'd date my boyfriend if he looked like Quasimodo. He's a great person.
And I seriously would, because I used to have a crush on the Disney Quasimodo, and he's no looker. But he is a great guy!
Though I might be a little weird and extreme, but I can assure you a lot of girls are similar. The probably just fall into the less extreme part of the spectrum.
Cuz it's real... not a BS cliche... Why would anyone love a sorry-ass who dnt have the confidence who dnt respect themselves enuf to at least stay in shape? Hell, why even get outta bed in the morn ifya dnt love yourself enuf to do wats right by yourself... Is it THAT bad that you're single that ur questioning ur very existence? Stop this pity party and get some damn biz about yourself...
Its all about confidence, if you think of your self as just a fat friend, then people are gonna start picking up on those vibes and treat you that way, whereas if you hold your head high, feel confident and comfortable about who you are, then people will defo start treating you different, I'm not saying its an overnight thing, it took me months to gain the confidence to speak to random guys, hence my amazing lovely partner or 3 1/2 months, who I am extremely happy with now. But trust me, you will have a much happier life, oh and don't give up if you fall at the first hurdle, get back up and try again, that's another thing girls like, when a guy doesn't give up, shows you've got some balls and that your not a pushover :) x
in a comment you said girls don't like fat guys?
I love guys all shapes, I like guys that are fluffly compared to ones with washboard abs because they softer to hug.
and some sseem to consider your feelings more.
keep looking and you'll find.
& that is true about loving yourself because I know I used to hate the way I look but now I love myself, and I make sure it shows on the outside too.
xxstay blessed, and good luck to you.
It's not bullsh*t because if you love yourself you won't allow other people to treat you like dirt. Plus to women that also shows that you have confidence in yourself which is what most women like in a man. I have a question for you though, what do you do for your workout and how many times a week do you do it?
Laugh and grow fat.
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