I never have trouble like this before because it's my first time in a common law relationship. First, I have to say he already changed some of his dirty habits but there's some stuff that still makes me feel disgusted.
Shower- He showers once in two days and sometimes once in 3 days. He thinks that if showers during the day time, he doesn't need to shower again even if he sweat all day at the gym, went to the beach, or got dirty from work. He believes that there is no need to shower again because he showered in the morning. I find it really gross because you hop to bed with those germs and bacteria. He always just gets home, sit around for hours and end up too tired to shower. The thing is, I don't even want to touch him because I know he is really dirty from sweating all day or getting dirty from his work. I told him about it and he now showers more often because he realize that it turns me off. However, we went to the beach couple days ago, and he didn't shower even though I told him to. I went to the beach with him and when I shower, the water is literally BLACK. I told him to please shower, he got mad and told me to give him a break and he hop to bed with sand and black dirt. I was really mad.
Hands- He refuse to wash his hands if he just take a piss. He said I didn't touch anything and it's clean. I literally have to remind him to wash his hands. He also don't wash his hands after dealing with trash/garbage in our house. He would take it out, touching the garbage can (which is dirty), and then comes back and touch my face. I once gave him hand sanitzer and he literally wiped it off because he don't want it to be clean.
Teeth- He only brushes his teeth once a day and sometimes once in two days. He only brushes his teeth in the morning. He has a lot of problems with his teeth already and basically he has cavities and don't bother to fix it. So they are moulding. I told him to brush his teeth miniumum 2 times a day and he still refuse to do that.
Now, whenever we go out to the beach or heading out to do outdoor activities, I'm worried that he refuse to shower. He can deal with shit all day and not shower and hop to bed. That's why I don't like him doing things like cleaning, outdoor activies, working out, and heading to the beach because he doesn't shower after. Overall, he thinks that I'm beling ridicoulous and overboard about his hygiene but I think that I am not. I think he's lacking basic hygiene. Am I right?
Shower- He showers once in two days and sometimes once in 3 days. He thinks that if showers during the day time, he doesn't need to shower again even if he sweat all day at the gym, went to the beach, or got dirty from work. He believes that there is no need to shower again because he showered in the morning. I find it really gross because you hop to bed with those germs and bacteria. He always just gets home, sit around for hours and end up too tired to shower. The thing is, I don't even want to touch him because I know he is really dirty from sweating all day or getting dirty from his work. I told him about it and he now showers more often because he realize that it turns me off. However, we went to the beach couple days ago, and he didn't shower even though I told him to. I went to the beach with him and when I shower, the water is literally BLACK. I told him to please shower, he got mad and told me to give him a break and he hop to bed with sand and black dirt. I was really mad.
Hands- He refuse to wash his hands if he just take a piss. He said I didn't touch anything and it's clean. I literally have to remind him to wash his hands. He also don't wash his hands after dealing with trash/garbage in our house. He would take it out, touching the garbage can (which is dirty), and then comes back and touch my face. I once gave him hand sanitzer and he literally wiped it off because he don't want it to be clean.
Teeth- He only brushes his teeth once a day and sometimes once in two days. He only brushes his teeth in the morning. He has a lot of problems with his teeth already and basically he has cavities and don't bother to fix it. So they are moulding. I told him to brush his teeth miniumum 2 times a day and he still refuse to do that.
Now, whenever we go out to the beach or heading out to do outdoor activities, I'm worried that he refuse to shower. He can deal with shit all day and not shower and hop to bed. That's why I don't like him doing things like cleaning, outdoor activies, working out, and heading to the beach because he doesn't shower after. Overall, he thinks that I'm beling ridicoulous and overboard about his hygiene but I think that I am not. I think he's lacking basic hygiene. Am I right?
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The thing is, he thinks that I'm making a big deal of something minor but this bothers me.
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