I have a same problem. This conniving woman even told him to be careful with me, since I only known him for 5 month and they've known each other 3 years and they're co-worker.
After thousands of times trying to open his eyes what a two faced, double crossing woman she is, and she wants him for herself, to no avail. I finally sit him down, and I told him what I feel, and why.
Men are dumb, and can't see or read between the lines. We have to help them understand. Teach them.Some women knows this too well, and use it against other women. Which is exactly my bf's ex is.
Don't get too emotional, be logical, and tell him, as his current gf, he should respect you, and your feelings. And as unreasonable as you might sound to him, for not wanting him to be too friendly with his ex, he needs to respect that and he needs to know WHY he needs to respect that. Let him know, it made you uncomfortable. It put a barrier between the two of you, and makes it hard for you two to focus on your relationship. But tell him, it is up to him how he's going to curfew the ex calls to him, and that you believe he will do the right thing if he value you.
If he doesn't value your opinion or your feeling, then it might not be worth the hassle. He probably doesn't deserve you.
I hope this help.
okayy me and my boyfriend has been dating for 2 years off on. and he talks to his ex and she's all her the time! and they dated for 2 1/2 years straight. and he tells me that he is in love with me and he never told her he loved her! and I hate his ex! she is a flirt. I know he still kinda has feelings for her..
but the fact si no boyfriend wants a jealous gf. so I told him he can talk to her when I'm not there! and I prefer him not to b around her without me! so I'm trusting him! I love him so I know he won't cheat but I just worry!
you gotta think of this way its his ex for a reason! if he wanted to b with her he would b and not b with u! so just trust him and it should b alright, but you gotta tell him how you feel about it and if he loves he will understand and not get mad!
he doesn't let you talk to her probably because he doesn't want you to tell her how happy you guys are together because she might get jealous and try to get back with her. and you don't want that! so just don't talk to her. leave it alone! don't ruin ur relationship because ur a jealous person!
if he loves you he won't ruin by cheating! you just gotta trust ur bf!
cuz if you guys break up he might go back with her and that's gonna hurt to see.. so just b happy that ur with him!
You leave him. I have always been for staying friends with my exes but somewhere down the line I realized it's just not going to work out when I have a new man. It's not right to keep in touch with someone who you have been with, even if you just casually dated them.
How would your man feel if you were talking to your ex still? How would he feel if you would only have conversations with an ex behind his back? He wouldn't like it at all. Ask him how he would feel and try to work things out if you want but if he won't change I would leave. My ex was friends with his ex, and I was friends with mine so it never bothered me. I found out he was still sleeping with her. And I still wanted my ex, I never would have acted on it while I was with the new guy but the feelings were still always there and I always missed him and talking to him made me miss him and want him more. It took that to make me realize exes can't be friends without it someone wanting more. Even if he just wants her friendship then she probably wants him back and for him to continue talking to her is giving her the green light.
I don't know but that's a good question.
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Have you ever talked to an ex before? Probably. Would you want your boyfriend talking to him? Probably not. Just put yourself in his shoes. I really wouldn't worry about it. I'm still friends with most of my exs, and it never affects the relationship that I am in at the moment. I like to trust my boyfriend to talk to his exs too. I really don't let it bother me. And I really wouldn't want to talk to her myself. That would be an akward convo... I wouldn't want her opinion of things anyways.
I think you are just over analyzing things. Don't worry about it girl !
upfront I'm jealous... MY boyfriend talking to one of his exes would drive me batty. I'm not one for fighting or ultimatums, but I'd be pissed off every time I saw or heard about it. because I know they'd want him back,.
on a double sided note.
I talk to my best guy friend I hooked up with still. But I very rarely talk to him aside from catching up. He never did anything wrong to me, and I'd never want to be with him again in that sense... but I'd let my boyfriend talk to him and even hang out with him alone if he wanted too. And he knows we hooked up, but he also knows if he asked me too I'd cut off communication with him. There is lines of trust and if your boyfriend isn't into helping you trust him in the situation (aka not letting you talk to his ex) something is not right, and who knows maybe it's because his ex doesn't want to talk to you.. and she verbalized it to him.
my boyfriend is best-friends with his ex who he had an incredibly long history with... yes I'm a little jealous and all that, but I've talked to her and him and I've decided to trust him... I love him very much. I realize that I might get hurt, but I won't ask him to "choose".
now, the fact that he won't "let" you talk to her is suspicious... but on the other hand, he might just be worrying about your reaction or the things you might say to her. no one knows exactly what's on his mind but him... and talking to him and telling him your honest feelings might get a good reaction from him... and maybe some understanding on his part too.
Sounds like something isn't kosher.
Why is it ok for him to talk to her, but he won't let you talk to her? If he can't respect your feelings about talking to his ex I would have a problem with that. Out of respect for his new relationship he shouldnt do that. Some people don't mind their bfs talking to their exes, but I am very wary about that especially when they act like they are trying to hide something like your man seems to be doing.
Confront him about it and see what he says and if things don't change I would walk.
I think it's okay to let him talk to his ex girlfriend on the principle that a relationship should never be controlling or limiting... If you know that they're talking on a friendly rather than romantic level, though, you really shouldn't worry too much about it. But if he's doing it secretly or not letting you talk to her as well, that's probably something you should look into. Chances are, if it seems like he's trying to hide something from you, he probably is.
if they're friends, they're friends and you shouldn't prevent that. but if you think something less than innocent is going on, then you need to call him out on it.
i would tell him to try to talk to her in his own time, not when we're together. I've taken a guys phone and threw it, just because he was one of those guys who has so many numbers on his phone and I broke up with him
what what I've read I suspect that he is cheating on you. If he doesn't have anything to hide then why won't he let you talk to her, and why doesn't he talk to her in front of you? My ex was like that, and that's why he is my ex. Sometimes its better to just move on and try to forget about it.
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