Boyfriend said another woman's name in his sleep. Should I be worried?
Lmao, I just can't take this very seriously. Dreams are unconscious, and there's nothing here to even talk to him about. Talk about what? He likely doesn't even know he did anything because, he was asleep.
I had a few years where I talked in my sleep, once sat up, looked at my then partner, told him not to put his face in the ashtray. Then laid right back down. Was asleep the whole time, and neither of us smoked, lmao. Just random shit.
Now, I have really terrible nightmares, and wake up like a ninja sometimes. Yes, dreams feel real. They can be vivid. And, they can even take people we are familiar with and put then in random contexts because... they are dreams. No validity whatsoever to real life.
I always kinda have to laugh when I hear this kind of question, because I know you can wake up from a dream and you feel it. Your body feels the dream as if it had been real. But, holy crap, I would have killed somebody by now if I had actually thought what happened in my dream was actually real. My guy recently woke up, flaming pissed, because he had just dreamed he had to wait two hours for a pizza. Lmao... dreams are weird as hell.
There is enough to worry about in the conscious world. Try to let your, and his brain, just sleep when you're asleep. If you have concerns about some female he knows, keep it to the real world and what's going on in it. Dont overthink what you "are pretty sure" you heard him mumble. For all you know, it was him mumbling about saving the world from aliens. Or saving you from this female. Or that this female was an alien. Etc, etc, etc.
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Is your boyfriend saying another woman's name in his sleep? Should you be worried?
There's no need to worry just yet. It could be that your boyfriend is just dreaming about someone else. Dreams are often symbolic and don't necessarily reflect reality.
That said, it's worth considering what might be going on in your relationship that could be causing your boyfriend to dream about another woman. Are you feeling neglected or unimportant? Do you have any reason to suspect he's cheating on you?
If you're concerned about your boyfriend's dream, talk to him about it. See what he has to say and see if there are any underlying issues in your relationship that you need to deal with.
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She was in his dream because he knows her, end of story. You can't control what you see in your dreams, and the faces our brain chooses are people who represent a certain role. Like your father might be the face of a court judge because he was the "decision maker" in your waking life. A co-worker is collaborator, a partner at work. Maybe he was "working" on something in his dream, and she appeared to help him.
Until you have a reason to suspect that something is going on, try not to think about it.
From a relationship coaching lens, I can tell you emphatically that society as a whole makes too much out of dreams and what comes from them. I wouldn't be worried about it. Could there be something there? Sure, but this isn't enough evidence to suggest that there is. In fact, if there was something there, he likely wouldn't be talking about her when he was awake, as you've said he had done a couple of times.
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I wouldn't worry. I have dreamt about work many times. I talk in my sleep, and I've mentioned names of people I have ZERO attraction to.
Why? Because I work with them, and I was dreaming about work.
Besides, if there was something going on, you wouldn't even know she existed. He would more than likely never mention her, as you mentioned he had.
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I don’t think so. Some people mumble talk… and unless you can see his dreams somehow, you don’t know the context or why.
I have had times where for some reason, I would call a crush by someone else’s name; sometimes a look alike happens to come into my life - and I might not see that crush for ages; and had recently interacted with her doppelgänger (someone I wasn’t interested in). I’d almost immediately realize my mistake, apologize and say why I called them the wrong name. I’d immediately correct and say “I know you’re name is ———-.” (They’d still act REALLY pissed off for some reason - weird, as mistakes like that happen all the time with all kinds of people).
Maybe he’s ticked off at a woman at the office, and he’s dreaming of getting her fired. Maybe he’s thinking of someone else with a similar name or same first name and it’s innocent. May be it sounded like a name and he was trying to say something else and just mumbled so it sounded like a name.
He could have had had some bad food yesterday and was having a nightmare.
Unless it’s not more blatant, like a full sentence with incriminating mumble talk about an affair, “oh yes Heather, I WOULD like to play ‘hide the salami’ with you…” it could be any reasons he would say another woman’s name in his sleep, provided he did and it wasn’t misheard. - 810 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
If it is just that, I wouldn't worry about it. Probably just dreaming of talking to her while at work.
There is a lady who I travel with, but we are not romantically involved. I fell asleep for a half hour in the afternoon in our hotel room. When I woke up, she asked me, "Who is Elizabeth?"... I told her that I don't know an Elizabeth and why did she ask? She said that I called someone "Liz" in my sleep. Then I said that a co-worker's name is Liz so I was probably just dreaming of talking to her. When I got back from vacation, I told Liz about it. She laughed... LOL -
Maybe a small amount worried, but don't be too worried. Like I'll give an example. My ex and I will never ever get back together even if we could. Its impossible. And I'll never do it ever. However, I still love her and wish we hadn't broken up. If i ever have a wife someday in the future, it is completely possible I could dream about her still unintentionally. And if I say her name, that doesn't mean i will leave my wife to be with my ex. It just means she is still a part of my heart. I still have dreams sometimes where women i have had crushes on which I would swear to you while I am awake that I am completely over and have no feelings for anymore, yet I then have dreams about them sometimes where their husbands die and I get to marry them.
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I'm quite surprised by other peoples responses as mumbling a female coworkers name is not normal. Is this female co-worker on his facebook and mobile phone? He may have feelings for her and this is quite serious, as really he should only have feelings for you.
If he starts staying late at the office, making excuses and keeps his mobile phone close then it's worth considering the worst; he may be cheating. -
Who knows, maybe he was just mumbling the name of some evil sorceress as he was about to strike her down with unquenchable bloodflames in his dream.
But if you're worried, I don't think it would hurt to ask him about it. Just don't make it something you bring up often, otherwise that will seem suspicious. -
Maybe. The only way to find out is to ask him. Dreams are crazy and he could have been at work when suddenly a rainbow colored tornado monster climbed out of his coffee cup and told him that him and his co-worker had to go to his mom's neighbors house to build a go-cart with Miley Cyrus. So he was just calling her name to go help him out.
Basically, he has no idea that he did that and to get any closure at all youbwill have to ask him yourself.
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Before I answer, have you ever had bad dreams about clowns? If you called out the name of one, should he be worried you're going to join a circus?
Bad analogy I know, but no you shouldn't give it a second thought.. - 817 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No, the guy was asleep... for all we know this guy was dreaming about puppies and rainbows. Don't blow it out of proportion.
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Nah, it was sleep talk and in dream land. You don't know the context of it. Get back to us if he continually shouts another girls name while you're having sex.
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Maybe just ask him about it. Who knows could just be an aunt or some family member who helped him out growing up. There's got to be dirt on why he would mumble out another girls name.
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Dreams are off limits to judgement in my opinion. We have zero control over dreams.
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Paranoia I'd say
If you suspect he is sleeping with another girl than why would that lead you to believe that he's cheating? Many people say harmless
things in their sleep but if you thought he was cheating there are other ways but unless you catch him no definite way to know without making it seem like you don't trust him. -
cause people have dreams about other people doesn't mean anything. I have dreams about many girls, but doesn't mean like them or would want to date them.
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He might've just had a dream that he was at work, I would say it's not that big of a deal but just talk to him about it.
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You don't even know what he said for sure, but that doesn't stop you from jumping to conclusions... why do you girls always do that shit?
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my last boyfriend said i would always say names in my sleep but when he listed them off I didn't know who they were.
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Just ask him about it. I've had normal dreams about random people at school. They didn't mean anything to me. He's possibly the same way.
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If the same name is in his phone maybe. My Lust for other women fuels Sexual energy I take home. Any increase in his vigor?
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Just wait until you are in bed, pretend to fall asleep first. Wait a few minutes and then quietly mumble the name of another man
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Mumbling a name without any context literally means nothing.
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