My boyfriend is a very busy guy. He finds time for me when he can and I understand that. I told my best friend I miss him and that he's becoming distant. She got pissed because he's not treating me like a priority. So she messaged him and called him an a**hole. He blocked her afterwards. I didn't know she would do something like that, I only found out after she told me my boyfriend blocked her. So I messaged my boyfriend and apologized on her behalf. Told him I had nothing to do with it or even have an idea. He ended up blocking me on Facebook. I tried calling him using Google Hangouts, no answer and blocked me. I called him on Snapchat, no answer and blocked too. He also blocked me on Twitter, Google+, YouTube. He still has me on Instagram and Whatsapp but I think it's only a matter of time until he realizes that and blocks me there too. This isn't the first time he had blocked me on Facebook but he usually unblocks me after a day. It's been 3 days and still nothing.
I don't want us to break up. We don't always fight or argue. We had more good times than bad. We both went through a lot together and have been there beside him through thick and thin. I loved him when he had everything and still loved him just the same when he's one step closer to having nothing. I just don't know what to do. I need some advice. Does he need his space or that's him telling me we're done?
No one knows your relationship better than you guys, but I was honestly extremely shocked when I read about his reaction. I think it was pretty rash given that you explained to him what had happened... I would suggest communicating your feelings to him clearly without sounding angry or accusatory. Being in a long distance relationship myself and having experienced many ups and downs, being open and honest is absolute key to relationship success.
As for your friend, I would tell her not to act on your behalf and make her realize how detrimental such actions can be. I also have a couple of friends who behave similarly and like to make comments about my relationship despite them not having any idea what it's like to be in one anyway.
Try not to panic. All I can really say is that your boyfriend's behavior was extreme and I don't really know how you're at fault here, but at the same time if you love him, you will try to handle this situation in a way that reflects that. Tell him about your feelings and ask him about his. If you are both dedicated enough to understand each other, it should be fine. :)
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I'm going to rant here and you might not like my answer, but this is just ridiculous, so forgive me beforehand. Please forget about his petty ass. You deserve so much better. Please realize that this behavior is a warning for whats to come!!! Just imagine what he would be like if it wasn't LD. It doesn't matter how busy someone is. He eventually goes home to eat and sleep doesn't he? So he can find 3 minutes to talk to you. If he doesn't talk to you everyday, I dont think he cares about you as much as you care about him. And jeebus you were apologizing!!! What kind of person blocks you when you apologize for someone else? These little games are pathetic. You sound like a nice girlfriend, I know you could do better. And even if he isn't "done" with you, please for your own good move on and find someone that will treat you better. I've been in your same shoes, glad that person is out of my life.
You're friend should not have messaged him. No one likes to feel they're being talked about behind their back by close friends or their partner.
He'll probably be under the impression that you've been talking mean to your friend about him. Which does seem that way by your friend being rude and insulting to your boyfriend
I'd be furious if my friend did something like that to my boyfriend. It's troublemaking
Sometimes people block in the heat of the moment when they feel angry or hurt. He'll feel angry your friend messaged him , and hurt coz you've talk to your friend instead of him.
All you can do is hope he contacts you when he calms down.
he maybe found someone locally or has a long list of online "girlfriends"... really, all an LDR is any way are "penpals".. you need a real person in real contact... not typing on a screen.
What a disaster. This is why it makes SO much more sense to date someone you can actually SEE and BE WITH. Oh well.
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If he 'only finds time for you when he can', he's not your boyfriend. Sorry to break it to you but you're his backup for when he gets back. He'll know that you'll be there ready waiting for him and that degree of comfortableness can really mess with you as his 'girlfriend'. You shouldn't be making all the effort to keep the relationship going. Dump his ass and find someone who actually appreciates you and looks forward to spending time and talking to you. Otherwise you just risk him using you for a longer period of time and regretting it that you didn't leave him sooner.
I understand that he's hurt, but his reaction was rash and immature. I'd say give him a little space, then talk to him about it. But to be honest, it doesn't sound like your relationship is strong enough to remain healthy across long distance. LDRs require a lot of healthy communication in order to function. Otnerwise there's basically no point in even trying.
Honey. I don't mean to be blunt but you should count him as a lost cause. I've been through situations similar to this and every time I was cheated on with not a word of remorse at all. So treat people the way you want to be treated and if they do not follow in kind, then show them they are not worth your time or effort. Find out more so who you are as a person and think about the respect that one deserves in a relationship and then ask yourself, " Is this man showing me the respect I deserve for putting my time and effort into his life and letting him into mine by simply walking away without so much as a hint as to where or why the isolation?" You are stronger than this in my opinion love, so stay strong!
Wow, he's being a jerk. After all you've been through together and you being there for him. A lot of girls wouldn't do that. He owes you an explanation. You apologized for your friend thats that its done.
I think you should give him a few days and if you don't hear from him, contact him. Tell him you need an explanation of why he is acting like that and that if he won't give you one-tell him your're done.You both seem to old for this childish bullshit. This is teenage shit and it's the easiest way to abuse an LDR - blocking you. I'd move on. Don't let someone have that power over you. Your friend needs to stay out of your relationship though.
you need to calm down first , give him some time , I know it's difficult on your part but you have to understand and have patience... he will talk to you just give him some time
Do you ever or have you ever had time together, in person to talk?
You and him are done. Realize it, learn from it, and move on. Dont dwindle on tbe subject. Try and get over him. Everyday will be a little bit easier.
What a kid! Reminds me of my own boyfriend, my condolences!
Leave it alone. It's a blessing in disguise is trust me
LDR and he's blocking you? I personally would move on.
Give him space woman let him come too you. If he doesn't then move on.
Sounds like he's telling you you're done.
thats a very mature response from him.
give him some time and space
he's hurtedBlock him back and chill
Your boyfriend is a little cry baby.
move on your better off without him
he dumped you. sorry
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