You're wrong and she's right to break up with you. If you're threatening to punch her friend for slapping you which is NOT a threat to you in anyway because I'm sure you're bigger, I'm sure that your girlfriend is thinking that you would knock her out in the same instance.
I wouldn't want to be with you either.
... LMAO. "Defend"? Self-defense is only applicable when you're THREATENED. She didn't have a knife, gun, flamethrower, or anything. I'm thinking you're bigger and stronger than this woman as well. To me, it would be like a 12 year old kid punching an 8 year old... not fair at all.
Both A and C. You remind me of my father who instead of walking away from someone irrational, you had to threaten a close member (someone's best friend can also be considered a family member) about doing more damage and it's not even in total self-defense.
So you don't think it's just with female I'm referring to, I wouldn't even be ok if a boyfriend punched my father either. In fact, I would also break up if a boyfriend threatened to hit or actually hits a male member too. Last thing I need is a replica of my father, a trouble maker.
Her slapping you, not okay. At all, and I would be furious with a friend of mine for slapping my significant other (though those that I consider my best friends would never raise a hand to someone, so yeah it's pretty relative from situation to situation).
However, threatening to punch someone? Like actually punch someone? That is not self defense: self defense is about protecting yourself and removing yourself from a dangerous situation. That is escalating the violence into a whole other category. It also may demonstrate to your ex girlfriend that this means that if the two of you were to get into a fight in the future, you would physically harm her. I would definitely be inclined to bow out of a relationship. Being with someone who would hit another out of anger? I wouldn't feel safe and would want to leave.
Your ex's feeling of safety was harmed the moment you threatened her friend, regardless of whether or not her friend was in the right or wrong. Your reaction spoke volumes
Here is what some females don't seem to understand: if you hit someone, you better be prepared to get hit back. It is NOT okay that she put her hands on you. If you had done the same to her, she would have you hauled in for assault and battery and everyone would be patting her back and shaking their heads at how horrible men are to women. I loathe the double standard, which is especially hypocritical in the face of the "strong, independent woman" movement. Don't like gender "inequality"? Then get ready to fight... like a man.
Your both wrong, violence is never the answer. She shouldn't have slapped you, just because she is a girl does not give her the right to hit you without any consequences. You should only git a girl if it truly is for defense. If anything you should have been the bigger person and not have threatened her. I feel your better off without her though. If this is how she is going to handle problems then you deserve better. 40% of domestic violence is suffered by men, so don't let yourself be a victim nor be the abuser.
" So it is perfectly fine for some bitch to slap a man without a good reason and a man can't even defend himself?"
I don't think it's okay for women to slap men. If I was in this situation, I would seriously consider ending my friendship as well.
But punching someone who slapped you isn't self-defense, it's retaliation and escalation.
It was not okay for her to slap you but you cannot return a slap with a threat of a punch, you're just escalating the violence.
She probably shouldn't have broken up with you, if that was the only reason, if it was then she should not be friends with the girl either because it's the same thing and she started the violence.
You were both wrong. Her for slapping you & you for threatening her.
Both of you were wrong. She shouldn't have slapped you and you shouldn't have threatened to punch her. If I was your girlfriend I would be mad at the both you depending on what happened.
I guess your girlfriend is completely anti-violence since she broke up with you for that :/ did she break up with her friend too?
umm.. why am i the only one who think your girlfriend was wrong to breakup with you? seriously? i am the ONLY one?
I think she is wrong. I mean you didn't actually hit her. If someone slapped me i'd be mad enough to say some pretty horrible stuff I'm sure.
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