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I've had mixed reactions to breakups. One in which I recognized was basically over anyways, I felt nothing. I felt angry and sad when infidelity occurred, but my last one, I feel relieved.

It was hardly a relationship, just 18 days of lots of talking and all. But her need for attention became insatiable, I spent hours a day talking and it was never enough. She blew my phone the hell up when I went to make soup and tend to my dogs for 10 minutes.

I go to the bathroom, I come back to several missed calls and accusations that I cheated. No matter how much time i spent talking to her, the next day, she always wanted even more time commitment and on video calls, she got mad when I tried to multi task.

Her constant needs for reassurance, short fuse and a relationship in which she'd already brought up marriage several times, her need for attention and validation being exhausting, and it felt like being suffocated.

I told her over and over I needed space, she'd send 10 messages within a minute of me saying it. All this to say I am happy she is out of my life, she was very toxic and controlling, and I won't be with someone who doesn't even respect me enough to stop pestering me every 2 seconds.

She got me out of my comfort zone with cooking, that's the best thing I got from it. I ended it with her, brushing off her angry closing remarks. I'll find someone else, it's okay.

I hope the next woman I form a connection with will be more mature and reasonable. How do you usually feel after breakups and why?

This question assumes that you are or have been either married or in a long term relationship in which you both expected your partner to be faithful. I believe that most people respect their promises and remain faithful but not everyone respects their commitment. I am aware of two partners who cheated on me (maybe there were more, but two who were confirmed cheaters) but I have never cheated on anyone, including the two who cheated on me. For me, the primary motivation for faithfulness is self-respect; I want to think of myself as an honorable man. I also try to follow the Golden Rule.

Other people may have other motivations. What makes YOU remain faithful? If none of the responses apply to you, please leave a comment and explain.