Why won't my boyfriend say goodnight?

[Anonymous]

I know this might be dumb, but it upsets me when my boyfriend doesn't say goodnight to me or doesn't even text me all night. When we first got together he used to call me and say goodnight, but now that we have been together over a year it has slowly stopped. Now he barely even texts me on nights that we aren't together. I have told him it upsets me but he acts like I'm being dumb about it and says fine if you want to say goodnight then text me goodnight. I know this seems petty, but it just makes me feel like he doesn't care as much as he used to about the relationship. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Well I don't know how many relationships you have had, but this is very common with guys. During the firsts few months all are attention is focused on you. You know the stage where all you think about is each other. Then it will drop at about 6 months a bit, and then kinda just diminish a little over time. A year sounds about right. It doesn't necessarily mean we don't like you anymore it's just that's not what we do. We have gotten more comfortable with you and start to act like ourselves more or were past that really exciting stage and now we simply have calmed down a bit.

I myself would talk with my girlfriend of 3 years for hours on the phone the first few months. Because I really liked her and it was exciting being in a new relationship. But after about a year I talked less and less with her. The same with texting. Now I hate texting and will only text her good morning like once or twice a week and nothing else ever. And now I can't stand being on the phone with her for more than 15 minutes, but I could still talk to her all day in person. I just don't like talking on the phone or texting.

[Electric_Dreams]

Maybe if it's not night? I know I for one would only ever say "good night" to someone if it were indeed night at that time.

[UberTroll]

Don't worry about it, you can't over think things like this. This is 100% normal as you're together for awhile and you get comfortable in the relationship. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or think about you or care about you, it just means he doesn't feel like he needs to be up your ass with lovie dovie stuff 24/7, but that's ok.

When my boyfriend and I first got together he used to text me goodnight every night. And now after over a year I get a goodnight text maybe once every couple of weeks. Do I worry about it? Nope! It's been long enough to know where things stand in the relationship and how we feel about each other without needing texts to reassure me of that.

If you keep bugging you're boyfriend about it, that's probably just gonna get on his nerves because he doesn't see it as a big deal (which it isn't). You gotta pick your battles. Just relax and don't worry about it. It's time to accept the fact that you've entered the comfort zone and enjoy the other perks that come with that territory.

[megangel97]

The exact same thing is happening in my relationship. I feel like I always have to text him first or else we won't talk all day. I feel like he doesn't like talking to me anymore like he did at the beginning of the relationship. I know he loves me because he's told me that just because he doesn't always text me goodnight/goodmorning/check up on me throughout the day, doesn't mean he doesn't care. But it still hurts and feels like im being taken for granted. I've brought this up several times about how it annoys me that Im putting in all the effort but he just doesn't understand. I dont know whether to be worried about this or if it truly is just a "guy thing".

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Text him good night first.

[Angelmeg09]

I been dating my man for 5 months now. I practically know him really well like I was dating him for 2 years. He even said I am very perceptive on everything. He had 61 questions he made I anwser all of them I missed 5 of them. But just recently this month he been lacking on calling and texting me. He does say say he loves me. I already saw his family. He always talks about me when he talks to his mom. I want to understand a guys point of view. I don't want to be the incredible hulk on him say why aren't you texting or calling me. He texts at the weirdest times and calls me weirdest times.
I feel I have to start most of the conversations
He sometimes says good morning to me

I need your opinion since your a guy what should I do
Is he into me or not

[wootamandawoot41]

he's a bum