Do these things happen to everyone or most of us?

[Anonymous]

Like my ex allot still, we broke up recently and I can still go back to him because he was the one to blame and he asks for forgiveness almost everyday but what he did was cruel. Now whenever I go out with someone, I compare that person with him, its not something I want to do, it just happens! I can't control it... Its stronger then me...My ex was a very clean person his hygiene was max and I loved it, when I meet a guy, the first thing I look at are the shoes to check if they are as clean as my exes, I wasn't always like this and I want to stop...Has anyone been there and what help course it driving me nuts!

[Iridescent47]

Did the same with my ex, so I just stopped looking for a 'new her' I went about my normal life not worrying about dating or finding someone that I could compare to the ex, eventually I got over my ex and so any girl I met after I didn't need to compare because I didn't have any feelings for my ex, didn't care if someone was like her if anything the more different they were the better. After all why would I want some that was like her ?

[Asker]

I get you...I guess I'm just not over him and need to give myself sometime!

thanks

[superuss]

You aren't over your ex yet. You need more time to heal before you start dating.

[Asker]

ok I guess so thanks!

I was just scared that it would always be like that but by your answer I can see that it will get better once I forget him, you right I still like him...

[tatsuma8]

Take the man back, c'mon, what did he do that was so bad?

[Asker]

you are nice, he got a girl pregnant and told me nine months later (two weeks after the baby was born)!

must I still take him back?