Assuming you really are fat, then he doesn't sound unreasonable at all. He would like for you to do something, so he has told you what he wants. That is normal healthy communication. It doesn't sound like he is trying to hurt you. Sometimes you have to be able to talk about unpleasant things to your partner. It doesn't even sound like he is being rude about it.
You are sounding overly sensitive for thinking about letting such a small matter destroy your relationship. If you would dump him over something like this, then you must not give a shit about your boyfriend. Even if you found a man that didn't ask you to lose weight, secretly he would be hoping you would. That is just a fact you are going to need to learn to come to terms with. You should be thankful you found a man that is confident enough in your relationship to be honest with you.
If he is also fat, and unwilling to put in any effort on his part, or calling you names trying to hurt you, then I could understand you being upset. However if him politely asking you to lose weight is the biggest problem your relationship has, then you are really blessed. If you don't learn to work out the small stuff, then you are going to end up dying alone.
Remember his position when he has to talk to you about this.
You are meant to be able to confide in him. Therefore, he tells you his honest preference.
This does not change the fact that he loves you for who you are. A preference is something that a person would enjoy. It is not necessary to satisfying them - which is what you likely want to do to his desires, if you love him, and what he likely wishes you to do to him, so that he can trust in your love to him.
He loves you. For who you are. And he would appreciate your thin body. And he is satisfied by everything your body is right now.
Got it? Now let your man do whatever it is you love of him for you, and when you have one day gathered the willpower, tackle your objective.
Yes. I would try and work out WITH him. That way it would keep me motivated and healthy as well. Whether you want to be with him or not it is your decision since we ONLY know that he wants you to lose weight. We don't know any other things about you two.
If it really got to you and if your feelings are hurt you need to talk to him about it.
BUT i personally think that if i'm overweigt and my boyfriend sincerely care about my health that asks me to lose weight, then i would think it is really sweet and i would try to lose weight.
If he was being nice about it, DON'T take offense to it. Maybe he just cares about and want you to be healthy. He's being honest with you by the sound of it. There's nothing weong with that. He's your partner after all :)
Did he say to lose weight to look good? or because he cares for your health?
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he's a liar basically!!! if he liked your body then he'd not mind about your weigt if he actully loved your body... ;-)
Well if he sounds mean then yeah but if he just cares about u then maybe he just wants u to be healthy. He wouldn't be with u if he didn't love u
Well he's not the guy for you if he's making you lose weight that's a big no Hun if he's the right guy he'll love you for you
He sounds like he cares about your health.
How long have you been with him?
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