My girlfriend said she's "too comfortable with me"?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year and a month now and when we first got together it was great, we had sex all the time and it was ever so mysterious but recently we just don't do it as often as we used to and I'm beginning to wonder why, so I asked her if she's not feeling as sexy as she used to, or if something was wrong, if she was feeling guilty about something she's done, she answered no and said it was just because she's "too comfortable" with me now. And it seems like if she doesn't want to have sex we don't do it regardless of how bad I'm wanting it. She just seems cut off from me sexually and I need help reviving the sex life we both use to share

[mychelle]

My first thought would never approach your girlfriend asking her if she feels guilty for doing something that she shouldn't of. This in my mind, shows a complete and utter lack of respect towards her. This is going to open you up to some hellfire accusations.

Her being too comfortable could entirely be because you aren't working with her to draw out her sexiness. Complements, kind words, just paying attention to her is important. Once she understands/feels that you are very much attracted to her and she can feel open and safe with you... then I do believe that your intimate life will revive!

Good luck!

[Asker]

I do open my ears and listen, I compliment her all the time she's the love of my life and the most beautiful woman I ever laid my eyes on. I just hope she's not distancing her from me sexually because she's gettin more attracted to doing it with somebody else.

[mychelle]

Then the communication piece really would come into play even more in this situation. It is imperative to talk to her, let her know how you are feeling without making the conversation feel like you are accusing her of anything.

[Asker]

But how do I bring it up without making her feel like I'm accusing her of something

[mychelle]

If I were in your shoes, I would simply call or text her saying that you want to talk when she has some free time. Then just tell her, as if you were reflecting on holder times, that you want to know how to get both of you back to when you thought things were going well between the two of you. Hopefully, she will be comfortable enough at the time to open up and tell you what is going on in her mind.

[MissMinaaaa]

I see how you kept asking her what she is/isn't feeling. Obviously she's going to notice that you notices things are going downhill. Knowing that you noticed, she wouldn't want to offend you, so she could be careful with her words. In my opinion, that's her way of getting bored with you.

[Anonymous]

Walk around your house naked like it's casual.