My boyfriend promise that he would stop drinking and smoking. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I just want him to have a positive mind and be healthy. But it seem he keeps falling back in the same patterns. How can I be a good girlfriend by helping him?

[UberTroll]

Don't ask him to make promises he can't keep. He should know better than to promise that kind of thing but you also shouldn't ask someone give something up for you. People do what they want and if he doesn't want to stop drinking or smoking himself then he won't. The most you're likely to get is that he will just try to hide his drinking and smoking from you. Just tell him that you want him to be healthy and you don't like to see him damage his health and you would love to see him give them up, but don't ask him to promise anything.

What kind of drugs does he even do and do they cause a problem in his life? Depending on what it is and how it affects his life, it might not even be a problem. I would only bring it up with him if it is a problem. If in the end he won't give it up and you don't want to date someone who drinks or does drugs then you should just move on.

[Asker]

He smokes weed and drinks liquor, beer, the heavy stuff. He be taking shots

[UberTroll]

How often does he drink? How does it affect him? Does he still keep up with his responsibilities?

[Asker]

He drinks on the Thursday and the weekend&sometimes on weekdays. It affects his behavior and mood. Nope he just wanna sleep all day

[Alicietta]

Try not to judge or pressure him too much and be encouraging and supportive. A lot of times people trying to quit relapse.

[Asker]

But it's becoming a problem. I just wanna help him. Even his brother told him he needs to change his lifestyle