For the women. My ex girlfriend said she still loves me and cares for me but I need to relax around her?

[moughal]

me and my ex have split up for 1 month now and we work together and get on really well like as we where going out with each other.but she told me she still loves me to b with anyone else and cares for me too much and she knows I love her so much and I would get her back any day but I don't know what to do .does she want to get back together should I wait for her?help.hopefully you ladies can answer my question because I think woman will really understand thank you

[bobair]

Fetale might be onto something there...

If you're being over-interested it'll creep out some girls. Some girls just want to expereince a relationship as it happens.

We guys are different because we're analytical - we want timelines, deadlines, structure, and solved puzzles.

It's a mistake to think of your relationship with her in any type of defined way.

What's worse?

Spending time with a beautiful girl, but not knowing where it's going (uneasy.)

Or

Not spending time with a beautiful girl but knowing exactly where it's going (Nowhere.)

If I were you I'd STOP worrying about getting back together, or dating, etc. Instead you should just be happy especially when she's around.

I'll even go so far as to say this: If you desire to kiss her, then do. If you want to hold her hand, then take it. If you want to hang out with her like she's your girlfriend, then just do it.

Stop wasting time asking for permission for these simple things, and stop trying to define everything. Women respond to who you're being, not to labels or definitions.

Best of luck man!

~ Robby

www.FULLofHATEandREADYtoDATE.com ( link )

[moughal]

Thank you very much that was very helpful mate.she came in to work tday but she has trainin somewhere else so I just caught her when she was leavin.she lukd ill so I asked her if she's ok she said she is then I gave her a big hug that lasted about 15,20 seconds and I said to her I miss you and held her tight like I always do then gave her a kiss on her shoulder twice she just laughed a bit one of those that's sweet laughs then she went.

[bobair]

Being sincere is best with women, just be careful not to smother her with your affection. Don't emotionally lean into her unless she's already leaning into you. Be fun, playful and flirty, but always be leaning away... this gives her the space to lean into you. It's the "gift" of missing you.

[moughal]

Thanks alot.shes just the ype where she's strong mentaly and looks like she dsnt need anythink from me but she does.i text her gud nite evry nite she told her friend when I stopped texting her gud nite now I do again.ill try mu hardest will b so so hard even tho its been a month I'm still the same.

[bobair]

That's great. Remember... let her text you first, let her call you first, let her lean into you first. Let her be slightly more needy than you. This is very important. This is how you can keep her interested, happy and always thinking about you. This helps you stay a mystery, fun, and a bit of a challenge. Good luck Bro.

[TaurusFemmeFatale]

She feels that you're a great guy, but perhaps you're probably way too INTENSE. I think you entered the relationship, over-analyzing every aspect of it, marriage, children, and etc. This can be a bit overwhelming for some women...because now we are faced with all these high expectations we may not be able to live up to. You reall y DO need to relax. Spend some time living in the moment instead, just be her boyfriend, and keep it simple. You're between the ages of 18-24, you're way too young to be this uptight! If you want her back. Loosen up a little. Give her some space. Let her come to you. And when she does, just enjoy being young and have some fun with her...Life is too short!

I hope this helps. Good Luck!

[moughal]

U are so right.we did talk about marriage,children etc.she already has a child I'm 18 and she's 26.i do need to relax , just love her so soo soo much it hurts its been a month weve broken up but I'm still hurtin realy badly but she luks like she's feelin better but she's got her daughter there to keep her company.but she has told our mutual friend she misses me and asked her what I say about her which I always say I love you and I'm waitin for you always.we did rush into things a bit too much.

[lapeters]

I think that she doesn't know what she wants. It seems as though she likes you, but not in the way that she wants you. She loves you as if you were family. I've been in the situation before. I wouldn't get your hopes up, but then again, maybe you should talk to her about it. Ask her if she would ever want to be together again.

[moughal]

I did ask her last week are we totaly over ?rite?she didn't reply to my text.but yesterday was my last day at work she wore my hoody and said hello but I ignored her the hole day so she left without sayin goobye so I wrote her a letter but then later yesterday my friends told me what she's been sayin about me in spain behind my bak so I foned her and just said sum bad things to her so she's gone 4eva now.she had trainin tday and our mutual friend told me she lukd upset

[Roshell2009]

It sounds like she just needs time to sort her emotions. Try not to act like her guy when you are together. I know it will be difficult because you love her, but just try.

She says she loves you, that gives you hope, so just be paient, I'm sure all will be ok.

Good Luck

[moughal]

Thanks a lot .iv been distance since like hvnt talked to her really that much which got her angry and she shouted at me and said don't moan to me later cus we didn't talk I just kept quite.i told her my weird shiness is cumin bak which makes me not talk to her or even luk at her.but I'm just waitin to c what happens now.thanks alot

[sherry84]

y did you break up in the first place?

[moughal]

She just said if I stayed with her it would of been worse.she said she hurted me too much so she fot she shud set me free.she fot I deserved better