Girlfriend likes black guys...

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend love each other, she reminds me constantly every day. But she likes black guys, and it bothers me since I'm not black and I end up feeling like she settled for less. She's never been with someone of my ethnicity. She tells me all the time I'm so good to her... but it's always in the back of my mind.

She's been with mostly black guys, so they are her ''type''

[VoiceOfReason]

I think her type would be more of how the man is as a whole, not because they are Black. Proof positive, she is with you, right? Maybe she may have a physical preference that leans toward Black men, but that clearly she has non physical things that influences who she chooses to date.

In terms of her telling you on a daily basis that she likes Black men I think it's wrong. I think she needs to maintain focus of her current relationship with you, which includes focusing more on positive reinforcement and not her own personal physical preferences.

If you haven't already, I think you need to sit down and tell her how you feel about her always bringing this up and let her know that you prefer that she doesn't. If she chooses to continue, then perhaps you need to reevaluate the relationship.

Relationships should be mutually satisfying and no one should be saying or doing things to tear down the esteem of the other. They should instead be there to build them up, give them reassurance and support. I am certain that with communication she will understand that what she's doing is hurting you and for the sake of you and the relationship she will be willing to make necessary changes and adjustments not just in this situation but with every concern.

[Racez]

Don't bother about it. She's committed to your relationship, and you just need to trust her, and maximize your relationship to be the most blissful one.

[Anonymous]

I love tall, dark haired men. But if I met a short, blond guy that was sweet to me and had a great personality, I wouldn't think twice about him not being "my type". So what if you aren't her type? She's with you. That means she's attracted to you. Intellectually and physically. All women have a type, but that doesn't mean we'll end up with that type of guy. Of course you'll always worry about that, but she is with you instead of a black guy, so you're obviously doing something right. Don't worry about it. If you're still concerned, talk to her about it.

[Asker]

Well physically I'm not really her type =/ which is what drives me crazy. It's all I think about ...

[why-makoto-kun]

Right, a guy can be dead sexy to a girl without being her "type." He can just be that amazing exception to the rule.

[why-makoto-kun]

How did you find out that was her "type?" Also, I mean, I think there are exceptions to the "type" rule, but it's important to assure your partner that although they look different from the usual "type" that they are just as sexy. I would talk to her about your concerns. You probably have nothing to worry about.

[Asker]

Thanks!

Out of curiosity are you a school days fan?

[why-makoto-kun]

Yes sir! LOL. It's quite the funny/messed up anime.

[palek]

Just put on some Barry White, turn out the lights and hop into bed. She won't know the difference.

[Anonymous]

cover yourself in chocolate so you look black and then she can have her way with you during sex