How do I get someone to stop smoking?

[Anonymous]

What is a polite way to get someone your dating to stop smoking cigarettes!

[Solitude3]

I have seen many husbands of my clients quit smoking as soon as they had a family.They said they don't want to set a bad example to their children and have to take good care of their health now that they have a family to take care of.One of them was even hospitalised because he needed to cleanse his blood due to the withdrawal symptoms of nicotine.He showed me the scars on his back where the tubes were once inserted to cleanse his blood.He told me that something went wrong with his blood when he took seafood on the days he attempted not to smoke.So,you see,trying to quit smoking can be really torturing for some people.

On the other hand,my grandpa who had been smoking for 6 decades quitted smoking on the very day because of me.Haha.I was in kindergarten then and he doted on me so much and wanted to carry me and play with me.But his mouth was so smelly because of the smell of cigarettes and I refused to go near him.Haha.I don't see him smoking anymore from the next day onwards and my dad said it was a miracle!

So you see,every smoker's body reacts differently to the withdrawal symptoms of nicotine and we need to be understanding also.Good luck! :)

[Solitude3]

I didn't* see him smoking anymore.

[cazza3]

You can't. A smoker will only quit successfully if it is something they want to do for themselves. No amount of begging, ultimatums, scare mongering or anything else ever made I or any other smoker I know quit. And any bitching or nagging will only cause a wedge to develop between you

[Anonymous]

I have two close friends I have helped try to quit smoking/chewing. First, long time buddy from highschool, he's been smoking & chewing since probably a freshman or younger, I would bitch him out for smoking in the car or blowing smoke near me, ask him how it made him feel, how much money he wastes on them. Another friend, would do similar but not as pushy I guess (because I liked her), she finally decided to try and quit , I would support her, how long since you smoked? Great. Awesome!

In the end, I think they have to want to quit, but if they make to decision to quit you have to support their decision, because tobacco addiction is strong.

[Scoopie]

You can politely ask, but you can't force anything. You could say you would really, really appreciate it if he stopped smoking, sum up the reasons why you don't like it and why he shouldn't smoke, but that's all you can do. That is the problem. If the person doesn't really want to quit himself, there's no way to do it. It's either learn to live with it, or stop seeing the person.

[madhatters4]

don't get someone to smoke. you can talk to them about your desires to see them improve their life but after that the decision is really up to them.

I'd look up stuff on smoking cessation to see what strategies you can take to approach someone but ultimately the only way a person is going to quit is to want to quit

[nowistheonlytime]

It can be hard, the addiction is not just chemical, but mental as well,

Without the mental need, it would be very hard to stop,

Give him a reward incentive, a goal to look forward to,

Then show him how much healthier his is,

(build up a positive association with giving up smoking)

And let him know how much you appreciate him stopping smoking,

[Anonymous]

You break up and find a nonsmoker. You can't change them. My mom hates hates HATES that my dad smokes. They've been married for 25 years and he hasn't quit yet even though she practically pukes when she smells it on him, won't kiss him when she smells it, and refuses to sleep in the same bed as him when he comes home with the smell on his clothes.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You cannot force someone to do something they don't want to do. You can ask them politely, but if they refuse your suggestion, then you re-evaluate if the relationship is working for you.

[xHoneyxBeex]

You can't. They have to want to do it for themselves. All you can do is inform them of why you want them to stop and offer your support but the rest is up to that individual person.

[Jonny_]

You can't, it's up to them to try and quit many don't want to and many can't because they can't get past addiction or cravings.

[Anonymous]

show them this

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[Anonymous]

If you don't like it, why are you dating him? Find someone else that doesn't smoke.

[Anonymous]

Bribe him.