Is my height in the undateable range?

[Anonymous]

After reading some articles I realized that all women want the 6 footers. Im not insecure about my height or nothing I love being 5ft8 does that make me really undateable?

I Can my cook and I'm a part of a jazz band does this help or not?

[Anonymous]

This is the great (unknown) dilemma facing us youngin's, so don't take this as a personal insult.

You've listed all these mostly inconsequential details about yourself like you're some kind of math equation that needs to add up to a certain value..."I may not be 6ft, but I can cook and I play an instrument"... like seriously dude? Do YOU look at girls for these things? I don't imagine you do, so why do you think these make you dateable or undateable?

Our generation has grown up with hardly as much supervision or guidance as we should have had, because we have no idea what self-confidence is and have no idea what sort of effort is required to attain it. Again, I'm not teasing you or anything but you're a prime example: worried about your height and trying to make it up by putting other things on your "resume". None of which is really making that much of a difference anyway.

Going back to griping about our generation lol, we don't know what "making our own fate" feels like. We don't know, as males in general, how to look at a girl and say "I'm going to approach her, show my interest, and pursue her". We don't know how to form a belief (especially about ourselves) unless someone or something else is involved telling us what to believe. We blame celebrities for making our girls have low images... of THEMSELVES. We seek most everything externally, but have no idea that we could rely entirely on ourselves to form our own opinions, beliefs, and self-image from.

And THAT is exactly what you need to do, instead of relying on impressing someone with your cooking and music skills. If you could write a 10 page paper on how cooking or jazz skills is going to land (and keep) a girl, then I'd gladly stand corrected. Or better yet, if you could show it actually happen, that'd be worth a lot more ;)

[zoofobiamattoide]

You should be slightly more forgiving for his question instead of starting with the "this generation doesn't have.." dialogue-- everyone has insecurities and what place better than the safe, comfortable anonomity of the internet to have strangers consoling you? :D Weaknesses are real for everybody.

Very good final output, though. Confidence and direct/undirect cues of "I know what I am and where I stand" is what has the last word in attraction, regardless of men and women, regardless of physical appearance and cooking + math skills.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, weaknesses and insecurity are real. But why isn't dealing with and conquering them also a reality for a lot of people? That is where the "this generation doesn't have" came from, because it is the extension of the inability to solve these issues. At least one of the causes.

But yes, I agree 150% with your second paragraph! It's the deciding factor (confidence and the aura of it, that is) in how people perceive and treat you. If the QA gets anything from this dialogue from you or me, I hope it's this! :D

[Asker]

Thanks for the info

[Coolguy1928]

Being 5'8 is already in the dateable range. And it's not true that all women like 6" men, most just like them to be taller than them, or shorter depending on the woman. So don't worry, you're fine.

[Asker]

Thanks pal

[kelly173815]

I'm 5'7.5 and I would date someone who is 5'5 and above

[Asker]

Considering you're the only girl to respond I'm worried

[kelly173815]

Yeah buts it's also like really early in the morning in the US so there may just not be many girls on. Plus this question gets asked A LOT

[Asker]

Oh right, how often

[kelly173815]

Probably a couple times a day lol. Or at least a similar version. There is some guy on here who is 5'6 who is forever complaining about his height and how no girls want him cause he isn't tall -.-

[Asker]

Ouch I can smell the burn from here.. But he isn't super short like taye of dormtainment and he seems to do fine

[kelly173815]

Plus there are heaps of girls who are under that height, most girls don't even care about height :/

[Asker]

It only caught my attention today that I could be undateable because of the attention the 6footers get. But this might be my cold feet talking since I'm fresh out of high school

[kelly173815]

Nah don't worry, you're fine :) 5'8 is a good height. Sure the footers are good, but you're not short enough to take yourself out of anyone's dating pool I believe.

[Asker]

Is it bad I like girls your height and mine who usually go for 6 footers

[kelly173815]

Nah That's fine :) like I said, girls don't care about height as much as guys think

[Asker]

But what about the six foot only crew isn't the majority of women them

[kelly173815]

No hahaha. We like all types of guys. Trust me, no girl is going to care about your height :) and if they do, then they are horribly shallow and you don't want them then

[kelly173815]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Anonymous]

Depends. Are you good looking? If you are, you are datable.

If anything, caring too much what women think will make you look obsequious, and that makes you lose far more points than height.

[Asker]

I look extremely young for my age

[MarcusBorino]

I’m 5’8 and I like girl the same height as me! 5’6-5’9 is perfect!

[Beauty43]

I'm 5'9 so yeah that's a problem

[TheSpartan]

Bitch

[MarcusBorino]

Why? It’s only one inch difference?

[Tokana]

I'm 5'10" and I haven't had any problems.

[Anonymous]

Fuck off OP, I am 5'6"