My boyfriend and I have had sex before, we've been dating for a year.
I want to stop having sex until we get married, but my boyfriend doesn't feel like it's necessary. He thinks that since we've already done it, that quitting cold turkey would be dumb. I disagree. I think that we should have waited, but he thinks that it wouldn't have made a difference either way.
I don't know what to do. We both want to marry each other. just not for a few years. I don't even know if we could wait that long to have sex again.
Am I being over dramatic? Should I just continue to have sex?
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It's tough to say.
Say you break up with him over it, but you would've otherwise been great together and happily married. Then this issue would be a very silly one.
Say it's an omen of what's to come: more disagreements about other things and he doesn't understand you, which leads to further fights and a divorce. Then this issue would be a very important one.
Right now, I believe only you can tell what feels right. If you don't want to have sex, it's your choice though. Nobody should force you, not even a boyfriend or husband. You have your own beliefs, stick to it. If he doesn't understand, it could indicate he will not understand other things either.
Think good about why you want to stop having sex, what's your reason and what good will it bring? If it outweighs the 'bad' it will bring, by all means, don't have sex. If it won't bring much good, think it over again, but don't let anyone push you to do anything you don't want to.1