It is because she is toxic and she is draining your emotional energy. Simply put you can't do shit if she is not doing anything to fix it. She won't get better because she has you to drain/lean on. My freind started dating a girl just like that even when three of his closest freinds told him not to. I just kept quite about it hoping that it would end quickly. Now after 6 months he is never happy and he looks like a walking zombie. She is just draining him way to much and she is never happy. She seemed happy when they first started dating but then she wrapped him around her finger and then started showing her true self. She has pushed all of his close freinds away and she still makes nasty faces at me when I say hi to them. I still don't know how she explains that to him or if he just ignores it. Your a selfless person and she is taking advantage of you. Sadly the best thing you can do for her is to start ignoring her and asking her to stop complaining cause you can't take it. If she acts out to much leave her. Or if she threatens to leave you then dump her. You can't help some one that does not want to be helped. Also she won't change her mind about you being her complaints office and sympath board. As long as you listen your her help. She does not want to get through it sadly and she knows that you won't risk hurting her so why should she change. I hate to break it to you but she will keep using you for emotional support until you snap or realize that she is toxic and is sapping your energy. There is a great reason for you being better around your freinds. They are giving you energy and attention instead of being so demanding of it.
I wish you luck with her. Talk with your freinds about this problem they will probably tell you the same thing. That your not nearly as energetic as you were before you started dating her.
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Because she is a nagger. Do what I say and watch her reaction. The moment she starts complaining, tell her to stop and that you won't tolerate it. And mean it! Simple as that. If she continues, find a girl that makes you happy.
No offence, but she sounds like a toxic person. It's fine if she vents to you, but if that's all she ever does and she never lets you vent to her it's not OK. If you want to stay with her, try to tell her politely that you don't wan't to hear her complain all the time, especially when it comes to the things you don't think are a big deal (you could just tell her you don't think it's a big deal).
Well the fact you said some of its not a big deal kinda shows you don't want to be the one she goes to. As she's probably just venting and just wants you to listen.
Maybe she's depressed as that causes the downNess
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