Does anyone else hate being called skinny?

[Betawolf]

For some reason I just hate the word skinny. I am 5'9'' 158, which is basically at or above the average for my age but people sometimes call me skinny and I hate it. I am muscular and toned, just because I am not as heavy or big as a football linebacker doesn't mean that I am skinny! Does anyone else, guy or girl, hate to be called skinny?

[Deleciel]

I half agree with MrEM4N. As a girl, I don't like being called skinny, especially when I know that I'm simply in fine shape. I'd like to believe that I'm relatively healthy at my height (5"5"), age (19), ethic background, waist-hip ratio etc. I don't like the conotation/media hype/current Western beauty standard of females being skinny/thin automatically equalling attractive; there are hypocrits everywhere - many of us know that at the same time, runway models are criticized for being too skinny. I'm not a guy, but I'm pretty sure that most guys would like their gals to have some curves. I'm not as in shape as I was in high school, but I'm glad that I didn't have to go through freshman 15. Perhaps it's because I eat healthier now than I did in high school (I'm probably eating more though...I love food, and.the urge to snack in the middle of the night is not a good thing), but I did notice that I lost some weight between graduation and sophomore year in college (ex: I was a size US 7 in jeans when I was 16-17, but now I fit a size 5...the funny thing is that I've gotten a bigger cup size XD Gosh, I feel a little strange telling this info to a thread with guys in it). It's definitely not a dramatic change and I know that my body tends to lose weight at my upper body than my lower body, but I lose weight on a slow rate...I'm not very (physiologically) self-conscious like some of my friends are, but whenever I'm told by them and especially by my own mother, that I'm a stick, I feel insulted. And when it comes to my mom, she's saying it like it's a bad thing...that I don't have any more curves, that I have a eating disorder (actually, eating disorders are mental disorders and I should be analyzed by a professional before bein given an assumption like that), and I should eat more...I may be glad to not be at risk for heart disease, but dammit, I'm going to bust a cap if someone tells me to eat a damn sandwich e_e

and you know what, I could go for a five dollar foot long even though it's getting late (too bad I don't like subway much. I'd like to get several tacos instead).

[Cfrobw]

To all you girls out there, I wish you would be happy to know that I like a skinny girl. I think your beautiful. My high school sweet heart was skinny. Not like those runway supermodels, but gosh after high school, she couldn’t get into the military because she couldn’t gain weight. She cooked a 14 pound turkey and deboned it. The day before her next weigh in, she stuffed herself with 8 or 9 pounds of turkey meat. Then she went to get weighed in and still didn’t weigh enough. I think she should have swallowed a bunch of small stainless steel balls. Haha. But I really did like her being skinny, I thought she was beautiful. Compared to my now ex-wife, I would have preferred to marry my high school sweet heart. I’m sorry double D’S are not attractive to me. An AA, A, B, or no larger than a 32 in a C cup. Runway models are way to thin, they are told to starve themselves if they want a job in many cases. My high school sweat heart the last time I spoke to her told me she was having problems with bone Spurs in her back. She had two children both out of wedlock. She had to have a cesarean section for both babies. I don’t think it’s shameful to be thin. Actually all of my high school sweet hearts family, mom, dad, sister, and brother were all thin. But at least she was healthy through out her life.

[Cfrobw]

Something my high school sweetheart did was wear skinny jeans, she stuffed herself into them. Not meant to put her down, but I said, just spray starch the jeans so the stand up by themselves and jump off the roof of the house into them. Hehe. She probably didn’t like what her dad said, he said if she goes into the army she can hold the machine gun up vertically and hid behind it. She probably didn’t find it funny, but it was kind of funny. I actually fell in love with her because she was skinny. Well, that’s what attracted me to her. I saw other students picking on her because she was skinny. I defended her hand I became her boyfriend. She was always writing messages to me in class and passing them to me. I got in trouble for reading them in class. Like huh? I was teased because I liked her and she was so skinny. I didn’t care, I liked her being skinny. Her first child was from an affair she had with another student. She had fell behind in high school and I got out and was in college. It was a guy in high school who she began having an affair with. It’s what ended our relationship. Later I found out he had got her Brennan’s, told her to have an abortion then went off into the army. I instilled in here the idea to never have an abortion as a Christian. She kept her child, and the second one she had. She said keeping them was the best choice she could have made. She would not have done anything different in that aspect. I’ve heard of so many girls who struggle with the thought that they committed the unforgivable sin by having an abortion.

[angelofshadows131]

I know exactly what you mean. I've been dealing with "skinny" comments and low self esteem for a long, long time now. I'm about 5'6 and weighing in at 106-109. You know, I wear jeans and long sleeves even when it can be 110 degrees. It's not fun when someone comments "you're a stick" or "I can feel your hipbones" or even "how much do you eat?" To a naturally thin person? Yes, it can be assaulting. Its not like we have control over our body especially when it has to do with genes or metabolism. Everyone is self conscious about something but when it's your whole body? taking showers, getting dressed, and shopping for clothes? A constant reminder. What people don't realize is that being overweight and being underweight? Neither sides have it easy. Yeah people think "how can someone be bullied for being skinny? Being skinny is what everyone wants." I am sensitive when someone brings up something about my body. Like I'm not insecure enough. Yes people say you should love your body and your perfect exactly how you are, but what if it was them dealing with it? exactly. The point of view can change everything. You can't help being insecure. It's a part of being human. I just find it hard when I'm being hugged because you can feel exactly how skinny I am. Or when people stare at you and a million thoughts run through your head, making it worse. Yeah... I wish I weighed more. Yeah... I wish I wasn't so "bony" or "light" but I can't help it. Being called skinny can be a compliment to some but insulting and shaming to others. Sadly, society is how it is but it can hurt sometimes and I admit it. No one really knows how insecure I am about it and I don't want them to know. It will only lead to questions. I'm speaking for people who feel the same. It's okay to cry about it. It's okay that it hurts your feelings. Just know that there is no "perfect" body. Everyone sees perfection in different things, but there is no true perfect.

[doglover1722]

I don't consider being called skinny a compliment. I am a female, in my early 60's, 5'7", and around 140lbs. I wear size 8's and 10's. I think for my age and height that my weight is fine. I have hypertension, small vessel disease, and high cholesterol. I also have had surgery on my feet twice so I try to keep as much weight as possible off my feet. There is heart disease and diabetes in my family. I try to stay as healthy as possible. I have a friend that keeps calling me "skinny". I have asked her not to call me skinny, but she still keeps doing it. She says she is complimenting me. Would it be appropriate for me to walk up to a heavy person and call them "fat"? I hate being called skinny! As a child and teenager I was called skinny a lot by friends and classmates. I consider it unflattering and a label. It is my observation that only women are labeled "skinny", men are called lanky or thin. Why is that? I also think that one of the reasons that I don't like being called skinny is the way it is used and in what tone. Like it is bad or an accusation because the other person is heavy and needs to lose a few pounds and how dare you make me look bad. You are justified in not wanting to be called skinny.

[MrEM4N]

Hell yeah. But they don't say it to be mean. It's just an observation that they think is relatively harmless. If theyre fat and telling you you're skinny, theyre just being envious. But I think it bothers us because skinny isn't a powerful word. Guys want to be strong and women want to be sexy. Saying a woman is skinny is a compliment because it implies they aren't fat but in shape. Saying guys are skinny implies we don't have a lot of muscle tone which means we aren't as strong as other guys. I'm happy with my toned/muscular physique but I don't need people telling me I'm skinny.

[kevlar]

Yeh sometimes I do. Especially when you try to put ON the pounds. It's impossible for me. But hey, I'd rather be skinny than fat. I like to think I'm like Bruce Lee: He was shredded like a motherjumba! Only weighed 60 keys.

[Betawolf]

Hah this is true!

[-StillWater-]

Doesn't look skinny to me link :P

[acole]

I hate being called skinny. I'm not THAT skinny, but I'm not big either. Like girls will say all the time " God, I hate you, you're so skinny" and it makes me fel like sh*t.. like why would they say that? I think it is rude, if they don like themselves because of there weight I think they should do something about it... instead of saying they hate me because I'm smaller than them, because I can eat what I want.

[rwilson]

I agree, to me "skinny" is not a compliment. I'm 17 now but when I was younger I used to be teased about being "skinny as a stick". That used to freak out. I was worried that I had some eating disorder that I wasn't aware of. Turns out some people are just naturally thin (better word). I would much rather be called petite (i'm 5'2.5 and maybe 105lbs) but that's healthy for my size. Back to your point: I hate being called skinny. Hope I helped.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

I feel ya. I'm 5'3" and 115 lbs, I also absolutely despise being called skinny cause I've been bullied for it my whole life and that's the label that has been used on me for so long.

[Anonymous]

I always look at it like it's better than being called fat...