Average relationship timeline?

I know every couple is different, but I'm wondering how it works for other couples, especially with a guy that likes to take things super slow. Some guys I"ve dated never say I Love You, while others say it within two weeks. How long before a certain comfort level sets in? I'm thinking more of a fairly new relationship, but am also curious as to the average time before people move in together, talk kids, etc. I guess I'd just like to get an idea of the basic timeline for taking steps within a relationship with someone.


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  • Well my current relationship, I have been madly in love with this guy since December 07, and we dated for a little bit but it just was not the right time, so we are re trying seeing my feelings for him just got worst with other guys. So We kissed before we dated. I told I loved him after 4 months of dating, and I re told him I loved him ummm 4 days after we started dating again, and he looked in my eyes and said it back, like he did not even think , so yeah its like we picked up our old relationship with age to guide us. ITS Wonder ful,

    But I try to keep this timeline, First date in the first month, and just doing what feels right. Not letting the guy have all the control, but letting him lead til he gets to my comfort zone. There is no set time between the first kiss and the last... its just how people feel towards each other really. Like right now me and my guy Are trying to figure out how long we should say we have been dating. Seeing we never stoped acting like we were and most people just assumed we were.

    But don;t say I love you because he said it, explain to him you aren't ready for it. Most guys will understand and if he does not then he does not love you.

    And do that with everything, if giving him a handjob freaks you out tell him that... talk to him, my longest relationships have lasted because we talked. That's what I think makes the relationship is at the end of everything you never stopped truly talking and being honest.

    I am the one who normally Shut off the talking part when I get scared of what is going on, and soon after that the relationship dies. So Communicate and Compromise and Compassion ... The three C's in my book :) I hoped this helped


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  • I've had a guy say "I love you" after 3 dates, and yeah. I thought, "psycho!"

    some people take about a month, or maybe 3 or 4 until they understand how the other person acts. All relationships depend on chemistry and how they both think. It took my guy 8 months to admit he luvs me, and me 6 months to realize I love him back.

    One of my friends said, " If you can have farting contests with your guy and no one is bothered by it, then that's love right there" I don't know if you can judge the smelly gases by love, but yeah, that's comfort with your guy right there.

  • Hmmm. well, I'm in a 1 1/2 year relationship - we've said I love you, we're an established item, we've talked about marriage and kids, but we're waiting until we both graduate college before we start moving in/actually doing anything along those lines (another three years, since I'm insane and decided to double major). We figure it would probably be best for any sort of life we decide to start together.

  • well with me and my boyfriend he said I love you to me before we ever started dating and when we did start dating he said it to me and has continued to say it to me everyday. he kissed me for the first time before we ever started dating. so we were at a really good comfort level before we ever began dating.