My boyfriend sent another girl a NAKED picture of himself ?!?!?!?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, so I have my boyfriends passwords to all his things (email, Facebook, MySpace, aim, msn, etc everything). We've been having some minor problems lately, the type that all boyfriend/girlfriend have, not anything to be taken too seriously. But he emailed me a naked picture to my phone but I couldn't view it on my phone and my computer wasn't working. He sent it a few times after I got my internet working again but I couldn't open it on my computer. He told me look in his email to see if I could see it. So I signed into his email and saw that he had sent another girl that same naked picture that he sent me (he sent it to her 2 days after he initially sent it to me).

He is going on vacation soon to another country and the girl to whom he sent the picture to lives there. I found that out through a little snooping. He has lied about everything, he denied it at first, he tried saying he was related to her, that he sent it by mistake, he failed to mention the girl lived in the country he's going to and instead said she lived in the US in another state. He was pulling sh*t right outta his ass trying to make up a believable story. And as I write this I am tearing and I am SO incredibly p*ssed at him for sending another girl a naked picture of himself when he is supposed to be in a committed relationship with ME. But I'm even angrier at him for lying to me OVER AND OVER AND OVER again, even when I caught him is his lies.

This is my boyfriend of a year and a half and the man that I love. He really hurt me and I just don't know what to do. I'm madly in love with him but I can't tolerate cheating or the repetitive lying.

What should I do? Guy and girl answers equally appreciated. Thanks in advance =)

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+1 y

and he has yet to give a reasonable excuse for doing it and I can't help but think he's just going on vacation to get laid and on top of all that the chick if ugly I am soo p*ssed he made me cry myself to sleep and now I have huge bags under my eyes =(

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+1 y

and guys, why? if you were in a committed relationship with a girl and you told her you loved her over and over and you really sweet, caring, and protective of her why would you cause her so much hurt? why would you send another girl a pic like that?

[Anonymous]

girl first of all...if he knew he sent that picture to another woman...what man in or out their mind would give his girl the password to the email KNOWING his woman will start to snoop...hell if my boyfriend gave me his password and I had no leads of him cheating girl I will still snoop because us being women we tend to do just that. However, him giving you the password...he must wanted you to see it...girl he ain't that stupid to do that...and his lies wasn't even straight? girl you better leave that man...but follow your heart. he did you wrong and if it happened this easy it will happen again.

[airiver]

I agree with Lonely...What's more, it takes some time to build a relationship with a person so how long has he been "chatting" with this lady? When did he make these vacation plans, etc. You may want to bail now rather than later after all this info. festers inside and hurts you more. And don't take it personal sweety, some people, male and female, are driven to cheat for their egos, etc. and just can't seem to help themselves and they are exactly the people that can't be trusted with a heart. Best of luck. Cheers!

[svon25]

i would give him an ultimatum. Ex...if you go on this trip and continue to talk to her just know I won't be here for you when you get back. If he doesn't go on the trip, you guys could probably work things out.

[aadi_7]

Miss Anonymous, it is clear that that guy is cheating you.. He is having another girlfriend which he is most probably gonna sleep wid this time. Its not the time to get angry and leave him.. Just ask him one simple question that whom does he loves more. And ask him please not to lie, else you'll leave.. If his answer is you, and you still doubt him, tell him how much you love him and you won't be able to live if he hurts you one more time.. Hope he'll understand and things will get fine..

All da best.. and Dnt worry.. Everything will be alright..

[tex151]

Why do you have all his passwords, and why are you snooping through his stuff? Is he aware that you have all his passwords and does he know your passwords? I would never never never tell a chick my passwords, I don't want her looking at all my stuff there is a thing called privacy and you women need to learn to respect it.

[Asker]

Uhh, did you even read the question? try to learn to if you didn't before poppin off

[tex151]

Ya I did and your first lines are "Ya, so I have my bfs passwords to all his things, email, Facebook, ect.. He gave you his email." And the others? Oh and then there's the part when you said you snooped. That right there violation of privacy, I guess it's his fault for actually trusting that you wouldn't snoop. That's why I never give my passwords out because well women always will snoop, so therefore why should he trust you?

[Asker]

Uhh, no try RE-READING THE QUESTION THEN ...

1st off, we have eachothers passwords - I gave him mine as well - it was his choice to give me his passwords, I didn't force him to do anything.

2nd, I only went in his email to try to view the picture he was trying to send me after HE TOLD ME TO DO SO

and 3rd, I wasn't snooping through his stuff. I snooped in finding out who the girl was

so yeahh, before giving your two cents, try reading all the facts first. THX

[Sistagirl]

Your answer indicates that you are the sort of guy that hides this sort of stuff. Yes their I privacy - personal details, bank information etc - but you should not be having private interactions with other people when you are involved with someone else. He is a cheat and once a cheat always a cheat. It's their nature unfortunately. That girl did not come on here to be told off. She wanted an answer to the question. "What should I do?" Her snooping does not justify his actions!

[tex151]

The only things that I hide from my girlfriend is my financial info. It is smart never to give out passwords what if a potential employer wanted an interview, and she didn't like the company because it was out of town or something, and deleted his email. Shit like that happens all the time. What if your friend sens you a funny email, she reads it and gets mad, it was to her it was to him so why should she get mad, once again sh*t like that happens all the time.

[LonelyJ]

Very clear to see that he is cheating on you with this other girl, right now it is not physical cheating but it will be when he goes to that country where she lives. What you should do is not be with this guy anymore. I know you say you are in love with him but he obviously didn't or doesn't care that much about your feelings by doing this. You can find a way better and nicer guy who won't do this to you and not put you through this.

[tex151]

meant to say wasn't for her it was for him.