Others point out your flaws because they're jealous. Is this statement true or false?

[Anonymous]

My mom always told me this when I come back from school to tell her that" This girl said my arms are too long, and this chick said I have big toes etc" And she;d always answer with "They're jealous".

Do you guys agree that when someone points out your flaws it's simply because they're jealous of you?

For me I don't really think so, it sounds kinda stupid to think that.

[MrOracle]

You're right, and your mom is wrong; that's not why they say those things in the vast majority of cases. The reason they really say those things is because THEY are insecure, and thus feel vulnerable, so they try to turn the tables and attack someone else, which gives them a few seconds of feeling superior, before they drop back into their own insecurities.

People who are secure in themselves don't have a need to attack others in this way; they tend to help and compliment people instead. So if you have people trying to put you down, feel sorry for them and pity them, for it is their own insecurities that they are really showing.

[SillyG0000se]

nope, people tell themselves that to make themselves feel better when they are insulted

[Anonymous]

Those who point out minute flaws about others are miserable bitter hens with nothing else to do and most likely jealous. they see you as a threat and feel that saying X is a way to bring you down. This is usually the case for those who point out silly flaws like "your toes are too big" "her arms are long" that's nothing but a hater grasping at straws trying to call out your flaws to bring you down a notch. Your mom is right

[IdontWantToBeMe]

i think a lot of the time jealously is the reason but some girls just like to pick on other girls, it's so petty they point out things most normal people wouldn't even consider looking at as a flaw.

if they do that to other girls they most likely pick themselves apart also, either way it's such a degrading waste of time

[alchemy12]

Can't answer this question in black-and-white terms. Sometimes, yes, people point out flaws because they are jealous. But sometimes people are just mean or critical, so sometimes, no. It depends on the person and the situation.

[alchemy12]

I gave this a bit more thought and I think the reason why the guys are saying it's false is because this is how girls often handle jealousy--by being catty and insulting. It's specific to our gender. Guys don't seem to understand how girls jockey for power over one another and belittling someone is absolutely one way girls angle for superiority. But I do think that in some instances, people are just mean or critical, not jealous.

[Asker]

I understand what you're saying. Guys tend to be less competitive when it comes to looks with each other. Unlike us we're always jealous or something if a girl looks better.

[alchemy12]

In my experience, most girls don't go out of their way to point out another girl's flaws unless they are jealous. When you notice another girl, say, broke out or gained some weight you don't usually point that out to that girl. Some girls might if they are mean-spirited people or trying to bully her. But often it's girls who are threatened by other females that point out flaws in order to take the girl down. So I agree it's mostly true when it's a female to female interaction, yeah.

[darkknight1x]

False usually.