I like her A LOT, but she keeps friendzoning me?

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I met this girl, she's absolutely amazing! She so beautiful (long brown hair, big brown eyes, clear skin, rosy cheeks, plump rosy lips) and she makes me feel a way that a girl has never have before. Her personality is perfect. I can tell her everything and anything and she handles everything so well. She can reach out to me whenever, which is something no one else can do. I'm crazy about her. But she keeps friendzoning me and telling me that she only likes me as a friend. We're planning to hangout soon. How can I make her like me?

Tephra · Accepted Answer

I think the fact that's she's unattainable makes you even crazier so back down a bit here. Sounds like your the "nice guy", now there's nothing wrong with being the nice guy but it's easy; girls love a thrill, excitement and something different.

>Firstly, you might want to play down your feelings for her, I know its hard and especially when you like someone but as I mentioned - it's easy. She has you and she knows it, you cast aside as a friend.
>Start putting yourself first, by that I mean start saying no more often because you have other things on. If you value your own time, she will start to value yours and you as well.
>As I mentioned, value yourself, girls know when a guy is insecure and that's a big turn off. You end up getting used as a doormat and further makes you feel like shit.
>Quality vs. Quantity: Your texts should have a lot of quality to them, however make them minimal. Make yourself scarce. Show your flirty side, your cheeky side, joking side - different sides of your personality!
>Start getting a life: Basically, make a life YOU want to live, then when she sees your life she will want to be apart of it! Travelling, sports, parties whatever.

However I don't recommend showing off in front of her other girls; that will make her want you for all the wrong reasons because she wants you back, but not for a relationship. Plus girls can pick up on when they are trying to be made jealous. Don't do it. But all in all - less time with her and more about you and your life - make yourself a priority and she will see you in a different light

Nmalinova · Accepted Answer

I'm sorry but I fear you won't be able to change her mind... I doubt you would really be in love with her... she may just be a positive and caring person, which really attracted you and made you open up to her and like her 'energy' :-) there s still a difference with love, so you may call it a crush! In any case you're probably just hung up on her because you feel comfortable around her personality and maybe you haven't met many people with such personality traits as hers before...
Maybe try to join her to some activities, such as dancing or paintballing or shooting or whatever and maybe see if feelings develop for her, because it is not impossible, but quite inprobable... good luck :-)

i_research · Accepted Answer

How does she make you feel? Explain it in words. : p

? She can reach out to me whenever, which is something no one else can do..." Do you mean she opens up to you? Or you open up to her?

If she has repeatedly told you that she only sees you as a friend; and if you show signs of more than being friends, and in response she distances herself even if slightly, then know that she is serious. She does not see you more than as friends, and nothing would change her mind about that.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think she thinks of you as a nice guy. When you are too nice they don't feel any of those kind of relationship attractions or desires for you. Here I googled it for you on how to avoid being friend zoned:

MadeInAmerica · Accepted Answer

I don't think you can do any more then what you did and you told her how you feel. You can hope one day she changes her mind but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for that and let time pass you by.

Littlesebastian · Answer

My best friend is kind of in the same situation except she's the girl that is just friends with a guy.
He's not a bad looking dude but she's just not attracted to him. She feels bad but also enjoys the friendship.
She doesn't want a relationship with him.
Gotta tell you the truth. Unless this girl is playing games, it just sounds like she doesn't feel that way about you. It's not worth it to pursue her in that way.

Kataclyst · Answer

Friendzones you once, bummer man, Friendzones you twice, Dont do it again, Friendzones you thrice. She doesn't like you the same way accept it.

You can't change her feelings, if you truly like her respect her answer and live with it. You can't make someone like you. and its cruel to manipulate them into doing so.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop chasing her so much dude, have some self respect, give yourself a break from her and I mean A LONG break. Cancel the hangout without explaining, stop texting her, just go full no contact if you want to get rid of those feelings towards someone you can't have or possibly give it another try in the future, because you can't change her feelings towards you from day to day.

You gave her an image of yourself and she just can't see you suddenly as a more than a friend. Your best bet is to go no contact for couple of months, live your own life and let her know how great your life is by posting photos, change yourself, go to gym, focus on other girls and on YOURSELF, then come back to her and show her what you've achieved. I'm not saying it will 100% work, but it will help you get your shit together.

Wish you luck and remember, you're doing this for yourself, not for her.

Sunflower19 · Answer

You can't make anyone like you but just be yourself. If it's meant to be, then everything will fall into place. If she doesn't like you then you need to move on. I was in your spot at one time and I REALLY liked this guy last year but I had to move on.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't really push some one to like you if she set the record straight already, maybe there is some one else she is seeing or likes, All you can do is be yourself dont force any thing because relationships start from friendships too just let her get to know you and if she still only likes you as a friend then at least you have her as a friend

Batman_Girlfriend · Answer

You can't make her like you if she doesn't sees you in that way. At least you can be a good friend until she decide. Maybe she will see that you like her very much and who knows.. But don't insists

nevermoregirl7 · Answer

You can't change peoples feelings about you. Just be a good friend to her and find a girl that does want that type of relationship with you.

Dim1213 · Answer

Well you don't cause if you keep pushing her then your going to lose her as a friend. Don't make the mistake that I made. Take the lose of the dream over the lose of a good friend.

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't know if there is anything you can do. if she has repeatedly made it clear that she only wants to be friends then i think you are rather stuck in that spot

tyber1 · Answer

Tell her that friendship isn't enough for you anymore and let her decide what to do with that. If she doesn't want more, then live your life without her in it.

jahmie · Answer

im very sorry man but it ends at the friendzone and it hurts getting there but you'll get over it my man

Anonymous · Answer

You can't I'm sorry but believe me she isn't interested and if you keep pushing you will lose her as a friend too

Prof_Don · Answer

U gotta move on. Next time be more responsible with your emotions. Don't allow yourself to get emotionally attached to a girl that isn't even yours.

Anonymous · Answer

what seems to be missing here is the attraction level. You need a makeover man. look for hairstyles girls like, clean your self up and take care of yourself, workout etc.. Also, stop chasing her for a while people dont know what they have until its gone. At this point you have to focus on you, and something to motivate you

Browneye57 · Answer

You can't 'make her like you'.
She's just not romantically attracted. You cannot negotiate attraction - it's either there or it's not.

A girl that wants to bed you will break every rule in the book to get to you. If not, they'll make up a new rule every day why they can't.

I would NEXT her. Unless you want to be her beta-orbiter, hanging on hoping one day she'll give you some sex. pfft

Gray_Wolf · Answer

Lol man just leave it be, maybe she doesn't find you attractive so you should move on or you should be more attractive person. Just don't be so needy to her, that will ruin everything.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you go to the same school? Do you have any classes together?

agirl537 · Answer

Stop chasing her!!  Trust me, that will make her see

mystintri · Answer

You're too available. She wants a guy that has his own life.

Anonymous · Answer

are you good looking?

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