Would an eating disorder be a deal breaker for you?

[Anonymous]

If you found out your gf/bf had bulimia or anorexia, would that be a deal breaker in the relationship?

[Esplorare]

Yes. I honestly cannot stand excessive, unnecessary, avoidable drama. It irks my soul. The world is already crazy and dramatic enough so relationships are supposed to be safe havens for peace and calm. So when one of the partners has a major mental problem that they haven't addressed, it completely disrupts the ultimate chance for a peaceful and calm relationship dynamic. It's annoying to be in a relationship and not be able to function properly because one person's habits are dominated by something unhealthy. It's aggravating and frustrating when awesome, wonderful moments and experiences within the relationship are constantly altered due to one of the partner's issues. For example, say he takes you out for an amazing dinner at a 5 star restaurant and you don't want to eat. That would be annoying. Say you guys go on an awesome road trip or vacation abroad and you don't want to so much as taste the food and if you do, he has to worry about you making yourself throw up later. That takes away from what the experiences could be.

This is why it's crucial for people to resolve their issues before they enter a relationship. If they don't, there's a chance they may be burdening someone else with their unchecked problems or generally negatively impacting the relationship dynamic and taking away from the possible experiences together.

[aamina_m]

Yes. I don't expect anyone to deal with my problems and I definitely don't want to deal with something as serious as an eating disorder.

[alfonsosloan45]

No, that is my ideal because I use to be anorexic. I would love for her to be able to relate to me.

[PrincessGlitter]

No I'd try to help them as best as I could

[pharaoh_lover48118]

nope it will not