My crush asked to make out with me for fun and am afraid I might need more! Help!

[Anonymous]

This guy has been my crush for months although he's a flirt.. out of the sudden he is interested in me and turned that he liked me from first sight.
And just 2 days forward he said that he will be glad to be my first kiss. And that he'll teach me all kind of kisses.. in his own words " we'll make out , it'll be fun , u'll enjoy it "
Thing is , am afraid i already started having feelings for him and im not sure weather he just want to make out or want a relationship too
Am afraid i would develop stronger feelings afterwards then he leaves me. And i can't ask him about his intentions cuz afraid he'll see me as needy or clingy.

So what to do?

[Gymaholic]

Firstly, what he meant by the first sight thing is that he thought you were hot. Or maybe he didn't, and he's just lying to get in your pants.

Secondly, why do you want to kiss him? Because you like him, right? Then don't. He wants to get intimate cause he's a horny boy and if you're horny too, it makes sense. You're going to be doing it (if you do) out of emotional needs and he'll do it out of physical needs.

Thirdly, you seem abnormally innocent and naive for someone over 18, so perhaps you should wait till someone who actually likes you in the true sense of the word wants to kiss you, not some dude who knows you're crushing on him and wants to take advantage of it.

Sorry if I came across as harsh, but I know how these guys work. They will use you, and not care about how you feel. And the best part is, they let you know initially that they aren't serious so that you "don't get hurt", but that's inevitable.

[Asker]

Yea thats what i was scared from

Thanks a lot for ur time & kindness

[William_Kendrick]

its this simple. you have feeling for this guy. so tel him if he wants to make out, you want to be his girlfriend. no excuses, no g/f status, no making out. put your foot down..

remember.. this is when you need to be the strongest.. HE WILL NOT LIKE THIS. he could even insult and demean you, he might try to make fun of you.. BE STRONG! remember you're worth it.

[Asker]

I like your advice ! Simple & strong.. thank you a lot MHO goes to u

[William_Kendrick]

thank you very much... but this isn't about mho.

you know how you feel. dont set yourself up to be hurt, but dont be a cold fish either... try to make him understand that you 'might have feelings for him' (keep it kinda vague or you might scare him away after all), etc etc.

thats what i think :)

remember: you're worth it.

[Asker]

I just did.. and he did make fun of me as you said. But am staying still. I do worth it thank you a lot to remind me of that. ^_^

[William_Kendrick]

its important to respect yourself first. guys, thats how they act. he made fun of you to hide the fact he was embarrassed. blow it off. its no big deal.

[steveisbored]

Well you said he liked you from first sight, so that means you know he has some sort of feelings for you right? If its your crush and he is offering to teach you to make out, then it sounds like a good way to get involved with him and maybe see where things go from there

[Asker]

Maybe