When I was 21 I was totally in love with a guy who was 30. We dated for a little while but he was a little bitch and couldn't get over the fact that we were 9 years apart. Completely broke my heart ):
So you're lucky that you guys are actually involved in a great relationship. As long as you're happy together, I wouldn't let anyone's opinion come between you. You are at different points in your life but love is hard to come by and you're fully capable of making the decision of who you want to spend your time with.
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When I was your age it was attracted to men of that age. A more mentally mature woman will be attracted to men, not boys, and so many guys don't actually mature until they get to their 30+. You do what makes you happy and let your mother find her own way of coming to terms with it. If you really do love each other age won't make a difference.
It's pretty weird I'm not going to lie. What makes it different is that you two are at different point in your lives. It's just really really different. If it's love well he'll go at it, but it's kind of creepy that a guy that old is going for a girl like you.
My parents are 10.5 years apart and just hit their 49th Anniversary. I have dated close to your range (9 yrs). Further, if you feel comfortable and you feel happy with this man/he treats you well and he pushes you to succeed in your life than that is what matters and anyone who claims to care about you should be ecstatic due to it.
Well if you were 30 and he 44 there would be less frowns but the gap would be the same. The issue is what your mindsets are. I would say the mindset of a 20 yr old is completely different to a 34 yr old but that is a generalisation. Its a little weird but not bad.
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Your mother is just worried that the age difference is too great and your beliefs on relationships, marriage, etc will be too different.
However, it can work, so don't worry too much about it.It's not "bad." You are both adults and can date who you want. If you are compatible and love each other, that's all that matters.
It's neither weird or bad, that's just society trying to force you into their standards. There's nothing wrong with loving who you love :)
Age is just a number. If you're happy with him, then stay with him.
I'm 22 and he's 34 so no its not weird as long as your over age it's not a problem. if he's treating you right and you love him that's all that matters. live life, be happy good luck in your relationship 😊
I think there is definitely a moral issue to age difference in romantic relationships and in particularly as regards marriage.
At what difference exactly it becomes a problem, I couldn't say. Twenty is pretty young though..."There is a voice inside of you that whispers all day long 'I feel that this is right for me, I know that this is wrong.' No teacher, preacher, parent, friend or wise man can decide what's right for you, just listen to the voice that speaks inside." --Shel Silverstein. This is simple. Stop thinking.. do you FEEL that this is wrong or bad for you? Do you FEELthat it's right? Indifferent is wrong for love, and there's another poem for that
Rule of thumb for age difference dating:
(age/2) +7
So the guy is 34 therefore;
34/2 + 7 = 24 years and up
You are 4 years younger than his minimum age requirement. Sorry to say that it probably won't last.If you are on the same mental stage and connected age doesn't matter!! ;)
My friend guy is 22 is Girl Friend is 40 they have been living together for 2 years so far
You are old enough it doesn't matter. If your 20 you are most likely mature enough to make your own decisions so do what you want.
Nothing wrong with that but I'm 35 and would date a girl your age lol
Yeah it may be looked down upon by some but it's not inherently wrong.
depends, its likely to not work out statistically but people beat the statistics everyday
There is no such thing as a stupid question
Ok I lied
There isMy parents have a 13 year gap. Its not for everyone, but if it works for you its all good :)
Nope. Not if it's working for the both of you.
No. FIller goes here.
Nothing wrong with it.
Young guys are hotter than old man don't you think
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