I love girls ♥ but there are many different and unique types of girls. Some of them I like more, some of them less and some of them not at all.
This Mytake is continued from my previous Mytake How I Turned From Being Bitter and Resentful Toward Girls Into a Philogynist.
If you haven't read it yet or do not plan to read it, no worries, you're not missing anything relevant in this Mytake. Both Mytakes however are story-related and the previous take provides an insight to the person I once was in comparison to the person I am right now.
And as always this only applies to me as an individual. Some guys and girls may find crossovers in these and some may not. Nevertheless in no particular order I will list the things, that I am looking for in a girlfriend
Her personal health, well-being and safety
I have a thing when a girl is healthy, well rested and happy. This is the sweet spot I have.
This girl does not smoke at all! She does not drink alcohol in excess. She does not get wasted late at nightclubs and she barely risks her own health. Meaning she takes care of herself and looks after herself. She maintains her personal health and well being. She gets a good amount of necessary and underrated sleep.
She has no self-destructive behaviors.
I also want her to be safe! Her personal safety is very important to me.
A healthy girl makes me melt so much ♥ ♥ ♥ I cannot resist a healthy looking girl =) ♥ ♥ ♥
But health on it's own does not suffice.
I also for myself am not a smoker or consumer of alcohol and especially not the type to party at nightclubs and getting wasted. I also am taking health and safety and well-being into consideration in most seriousness. Self destructive behavior doesn't bring me anywhere closer - if anything - it distances me from everything.
She does not care about my money, she likes me for who I am
She couldn't care less about my bank's balance because she does not define relationships by how much money I have.
She likes me for who I am and she will not try to change me unless I approve of it or she attempts to help me in any way.
I love it when girls don't care about money when it comes to finding true love ♥
Dates don't have to be costly.
Pardon. I will stop talking about money :/
She wants our relationship to be fun and exciting and romantic and beautiful and...
Generally positive times. Need I say more?
She isn't in a relationship with me so she can nag and whine at me about how stuff sucks. HOWEVER there is a fine line between letting feelings out and expressing them vs constantly bitching and making her proximity an area to repel away from.
She wants fun and joy with me. She wants to make the time worth it. She wants the experiences with me to be memorable and adorable. And she knows she definitely won't get those if she is being clingy and obsessive and controlling and constantly complaining. I sure don't like that.
Even if she is just being with me, that suffices for me as spending quality time with her. We can cook together, do laundry together, read something together, watch something together, play something together and much more. As long as I am spending time with her, I am content ♥
Time is precious! We'll want to make it worthwhile and memorable, not a fight. ♥
And as time is precious so is our limited youth.
She wants the relationship to work and she puts her effort in it too
If there is a problem, we solve it. Together. In a calm state and there is no need to become a siren and scream throughout the building until my ears ring and the window glasses break.
If we face rough times, we go through it. Together. She remains loyal and she won't betray me for anything. I am hers and she is mine =) ♥
Occasionally when we plan something we have our ideas. We both have the same rights and the same boundaries. She doesn't rely on me to take care of everything in the relationship and sometimes suggests her own date plans. To say it short: We both make the relationship work and healthy. ♥
She is intelligent
Frankly that doesn't mean she should know algebra because she knows, that it won't come to real world uses (like many say so).
That means she is generally a smart girl. She does not play mind games ever because that's stupid.
She has an open mind and is not entitled, that everything she say's is true and anything different from hers is wrong. She can have her own opinion and respect the opinions of others but will never belittle those, who think differently nor judge them for it. If things are too different for her, she will agree to disagree and leave it at that and move on like a rational human being.
Intelligence and common sense is so attractive on it's own ♥
And since I am considered highly intelligent (don't ask how I measure that) I'd have to have a partner, that is ready to step into the intelligent minds or explore it.
She is deadly honest (Not to be confused with deadly serious)
She is honest and gets straight to the point. She will always speak if there is something, that she rather would hide and feel uncomfortable about it. Communication is the key!
She can expect the same from me. ♥
She is supportive and open and kind
She supports me, she is not an obstacle for my goals. Even if she does nothing, that's fine too! She is there for me when I am in time of needs and can depend on her because she is supportive. She is the one I can open up and show my true feelings.
Likewise for her she can depend on me and rely on me if she is in time of needs. She can let out her true feelings and emotions with me. I would be glad and willing to be there for her =) ♥
She unconditionally loves me and want's to be part of my life and want's her share of our relationship
Not any less important than being healthy, she want's me and want's to become part of my (positive) life. And vice versa.
What exactly that means is, that she loves having lovely and romantic times and she loves hugs and cuddles and she also loves having sex with me AND she loves to have *PLENTY* of hot and sexy sex :) ♥
She respects and trusts me
Another crucial foundation is respect and trust. She will understand when I need my personal space and respects it and she trust me.
Love cannot be found without these things ♥ It goes both ways!
She respects my hobbies and interests and likewise I respect her interests and hobbies.
She is her true self
As much as I care for her own well being I desire her to be herself, not some fake she pretends to be.
She has her own interests, her own hobbies, her own pursuits, her own times and her own everything.
I would love her for who and what she is :) ♥
She is positive and calm
You know... She is not the kind that easily freaks out like crazy about every little detail or starts causing any sort of unnecessary disharmony and drama.
I love it calm and the environment we are in in all harmony ♥
It's for the both of us to remain in an environment, that we rather would not leave gladly.
Random/Unexpected, lovely surprises or acts
I like it if she comes to surprise me with positive energy. ♥
Or if she decides to spontaneous lean onto me or hug me and place her hand on my chest and my back :)
She can also come up with a little bold ideas of her own with the intention to surprise me or have excitement and fun (for example walking in the bathroom/shower while being naked and starts playing there with me and participates in washing).
A little treat does not hurt at all :)
I have quite some ideas how I would surprise her ;)
Compliments
Who does NOT love compliments? I do ♥
"Your veins! They look so powerful."
"Your beard is sooo manly! I like it."
"You're so unique and yourself! I like the way you are."
I would also compliment her for her own uniqueness and what makes her the most distinct snowflake of all :D ♥
Her lovely smile
Seriously this smile of hers is sooo cute :3 It's almost hypnotizing and melting me ♥ ♥ ♥
It makes me know, that she likes/loves to be around me :) ♥
I can't stop looking at that *o*
So...
With the qualities above, that girl makes herself to me DESIRABLE and IRRESISTIBLE and I would be proud to have such one!
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