What would you do if your boyfriend told you very late in your relationship that he was traumatized as a child (up to this very day) from witnessing a woman being r@ped and a man being castrated (while conscious)?
I ask this since this is actually the case with me. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years already and she kept on asking me why I constantly feel uneasy watching graphing horror and thriller movies involving r@pe and castration. I constantly respond to her saying "nothing". When I was 9 years old, I used to live in a creepy and bad neighborhood with old homes along with a couple of violent sex offenders living in it. I remember taking a shortcut to my neighborhood after being at a friend's house, walking through a dark alley (leading me to my area). I make it to my neighborhood while still in my alley and then the next thing you know, I see a group of people in creepy masks/hoods ganging up on a couple, r@ping a woman while castrating a man with a switchblade, all covered in blood around their hands and forearms. I just was just standing their with a frightened look and in shock mode and then these group of masked people noticed me witnessing them and then took off running as fast as a I can. I ran back to my house feeling so traumatized. I couldn't comfortably sleep at all that day. D:
After all these years and being with my girlfriend for 3 years, I never told her that I was traumatized from this as I fear that I'll be looked as weak for showing any fear and traumatization that I've suffered mentally.
- Do my best to comfort him and not make him feel ashamed to have fear.Vote A
- I would just stay quiet and leave him alone.Vote B
- I would dump him. Men shouldn't fear anything.Vote C
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I'm so sorry that it happened to you. If she has any other reaction than compassion then she isn't worth your time. I know it's hard to open up to people about trauma, it took a lot for me to tell my boyfriend about my childhood abuse. Don't let anyone pressure you into telling them anything before you're ready. You can start out by just saying you witnessed something terrible and that you don't wish to tell her about the details and if that goes well, then maybe you'll tell her more when you feel comfortable1