my boyfriend of 6 months is a great guy, but very shy and not very good at expressing his feelings.
When we started dating we both agreed to keep things quiet for awhile until our families could get used to the idea.
My family has issues with me dating anyone because they think it will take time away from being with them and his family has had a history of not liking his girl friends or wives in the past ( though given the way his exes treated him I can't really blame his family for not liking them). There is also a 20 years age
difference. I'm in my 30's. He I in his 50's.
I told my family about 2 months ago and though there have been some bumps, all in all it went better than I expected.
I thought he might follow suit and then tell his family, but he hasn't yet. He still tells them we are friends if they ask. Though some of them have figured it out on their own.
I have been to 2 of his family functions in the past month. One at his request. The other at the request of one of his relatives (our families have been friend for years).
at The one he asked me to, he hardly spoke to me and kept to himself all day. At the other one, I chose to help his Mom in the kitchen and so on while he was outside ... At the meal he sat next to me and talked and to me most the evening.
What is up with that ?
I know he wants their approval and so do I.
At the BBQ a lady asked who I was there
"with". I didn't know how to answer. He just sat there and didn't say anything, but I could tell he was waiting to see how I would respond. He looked like he was holding his breath. His whole family was standing there. I just blurted out "myself". She kept pushing and said "yes dear, but who are you with?". A
relative of his who knows about us then spoke up and said " she is a close family friend".
My boyfriend never said how he felt about me telling my family. And he got a little jumpy a few months back when he thought I had told someone where I work. We live in a small town and if one person knows -everyone knows.
I know he is nervous.
So am I.
I just wonder if he will ever tell people about us.
am I being to impatient?
worrying about nothing?
or is this a bad sign?
he swears he loves me and never wants to leave me.
it's very hard because he is hard to get to
open up and talk. He don't always answer when I ask things.
He was the one who started things between us to begin with. He is the one who asked to be girlfriend / boyfriend.
what should I do?
any insight or suggestions you could offer would be very helpful.
thanks
When we started dating we both agreed to keep things quiet for awhile until our families could get used to the idea.
My family has issues with me dating anyone because they think it will take time away from being with them and his family has had a history of not liking his girl friends or wives in the past ( though given the way his exes treated him I can't really blame his family for not liking them). There is also a 20 years age
difference. I'm in my 30's. He I in his 50's.
I told my family about 2 months ago and though there have been some bumps, all in all it went better than I expected.
I thought he might follow suit and then tell his family, but he hasn't yet. He still tells them we are friends if they ask. Though some of them have figured it out on their own.
I have been to 2 of his family functions in the past month. One at his request. The other at the request of one of his relatives (our families have been friend for years).
at The one he asked me to, he hardly spoke to me and kept to himself all day. At the other one, I chose to help his Mom in the kitchen and so on while he was outside ... At the meal he sat next to me and talked and to me most the evening.
What is up with that ?
I know he wants their approval and so do I.
At the BBQ a lady asked who I was there
"with". I didn't know how to answer. He just sat there and didn't say anything, but I could tell he was waiting to see how I would respond. He looked like he was holding his breath. His whole family was standing there. I just blurted out "myself". She kept pushing and said "yes dear, but who are you with?". A
relative of his who knows about us then spoke up and said " she is a close family friend".
My boyfriend never said how he felt about me telling my family. And he got a little jumpy a few months back when he thought I had told someone where I work. We live in a small town and if one person knows -everyone knows.
I know he is nervous.
So am I.
I just wonder if he will ever tell people about us.
am I being to impatient?
worrying about nothing?
or is this a bad sign?
he swears he loves me and never wants to leave me.
it's very hard because he is hard to get to
open up and talk. He don't always answer when I ask things.
He was the one who started things between us to begin with. He is the one who asked to be girlfriend / boyfriend.
what should I do?
any insight or suggestions you could offer would be very helpful.
thanks
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