You cannot under any circumstances and I mean ANY help him unless he is willing to help himself. people who say love cures all probably haven't been in love with an addict. I'm a recovering
Addict (alcohol and heroin) and so is my boyfriend. It's a long journey, and just because you can't get your loved one to stop using doesn't mean that they don't love you. It's a very selfish illness..
He may not remember what he did... But him seeing the mark from the bottle on himself and remembering that part is classic addict behavior. You're only watching out for yourself when you're using. You only have the capacity to care for yourself as well. His mind won't let him remember what he did to you... And if you tell him he won't process it fully. Just remember: "they can't hear you when they're drunk!!!" No matter what you do or say when they are in a stupor like that... It isn't bound to change anything. Drunks get on a one track mind set and tend to obsess and iternelize things that are bothering them.. Not letting up. He got violent. It's likely to get worse if he doesn't lay off the booze. It is also likely that he has an underlying mood disorder he is self medicating for as most addicts do. But just because he does doesn't mean you have to stick around!
"He's nice when he's sober. He's my everything when he's sober" but if he drinks every night darling these sober moments you have with him are going to become fewer and farther inbetween. They aren't very common now! He won't know how he affects you until he gets help and gets sober, or you leave and he gets help and gets sober. There's no inbetween unfortunately.. Unless you want to be an enabler which is chaotic and stressful on your own life as well as his.
Take it from a gal that's been around the block with this most of her life.. If he isn't willing to get help and work on himself to improve the quality of his life.. A relationship with him isn't likely worth it. Most alcoholics are great people underneath it all. They are smart, charming, sensitive... But they aren't showing you any of these qualities while they are using. You aren't dating him but the bottle while he's using.
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If I were you I'd make sure he gets help. Maybe AA or rehab, not sure what people do in those situations. But if he doesn't want to, than I'd leave him.
I'd leave him the instant he threw that bottle. You need to keep your own life safe before you worry about his. Leave him.
Maybe try and fight get him to go to an AA meeting let him know u r scared when he is drunk and say if he dosn't get better u will have to leave if he dose grate if not u dont deserve this it will only get worse an if u get a kid that is just a bad place to grow up in trust me
Yes if he is getting help and serious about tackling his addiction... no if he is in denial about his problem.
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If he's getting help and means it then yes I would, but if he slides away then, I would rethink my options
Should you stay with a violent drunk?
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