What do you think about fat girls?

When I say fat I don't mean as in huge, just a little extra weight or just very curvy. My question is that why do most guys prefer a slim, petite girl over a curvy girl? I mean they seem to always end up being ignored by a guy or just getting "lets just be friends" don't get me wrong I'm not saying all guys are like that and curvy girls don't get guys. But on a whole there just seem to be a phobia towards fat girls.

So guys I'm asking why is this so?

This question has a poll!

  • Vote A They scare you/can't manage them
  • Vote B Don't got a problem with them
  • Vote C It's a matter of preference
  • Vote D Other..plz share what other reason

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    I find it really amusing that girls and guys that never had a weight problem before are answering.This is what wrong with society today they think people aren't worth it or less of a person if they are according to you "fat". People have the same emotions and are capable of being loved no matter what their pant size. I use to be "fat" even though I played almost every sport and exercised daily and ill be honest I didn't have much luck with guys but I lost weight as I got older and became more healthy in my eating. but I didn't do it for ANYONE else but myself.and even now that I have lost a lot of weight and am healthy guys are still not knocking at my door.so I base it solely on personality which Is what it should be based on.And don't believe stereo types that fat people smell bad. not many do.And as for perfection I would take a "fat" guy with a great personality over on air headed jerk with a six pack anyday!

    • Thx you lots...that was well said!!!

  • sorry I'm a little late on this one... anyways here's another question in response to the answers given to this one. What if you have buff or should I say man shoulders that really make you look bigger and less fragile then you really are? I mean I'm not huge but not skinny. I just have some curves, but not major ones, and my shoulders really make me look more manly. And trust me I am not going for that look.

  • I met my Fiance when I was about 40 pounds heavier than I am now , we were friends at first and he go to know me and fell in love , then I thought about how I need to get healthy for our future ( I lost the weight because I knew I have an amazing guy who deserves a healthy girl ) , now I'm at my ideal weight , with an amazing fiance and a healthy life , couldn't be happier .

    So I guess what I'm saying is , when it comes to love don't think about weight , but when it comes to YOUR overall happiness , try losing it , because you become a lot happier when you do.

  • sorry if this is a guy answer question, I was just browsing the net on this topic and it landed me here. personally, from all the answers I read. I agree with most of them, except the very stupid ones. I have been "fat" all my life. I still am. so I do have all those "whiney issues" because how would you react when everywhere you go, people look at you like some germ. when for as early as you can remember, your whole family calls you fat and makes sure you don't forget it.

    i'm in high school now, that awkward phase where all guys only have eyes for those hot girls. it's all about those stupid standards in society. so yes, I do hold some jealousy for skinny girls for their powers to get guys to fall head over heels to slave for them. most of my friends are "skinny girls". I do take care of myself and try to lose weight and be healthy but it just doesn't work. it's not like I'm injecting mc donalds into my veins every now and then to get a "fat high."

    it's just that I feel like I can never be some guys girlfriend. I'll just be that girl that comforts him when the skinny girl he likes rejects him. that happy fat magic eraser that's always there in his pocket to erase all his hurt and make him happy again. to be put back into his pocket as soon as he recovers to not take you out again til some other skinny girl rejects him.

    i mean I have their bubbly personality, it's not like I'm super fat where I'm immobile and live under a rock. it's just a on and off thing. where sometimes I'll be happy and feel very beautiful and other days I'll wanna crawl up in a oven and melt the fat off. sorry, but this is going to be long. I have inner issues that I'm trying to work out. and right now, I don't want to go get a boyfriend to just "have a boyfriend", because as society has made it, and I'm not putting the whole blame on it. I myself have contributed to my I'm not "perfect" enough yet. so until then, till I reach this "perfect" level, I'll try and work my weight off till I myself feel I'm at a comfortable level, where I can be that bubbly beautiful average sized girlfriend.

    • Omg thx you for this.....i completely understand what ur saying....i'm basically the same!

  • Now why would you ask that :-(

  • ive never been fat I've been a little chubby,ive been really skinny,ive been toned and a nice figure and I've been normal

    and I tell you now when I put on little bit a weight people looked at me so different I suppose I was really skinny before hand , but guys who liked me didn't show as much interest and by no means was I fat at all

    my friend and I think its actually harder for a girl who is a tiny bit chubby than it is for a girl who is clearly over weight that's just me and my friends opinions as we have viewed it in are time but unfortunately this world is focused on image

  • Thinner girls are usually more attractive. If you take a pretty overweight girl, and that same girl became fit and lost about 30 lbs. she would look WAYYY better. Looks matter to guys and they want an attractive girlfriend. Plus their friends will make fun of them if they date fat girls.

    • I haven't found this to be true at all..My bfs friend has a girlfriend and the rest of his friend have all said that I am way prettier then her even though I'm not as skinny as her. All of my boyfriends friend love me and to be honest a few have tried to get with me. I use my personality not my looks and it works

  • hmm. well it all depends on the guy. some guys are just psychically attracted to petite girls, while some guys actually prefer a curvy figure. some guys notice that with thicker girls they sometimes come with confidence problems, self-conscious no matter how many genuine compliments the guy gives them. while the majority of fit girls front more confidence. you get what i'm saying? maybe you're going after the wrong type of guys, the looks-obsessed ones, and in the end, those guys are shit anyways.

    sexiness is all about confidence, you could have the hottest chick in the room, but if she doesn't believe it, and isn't exuding that, then nobody is going to believe it either. now you have another girl who's not the first one you check out, but she's exuding this sheer confidence, like she doesn't care that she's not the tiniest girl in the room, because she's hot and she knows it. now that is the girl that's going to attract fun guys, and on top of that, the guys she'll attract will be the ones that don't care that she's not so tiny, but like her because she's having fun and is confident

    so i say, fuck the guys that are size-obsessed, have fun and feel hot in the skin you're in, you'll find a guy who loves you for you ;)

    • You know what? Don't let it bother you! If you feel healthy and are taking care of yourself you are beautiful no matter what "society" says. Every girl and guy and some type of beauty! So, I say just live life, stay healthy and I assure you that you will find someone who will love you no matter what. Keep your head up! You are beautiful. :)

    • To siscarface: no wonder your single! your outlook on women makes you undesirable! and plus iam a big girl and I have a hot guy as you would put it who loves me for the way iam! not my body! >:( so screw you and your opinions because your so damn ignorant!

    • U sound soo ignorant!

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  • My 3rd girlfriend, and the longest relationship of my life was with a curvy girl. I deeply cared for her, but I will NEVER date another curvy woman again.


    I would lose my erection if she took off her shirt.

    I couldn't take her out salsa dancing, because she'd tire after one song. Plus it's simple physics, big girls can't spin.

    Curvy women talk a big game when in comes to libido, but it's just that. TALK. After I started dating athletic women, quantity of sex was never an issue.

    I couldn't take her hiking, and I live near the mountains =(

    Curvy girls are just as difficult to seduce as busty petite women. If I'm going to be rejected, I'd rather it come from someone I'd attracted to.

  • I absolutely love fat girls. Curvy girls are good but the further it hangs over ther jeans waistline the better! I am in a relationship at the moment with a slightly curvy girl but I think I want to get out because she doesn't enjoy my company enoug :( but I really like bigger girls. Hope that helped.

  • Personally I much prefer bigger girls for multiple reasons.

    1) They don't act like they are God's gift to the world, they much more grounded, less maintenace

    2) I much prefer curves, and bigger girls having much better shape to their body

    3) they are much more confident (in my expierence) and have learned to love themselves, which is a lot better because they won't annoy you with stupid questions about how they look, because your relationship is more than that, looks are a minimal part of the relationship

  • i have a phobia for skinny girls!lol!i've always had larger girlfriends,and I don't find skinny girls that enjoyable.

    i think a softer,full figured is so much more pleasant than some skinny chick:D

  • Thick girls are the best kind. They are much sexier than skinny/normal weight girls.

  • D:

    I don't think, I know I'm better than fat people(In terms of fitness and health) I'm overweight with a body fat percentage of 9%. Fat is a relative term, I consider a man fat when his body fat percentage is 22%(+). I consider a woman fat when her body fat percentage is 28%(+).

    These stand regardless of your weight, 100 pounds or 300 pounds. Fat people have no excuse for being fat, genetics? What a pity. I would never date a fat female. I advise against dating fat people, we can't have them breeding. It's this thing called natural selection, let the weak die off. I do not feel disgusted by fat people, unless of course I see one half naked at the beach or something. Fat people have it way too easy, they're potentially lazy, they eat excessively and it turns into absolute waste(Fat), yet they are completely accepted in today's society. People with very high metabolisms like myself have it much harder. They will tend to be skinny or even underweight at an average calorie consumption rate, take into consideration how much harder it is to obtain pure muscle rather than fat people just cutting some calories and doing a bit of cardio. You may be thinking, "It's hard to gain pure muscle?" Yes, in fact practically impossible since after you gain so much muscle you will also gain fat. So in order for a skinny person to get a nice physique a fat person could doing some cardio. They have to do several bulking and cutting phases, where you eat a lot of a good diet and work out, lifting heavy weights. Then you have to cut down your body fat with cardio, and repeat until your at a desired weight and body fat. While a 250 pound fat man can limit his workout routine to one cutting phase, until he hits 180 or whatever he wants to be while getting a desirable physique. Fat people are immoral.

    • Would you Consider me Fat I am 5'1 and 165 pounds. I don't even eat lunch or breakfast I only eat dinner. but all the guys think I am unappeal what do you think

    • "Fat people have it way too easy, they're potentially lazy, they eat excessively and it turns into absolute waste(Fat), yet they are completely accepted in today's society"

      Oh really? Seriously? They are completely accepted in today's society?

      I'm gonna speak the truth here. I'm overweight, by good reason but I won't waste time telling you.

      Throughout my entire childhood, I have been bullied. EVERY SINGLE DAY.

      How the hell, 'scuse my language, is that being accepted? You don't have it hard.


  • Honestly, I believe in taking care of your body. If a girl is overweight or has big love handles or a gut that overhangs her pants, then she isn't taking care of herself. I don't think it is attractive at all. When I put my arm around a girl, I want to feel her back, not her fat.

  • Chubby girlz are the best more to hug in my case, even if they are alittle overweight or curvy turns most guyz on chance are if your curvy or fat chubby wateva you will find a good man :)

    i myself would love 2 find a BBW or chubby round girl its so much betta than a twig so don't worry being overweight is great ! :)

    • Would you date me I am 165 pounds and 5'1 and most guys wouoldnt date me because they say I am fat

  • Aite I hate these types of questions.. let's all be "real" here.. blame it on our social norms, or that we have been brainwashed to think this way because of how our media portrays men and women, but come on.. girls are such f'ing hypocrites.. I mean calling a guy "shallow" cause he is more attracted to a healthy, fit looking female is bullsh*t. So you're telling me if a tall, good looking, fit guy was walking down the street and his fat shorter buddy was walking along with him and they both had their shirts off you would check them both out equally? So none of you girls would think ewww that fat one should keep his shirt on, no one wants to see those dough rolls spewing out like that. PLEASEEE. The fact of the matter is, if you eat right, exercise and you're overall a healthy person, your body will reflect that. Fat girls and guys look the way they do because they are generally unhealthy, lazy, and over eat. Listen if you have bad genetics and do your best but can't keep the weight off, that is unfortunate and I feel for you. The media does portray beauty as the skinnier the better, but reality is you don't have to be model stick anorexic skinny for guys to be attracted to you, so stop blaming the freaking media, you're fat and guys don't want you because being fat usually, USUALLY is self inflicted, get off your ass, stop eating junk food every meal, and EXERCISE. Granted, if you are fat and view yourself as beautiful and love who you are in your own skin, that is wonderful and no one should judge you for that. BUT if you are one of those fat girls who can't get laid and it is because you are fat.. and you don't get why the majority of guys don't go for you. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, I have a friend who is like that and she has to cry every time she gets drunk and we're at a club cause she doesn't get attention from any guys. You know what? Her sister is stick skinny and has a banging body, don't blame genetics. Her sister is healthy, exercises and watches what she eats, guess who doesn't? I'm just being honest here, there is no phobia towards fat girls, some guys love them, most don't. If you're one of those fat girls that always bitch about how fat girls don't get enough love, please stop bitching and do something about it.

  • first of the word "fat" is used way to losely in this conversation.. or even over weight.. I am with this one girl right now.. and she's not skinny like some of her friends she's defffinately not fat .. she's just a little bit bigger.. I don't even notice she is perfect to me.. and I love her.. I would deffinately have to agree on the preference .. guys all think differently .. I've never been over weight and I've grown up with all typed of girls trying to be with me.. but she's the only one who could ever make me as happy as I am.. SO to wrap it up.. theyre will always be those sterio type douche bagg guys who are obsessed with media today and the ideal girl.. and theyres also those guys who look for all around beauty .. girls don't settle for less then you deserve because with time.. your prfect guy will come

  • I picked choice C, but its not like I wouldn't go out with a girl if they have a little extra weight. I would just prefer skinnier girls. It really doesn't make that much of a difference to me though, as long as your not obese.

  • Just a lotta social conditioning... nothing wrong with a fat girl- I have dated a few of them- I'm currently in a relationship with one. I like a fat girl because they are usually themselves, and they a realer than most petite/skinny chicks.. not saying all skinny gals are pretentious/shallow, but from what I've seen, fat girls are more understanding...

  • Skinny girls are hot and sexy. the big boobs to the flat stomach ratio is what's hot. If you've got big boobs, but your stomach sticks out a ways too, that's not attractive. It also means your arms are bigger and flabby and you've got cellulite on your legs and butt. None of this is good. She doesn't have to be twig skinny, but not too big either. You can probably say that if there's no cellulite anywhere on your body, your good.

    Why don't girls like fat guys? Because nice pecs and chizzled abs are a lot sexier.

    • holy f*** your a a bit of a d***head,

    • You're a dick. All girls have cellulite.

    • I agree with the attractiveness issue in a way, but I didn't know cellulite was such a big deal. my aunt is super skinny and has never been fat, but she has cellulite on the backs of her thighs. Personally I've never been attracted to muscular men. I like a guy with some meat on him.

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  • I hear a lot more guys say "Not a chance, she's too skinny" than "She's too fat." My opinion doesn't count; I'm really skinny and it's actually kind of embarrassing being physical with a girl who makes me feel ridiculously skinny (which I am). And even I appreciate a girl having curves. Maybe you're around the wrong kind of guys, hang out in a different town or scene and you might be amazed.

  • I think the curvy girls you're talking about aren't curvy in a guys eyes, they're "fat". Curvy girls have weight, but if it folds over the waist on the jeans, then the line is drawn I think.

  • It's a mix of things, I think. Certain foods affect the health, so when a person is overweight they're also sometimes suffering from oily skin, acne, bad breath, odd skin tones (unless they're exposed to the sun a lot). They're lethargic, irritable, and generally not very fun to be around. The degree to which people exhibit these symptoms varies, but you'll generally see a difference in the personality of "average" people when compared to those who are "fat".

    When they know they're a bit overweight they're not as outgoing, they doubt themselves. Just like a person who has crooked teeth doesn't like to smile very often, they let a physical trait determine how they act in every situation. Fat girls also often have emotional baggage.

    When a girl is confident in who she is and her weight problem isn't followed with malnutrition (lots of fatty foods, very few vitamins and minerals) she'll look healthy - even if she does have a few extra pounds- and happy. That can be sexy.

  • Well, I have answered the same way in several other questions, but I will answer again. My girlfriend was about 50 pounds overweight when I met her, but she has the most beautiful face, smile and personality, so I fell in love with her. Over the last 6 months or so, she has lost about 30 pounds and still would like to lose about 30 more, but I know that I will always love her for her even though she was really overweight when we met. I fell in love with her, not her weight. However, I found her to be beautiful inside and didn't mind the extra pounds!

  • I believe that it is human nature to be attracted to what is considered average or normal. Since being overweight is not considered normal, people naturally are not as attracted to it.

  • a curvy chick is ok as long as she's not a russian tank or looks like an aircraft carrier but curvy or as we hispanic guys call it" girls with nice masita" is a good thing because I for one hate a bag of bones or too much cushion for the pushin, but a little masita has never hurt anyone right guys?

    • Haaaaaa!!!!!!

    • Anything less is uncivilized

    • You're from nicaragua, aren't you? :P

  • 1) I have been around big women all of my life, so it's not a problem.

    2) I've said it before, and I'll say it a million more times: As long as she's is healthy, who cares?

    3) It's complicated to answer. There is a play called "Fat Pig" that discusses this subject. It's actually really good and makes you question yourself and your integrity.

    • Ok thanks

    • Maybe. I was reading bits of it in Barnes & Noble.

    • Can I find that play anywhere on the net?

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