First One Night Stand was Magical?

[Anonymous]

Please don't laugh, or make fun of me because I am rarely lost in the naive sense of love, but I just had a one night stand with a guy whom had a girlfriend, but this didn't feel like a one night stand. If I can remember, the one night stand kind of guy is supposed to be a douche bag and is supposed to just walk away. Well, the guy I had a one night stand with wanted to see me again, and as much as I wanted to scream "god yes, of course I would love to see you again", I thought about his girlfriend. He caressed my face, we cuddled, he called me beautiful, he asked me if I needed anything in the morning, he also said it was his first one night stand, and he really didn't know what to say either because he has never cheated before. I had strong instincts that he had never done this before either which was kind of relieving. We had great chemistry where we met and talked at the bar. He didn't stare at my chest like most men, he stared at my eyes. He took me serious in a situation where most people don't take anything serious, and it was very endearing.

I regret not taking his number when he offered it to me, but I know where he works, and he knows where I work, he told me he might break up with his girlfriend soon because he is having a rocky time with her. I hope one day he walks into my work, and he smiles and me, and then I smile at him, then we talk. I am hoping I was enough for one night that he might be curious about me considering he mentioned wanting to see me twice.

I couldn't bring myself to say anything in the morning, I really wanted to see him again, but I felt so damn bad about his girlfriend. I don't want to hurt anyone, and their relationship.

I wish now that I could have just been selfish and took his number so I could see him again. I don't regret sleeping with him, but I regret not giving him a chance to be more to me than "a one night stand".

I know that I could have been more to him as well, I could have given him more than his girlfriend. It is like looking at a person and saying, "Pick me, Love me, I can love you better than she can". I don't have to know his girlfriend to know I can be better because I know myself.. I feel like taking his number and going on one date would not have been bad. Its like loving someone from a distance...and I just walked away...

Thoughts, Advice, and Opinions?

[NoOneListens21]

He shouldn't have cheated. If it was really that bad with her then he should have left her. What's to say that he won't cheat on you if you guys decide to do more than sex later down the road.

You never know what goes in a relationship but only what that person tells you. There is never one side to a story.

He can say anything he wants as long as he doesn't commit and make it easier on you or even on him to make him believe that it's really okay that he did what he did. What? Cheaters can't be charming and affectionate? You don't know his girlfriend. I don't know you. But it would have been better to wait til he didn't have a girlfriend to have a better foundation to build a future relationship on (if that is what is going to happen or if that is what you wanted to happen)

All in all just sounds like booty call unless he ends it and says he wants a relationship with you. Again, don't know too many people who want to be in a relationship who just got out of a terrible one. He's thinking about leaving...has he done it? Or is it just too hard to walk away right now. I would be suspicious of someone who cheated...even if it was with you. Still cheating.

If you want to see him and do it again - it's your choice. Imo - don't.

[RedSmartie]

If he hooked up with you when he had a girlfriend, then he is a douche bag.

[parkway]

You said he was no douche bag but what you described is one. For his first time, he knows exactly what to say to the point of having practiced to perfection.

You are falling for a man who cheats and soon will love a man who cheats.

One constant will maintain it's position, he cheats and is smooth, not staring at your chest, perfect at what he does.

He will pick you, love you and make you his girlfriend. For one moment place yourself in her shoes and feel.

Feel what she feels. You will soon. The beautiful thing about having Lucifer as your guide is your life will be filled with satisfied desires but each caries a cost, The time of your life.

Enjoy your new found project.

[Prof_Don]

He's not breaking up with his girlfriend...that was a lie to get you to continue f*cking him.

Some guys will be willing to do A LOT of questionably immoral and unethical things to get some soft pink velvet. For some guys it is literally their focus of their lives.

He's a liar and he can't be trusted. Do you really wanna reward this human being's terrible behavior by CONTINUING to give lying deceitful person him your body?

[posted]

He has a girlfriend, is cheating on her, probably wants more side-sex.

[KiwiChaos]

Wow a douche. I mean I wouldn't call my self a one night stand guy but I've had a few, but I wouldn't call myself a douche. I try to be as nice as I can, heck once I woke up first at my place and cooked her bacon and eggs for breakfast

[Anonymous]

Quality, I say, is certainly down nowadays. Whatever you do, never get married, guys.

[Anonymous]

I think you made a mistake and gave him a gift he did not deserve

[Anonymous]

If it is meant to be, it'll happen. Believe me. I know where you are coming from. Been there.

[anon1903]

Manipulative