Is jealousy in guys just the worst turn off to you, girls?

[Anonymous]

If your with a guy and he gets extremely jealous of other guys are better looking, more muscular, or who have more game and are more of a ladies man? Is this an enormous turn off to you? Even if he was upset by other guys would you rather he not show it?

[Brendi87]

It's good to express yourself. Don't hide who you are, but when a guy is jealous of another guy he knows or someone he sees in the street or on tv, it's pretty awkward. You are wasting your energy being jealous of another guy when the girl you are with is with YOU! She prefers you and is not interested in the muscle bound guys. I find it annoying and sad because no matter what, you are not satisified and a girl can try and say and do things to boost your ego temporarily but you'll never be happy especially when you're comparing yourself to other people. Unfortunately, girls do it, too. It just shows how uncomfortable you are in your skin.

I'm glad I heard it, though. My two exes were both jealous of each other! They went to school together. One had meat on his bones, one was muscle-toned. Both insecure (and I was too) but the muscle-toned more because he felt he needed to have all the girl's attention (player) and so we barely lasted (3 months), and the teddy bear and I fell in love (over a yr) until he was getting jealous about a guy that was interested in me when we were broken up.

Even though he was with me, it didn't change things. He wasn't happy with me or himself. When you don't like yourself, it's hard for the person in the relationship to give you compliments and appreciation, when you don't see it or believe it. It's pretty much pointless like all this for nothing? So yes, it's a turn off because the relationship will be filled with doubts, mistrust, jealousy, and misery. People can't be happy 24/7 but at least OK with yourself and your partner. That's why it's important for YOU to focus just on your positive traits, and not wait until you meet a girl who wil do it for you.

[queenofpeen]

Probably not the WORST turn-off, but it's pretty bad. I want my guy to be confident in himself and secure in our relationship. But if he IS upset about other guys, I'd want him to talk to me about it. Don't show it by getting possessive and controlling, just communicate.

[Yeahhbro]

what is she pisses him off by making him jealous on purpose it happens more often than not.

[queenofpeen]

Then she's not mature enough to be in a relationship, in my opinion. Jealousy is a crappy feeling and I would never want someone I truly love to feel it because of me.

[queenofpeen]

Thanks for BA, by the way :)

[fascination_streak]

If he did it constantly then it would be a turn off. I think it's human nature to maybe envy someone because he/she possesses a physical attribute, personality trait etc. that we'd like to see in ourselves. However, I'd prefer he be comfortable in his own skin and accept himself as he is. If he really isn't happy that way, then he needs to change that so he can feel better about himself.

[Chark]

Jealousy is one of the top three biggest turn offs to me. True, unprovoked jealousy is insulting, honestly. I mean, if I am telling someone I am with him and him only he needs to believe it or we have a problem. If he wants to be jealous and constantly make suggestions that I am up to something if I speak to a male friend or he thinks I have then he is suggesting something very negative about me. Get some backbone and self confidence is all I know. I am not the problem pal, you are! I am loyal, no matter what else I may be. If I make a commitment, I am committed. End of story. What's wrong with a guy who thinks every guy is a threat and who thinks is girlfriend (who he claims to love) is all for any other guy?

[Anonymous]

well yeah if he was looking at some preening **** of the walk guy who gets with all the babes and saying "damn why can't I have a life like that" um yeah why wouldn't that turn me off? he'd rather be a studly ladies man than be with me? well thanks alot! lol

confidence is super sexy and it's of course normal at times to be like "i'd kill for arms like that" women do that too but it's the super insecurity that's very unattractive.

[Brendi87]

Exactly. My ex was like that. I couldn't figure out if he was toning up for himself or to keep attracting girls. I have a feeling it was the latter 'cause he would not spend time with me in order to go the gym.

[Helenco15]

For me, it's not the worst turn off at all as long as they aren't being stupid about it. And nobody likes a person who's too cocky about their self either.

[innocentsweetie_16]

it's probaly not the worst turn-off, in my opinion it shows that the guy loves her and is afraid of losing her to the other guys. just don't do stupid things that cause the guy's jealousy to dominate him.

[innocentsweetie_16]

umm... why was I selected ? is this good or bad ? Just asking ...

[Tirebouchon]

This is not great but not the worst either. The worst would be an irrespectful and insulting guy.

[DonMichelle]

They feed on attention and jealosy... FEED!

[toulouse]

actually , its rather awkward, when a guy gets jealous. As jealousy is by & large a decision,- provided you are rational - I would question his judgement & in some cases sanity, depending on what lengths it rises to.

Attention should come from a healthy balanced source of mutual experiences love affection & support. If a guy has to feel jealous in other to make contact, there are other problems & id already be gone.

I know some women think jealousy means he cares but that's silly isn't it.

[Anonymous]

no. the worst turn off to me is selfishness