My girlfriend wants me to stop drinking?

[cervantes27]

I've been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years she is in AA and NA. I don't drink a lot i dont get drunk i always drink resonsablely but i have a big family and they are big socal drinkers and and so am i. i just feel like she is asking me to change and settle down. our relationship is very strong we don't have fights or aruge much even when we do we make jokes and meet half way i really don't want to hurt her since i know she has been with a lot of jerks in the past i just don't know what to do?

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it's more like she wants me to stop drinking 100%

[yosimitesam]

I'm 11 years sober and I dated a woman from AA who couldn't get 10 feet near alcohol without freaking out. I, on the other hand, accept my situation as something I am just better off without, but that doesn't mean others, who don't get out of control with it should not enjoy just because I don't drink.

I liken it to being allergic to poison ivy. I can't get near it, while some people can wipe their asses with it and be fine; just like I really shouldn't drink, but other people can do so responsibly.

If you were getting drunk and belligerent, and had to always go out to drink or bring booze home, that would be one thing, but based on what you described, you'd be fine to me. I did break up with a girl because I felt she had a drinking problem (as she always was buzzed on vodka every night I talked to her and had to have it with her when she visited me, making her a bit rude at times) but I also have had girlfriends that can drink a glass of wine or have a beer and go on about their evenings without making it an issue.

She's an alcoholic and you're not. If it's important to her to not be around alcohol at all, I understand, but you shouldn't get an ultimatum just for having a drink or two, since you have no history or signs of being an alcoholic.

Like another poster mentioned, perhaps there can be some compromise, but as long as you continue to demonstrate the difference between being with an alcoholic and someone that does not have a problem, I think she'll be okay.

[Theguyoverthere]

I think a safe agreement would be to only drink away from her and to not be drunk or buzzed around her. While it may seem annoying to do I think with her situation you'd need to work with it. If she's recovering she needs to be away from alcohol 100% and not have any near her at all.

[BellePepper]

Is there a compromise or halfway mark you can both work toward? What if you just don't drink at home or when you're around her?

[bryon]

I agree a responsible drinker is not a big thing , but for someone who is trying to stay on the wagon ( so to speak ) the temptation is magnified if the see or are around others that do. I got off the sauce almost a year ago ( on my own ) and it is still a temptation when I am around those that do , until one of them turns red neck ; that usually set me at ease about my sobriety