Why do so many black girls refuse to date white guys?

[Anonymous]

I know there are some black girls who only date white guys on here, but from my experience GAG is the rare case where you find black girls who like white guys.

I have a black friend Brianna and my other friend Chris was interested in her (he's white) and he asked me if she dated white guys and if she did could I put in good word for him. I asked her what she thought of him and she said he's nice but she doesn't date white guys.

I asked her why and she said she can't see herself with a white person. Then I asked her why she couldn't see herself with one. Then she said that white guys and most black girls have literally nothing in common. Most are racist Trump supporters or Nazi's and most black girls can't stand Trump supporters and don't really like being around white people in general. Then she said that white features weren't attractive to her and that white guys can't please her like black guys can in bed.

Is this true? Is this really the reason why so black girls refuse to date white guys?

If so how is this not racist?

[Tolkein2]

Ok. I'm a white guy and I know you're looking for opionions from Black chicks but this is my experience.

I honestly couldn't date most back women I've met. Most white women, Asian, etc. Never ruled it out, I'm just difficult with what I see as attractive.

However I have a black lady that I'm trying to start a relationship with. She, just like a close friend of mine that is a white chick, has been through some tough relationships in the past that have been abusive and both have been affected similarly by them.

All that being said, this lady takes my breath away just like anyone I would seriously be attracted to should. First for a black chick but I'm certainly not hung up on that. She's all for it but is having to take it slow for many reasons, past experiences, etc. We've noticed that my son is more receptive up us than her older children. Her youngest one is cool with everything. Being in the South, sure I'm going to have some older family members that may never accept us but to me that's on them. We are also having to take it slow working on her close family. My parents are deceased so no worries there.

All I can say is she hadn't considered it before but we're slowly working on it because we are exceptionally good for each other and are both realizing this. I'm as happy showing her off as my girlfriend as I have been with anyone else I've e ever been with. Too me that's what is important and to hell with anyone else who can't see that.

[AleDeEurope]

Either they're not attracted to White guys, which is fine, or they're just racists. I've noticed lots of Black girls are racist and look down on White people, not just men. They think it's betraying their race if they date a White guy. The amount of times I've heard them say that it's insane.

I think it's fine if you're not physically attracted to them, we all have our preferences, but I think it's pretty stupid and quite racist to believe you're betraying your race if you date a White guy lol

[Asker]

Exactly. Like they literally are even more racist than black guys. I've heard so many trash white guys as scum of the Earth and trash them like no other. They literally even say white people aren't human and shit like that. It's fucking gross and racist as hell.

[AleDeEurope]

I know, I've heard that a lot. I went to a college where most students were Black, and I heard a lot. They're the most racist group of people I've ever seen. Not saying every Black girl is racist, but from experience, the most racists were always Black girls, they literally don't give a shit if they're racist, they just say it, it's not subtle at all. You can also see it a lot on here too.

[Asker]

I know they really don't give a fuck. Like Brianna (my ex friend) I didn't realize how rude and racist she was towards whites. She see's white people as inferior

[RolandCuthbert]

That isnt' a very intelligent comment. Many "White" women here have talked about not being attracted to "Black" guys, unlike you, I am not bothered, or hurt in the least. Everyone has preferences. Most people prefer dating the opposite sex of their own community. That is not racist.

The word racism is clearly defined in the dictionary. If you don't know it, please look it up.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert Reread my comment and notice how I said it's ok not to be attracted to White guys.

[Asker]

@RolandCuthbert I know what racism is and what Brianna said was racist. She generalized an entire race then also belittled white men and said they were inferior to black men. That is racist.

[RolandCuthbert]

I read your comment. You said some of them think they are betraying their "race". That isn't racism.

Racism is the belief, that race is the primary determining factor for human differences that those differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race.

Jews are encouraged to marry other Jews. Are they racist? Greeks are encouraged to marry other Greeks, is that racist? I knew a Greek family where all the women were expected to marry a Greek man. So strict was their community, the younger sisters could not get married before the eldest daughter.

Racism is about belief in a superior race. It is not about loyalty to your culture or community. Without that ethnic groups could not exist.

[RolandCuthbert]

Yes, that is racist. Then you extracted your personal experience onto all "Black" women who reject "White" men.

That isn't even logical.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert But the reason they think it's betraying their race is because they will be with someone inferior and not breed full Black kids, and instead breed half-White inferior kids.
That's racist.

[RolandCuthbert]

No absolutely not. That is pure projection. "Black" women are like "White" women, they carry the cultural burden for their communities. That's why it is so funny to hear "White" men complain about feminazis. "White" women, the majority, will absolutely be loyal to "White" men. When you talk about "Black" women, the same rule applies.

"Black" women feel that they need to carry on with "Black" culture. Many who feel this way, think it is best to do so marrying a "Black" men. Then there are some who simply do not think "White" men are attractive. But I think that changes when they interact with "White" men.
I just think as "Black" women become more familiar, they will become more open to dating.

But then there will be different problems. Because many "Black" men who date out, don't come with cultural baggage. They are usually cutting family ties, etc. "Black" women are not like that.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert I'm talking about what I've seen and heard, and like I said, when you say you should date someone of your race because they're superior to the rest... well that's racist. If you have a different experience, I'm not gonna argue with that and tell you you're wrong, but my experience is different than yours.
That being said, I reiterate, that I'm not saying every Black girl is racist, I'm just talking about those who say dating a White man is betraying your race.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, if we are just talking hearsay, my word is as good as yours right? I have had people walk right up to me and say crazed racist things. And I were to describe to you my experiences. . . my bad ones, I would be here until next week.

But somehow I can avoid ascribing these racist experiences onto the entire "White" community.

I have to, since I will be marrying a woman who will be considered to be "White" in America next year.

In other words, I can't let my countless bad experiences interfere with how I interact or treat people from the "White" community.

But you guys have to decide what to do for yourselves.

Good luck.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert Yes, your word is as right as mine, hence why I haven't said you're wrong.
I'm also not ascribing these racist experiences onto the entire Black race, hence why I've repeated multiple times I'm just talking about a specific group of Black girls, not every one of them, just the ones that believe they shouldn't date Whites because they're inferior.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, it is just that you have mentioned several things. "Black" people are the most racist group of people. The laughable root cause that "Black" women think mixed race babies are inferior.

And I thinking about this because I am African-American. Our last President was mixed-race. And I am thinking about the number of times I had to run home from school chased by "White" kids. The times my life has been threatened simply because I was "Black". The number of times I have been physically assaulted because I was "Black". I think about the number of times the police were called because people assumed I stole something or I did something.

And I wonder why I don't think "White" people are the most racist group.

I wonder about that a lot when I hear young "White" people enraged simply because a "Black" person rejects them.

If rejection were the only problem I had to deal with. . .

:D

Oh well.

Again. . . good luck.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert The reason I believe Black women are the most racists has nothing to do with rejection, dude, that's just a very tiny tiny part of it. There's much more to why I think that.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, I hope your thinking gets around to embracing facts, logic, and common sense.

But again, it is all up to you. Reliance on superstition, just leads to more suffering.

[RolandCuthbert]

Haha! I got a question for both of you. Is this woman racist? Or is it only racist when "Black" women say racist stuff about "White" guys?

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2497769-black-women-should-not-date-black-men

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert Assuming that's not a troll, then yes, that would be racism and sexism combined. She may not think Black people aren't good enough cause she's just saying that about the men, but it's still racist because she's focusing on the race of the individuals instead of on the actual person.
I know you were expecting a different answer, but racism is racism no matter what race

[RolandCuthbert]

Haha! Why would she be a troll? And no, I did not expect any different answer. I think you probably should try to get more exposure to "Black" folks. There are plenty of "Black" people who are viciously racist against "Black" people. They see themselves or their select group as exceptions in the "Black" supposed race. I don't think there is a "White" equivalent to this.

But they are everywhere. Especially here on GaG. Some are angry like this woman. Others are not, they simply don't like "Black" women/men or they grade themselves based on how many "White" friends they have.

That's used to be me.

I was so silly when I was young.

Well anyway, just wanted to show you this example.

See ya!!!

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert I don't trust anons with that type of questions, usually they just want to get a reaction.
I know there's plenty of self-hating Blacks, just like there is Whites (liberals).
I haven't noticed this on GAG though, usually the girls here are all about Black Power and shit XD

[RolandCuthbert]

Wait? How is a liberal self-hating? I know plenty of liberals who don't claim "White" men are horrible. Or "White" women are horrible. When a feminist or a men's rights person speaks, they always speak to me in general terms of American men or American women. They almost never mention race.

In fact, I have never met a "White" person who engages in the belief of negative racist stereotypes of "Whites". A "Black" person can believe that almost all "Blacks" are criminals, poor, uneducated, ignorant, lazy, etc.. There are some that truly believe the "Black" race is inferior to all others, but that they are one of the exception special "Black" people.

I have never heard of anything similar over on the "White" side of the equation.

But maybe you can explain.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert I'm not saying liberals are self-hating, I'm saying self-hating individuals are liberals. Every White person I've seen that disliked their own race, was a liberal, but not every liberal I've seen hated their race.

I haven't met any White person like that, though, or a Black person either, which by the way, were the majority in my college (you said earlier I should be more exposed to Black people, but I've been exposed to them most of the time I was in college for the last 4 years).

[RolandCuthbert]

Okay how could a "White" person hate their own race? I mean, they are "White". I don't know any "White" people who are raised in non-"White" environments surrounded by imagery of negative stereotypes of "Whites" and positive stereotypes of non-"Whites". Please describe these self-hating "Whites" to me. Even my professor buddy who is extremely anti-racist, and comes from a racist family, would never claim "Whites" are inferior to other races.

I have never seen any "White" woman saying in any forum, any venue, any conference that "White" men are inferior to "X" men and "White" women should only date non-"White" men. On the flip side, I have heard "White" men say it. But only in the context of American feminism. But they fly over to Eastern Europe and get ripped off by scammers who have tricked them into thinking they are against Western feminism. By the way, I work in the romance business, so I meet many conservative "White" men.

But please, I am really interested in this.

[RolandCuthbert]

Oh really quickly. You just stated you were exposed to "Black" people in college. I just want to be clear about something. If you have not met a "Black" person who complains about "Black" people, "Black" men or "Black" women. . . then I have to say sir, you have not met that many "Black" folk.

It is a pretty common experience. I would say I run into a "Black" like that on a pretty regular basis. In fact, I have a close childhood friend who is like that.

[AleDeEurope]

@RolandCuthbert You can go to YouTube to find plenty of videos of White people dismissing other White people's opinions, saying White people are evil, saying we should stop reproducing, there's plenty of videos, and articles. It's the Internet, it's not too hard to find.

[RolandCuthbert]

Sorry, never heard of anything like that. There are plenty of "Black" folks complaining about "White" people. But there are plenty of "Blacks" claiming "Blacks" are inferior too. As for a comparison, there is no way to compare the "White" community to this.

But surely, you can find Latinos who hate other Latinos similarly, American Indians, Asians, Arabs, etc.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HqXUP0JDqlE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e67jAApgoM4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N9aGVMiDAh8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNvm_lHikmE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ezPXX1W2mk
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0UEPftQdm4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCul2D8bog8

[menina]

Well, would you say a white guy is racist for not dating black girls?
He might simply be not attracted to them. Just like a black girl might simply not attracted to white guys.

Most black girls are afraid of dating white guys because they're afraid of being mistreated by their friends and/or family.. Of being seen as a fetish, of being used for sex.
Plus, most white guys aren't interested in black girls, anyways.

[Asker]

Are you black?

[menina]

Yes, I am.

[Asker]

Well that's not what I've heard from them. A lot say they don't like them mainly because they genuinely think white guys are scum of the Earth

[menina]

That's their opinion. It doesn't represent the way of thinking of all black girls in your country or even in the world.

[Asker]

Have you ever been on Twitter. It's literally countless black girls saying how they wish white people dissappeared from the planet.

[menina]

I've never checked these girls on Twitter and I don't want to. I have other things to worry about.
(NOT saying these girls are right tough).

[Laquandads96]

Say anon whatever you are. I don't know why you're constantly saying black girls this and black girls that. If you want to date white guys that's okay, don't try to bring black girls in this. You know damn well most white guys don't date black girls. Just keep it moving

[sadgirl2002]

No, a majority of black girls are scared to date white guys because they don't want to be viewed as a fetish or find out that he's just racist and he just wants to check black girl off his bucket list

[Asker]

Are you black? If not, I'm only interested in hearing from black girls

[Anonymous]

I think many black people assume all whites are racists or closer racists. Especially in areas where the races don't go to the same schools or mix much.

[BlueCoyote]

I'm sorry but your friend Brianne sounds like a judgmental/borderline racist airhead. Sure there are conservative and racist white guys but you can't just make such broad generalizations. Besides, there are also super conservative and very homophobic black guys.
From my own experience, I have to say I was also once rejected by a black girl while I lived in the US. She later explained that I was apparently a bad kisser and that my penis was not big enough. Strangely, I've never heard these complaints from any other girl I was interested in. Maybe African American girls just tend to have super high standards? I'm definitely not an expert on this topic, it's just an impression I got.
At any rate, I still love black girls and if I were single, I would definitely like to try dating one.

[RolandCuthbert]

I think you are exaggerating. But let's say this is somewhere near the truth. I cannot count the number of "White" women on GaG who have actually said they are not attracted to "Black" guys. Are they racist?

If your "Black" friend actually thinks "Blacks" are superior to "White" people in some way, then yes, she is racist. But no one is racist for having preferences for dating.

It is silly to even suggest that. I prefer "Black" women myself. But I am engaged to a German woman. She is not African or African-American.

[Mexicoman101]

Lol, well your friend is racist but it isn't because she prefers not to date white dudes, its why.
To suggest we're all Trump supporters and Nazi's is dehumanizing and disrespectful to me as a white man who volunteered for Barack Obama's & Bernie Sanders' presidential campaigns. & it sounds like she's concinved we all have dicks the size of Mento's bottles, too. I've never been with a black woman but i've always been open to it, provided she is not as hyperracial in her thinking as your friend.

[Asker]

A lot of my black friends think white men and white people in general are scum

[Mexicoman101]

Most of my friends aren't white, they've been in relationships with, parented, & generally respect whites they come into contact with. They express greviances about white people to me but i've never gotten a hateful impression from them. Perhaps you need to get better friends,

[Asker]

Trust me if you get a group of black people all together and just listen to them talk it'll be a different story. They may act different to your face but behind your back they literally trash white people like filth. Just go on Twitter, they literally spend most of the time trashing white people and saying how great black people are and how white people have ruined the world and they can't wait till white people finally die off.

[Mexicoman101]

Well don't act like they're all racist based on what social media says.

[menina]

"Well don't act like they're all racist based on what social media says." - Well said.

[Asker]

@menina It's not just social media. Its what I hear from them all the time

[menina]

Like I said before, these are the girls you know. You don't know all the black girls from where you live, or from your country nor from the world.
Not all black girls think that way.

[SnapTsch]

if they are generalizing about an entire race, then you know what its called, 'RACISM'
Plain and simple
and its just a guilt free pass to be racist, by saying 'black people can't be racist because they dont have the power'
if its their preference, fine but if it is because they dont like a certain race of people or as you said, 'can't stand them' its surely a racist behaviour

[likitb4istickit]

To me race doesn't matter, it all pink in the middle. People have preferences and deal-breakers. race is not a trait that's immune to that, the real world is not some PC utopia. Really everyone is racist to some degree, they don't need a kkk hood to be one, and it's silly to pretend otherwise. Refusing to date another race and self-segregation is just toward the mild end of the scale.

[Anonymous]

I don't know what everyone is talking about in the comments, im white and women of every race "blacks included" flirt with me a lot, like, theirs never been a girl that hasn't been attracted to me so like, all the people in the comments saying it has to do with white guys being less dominant and shit excuse you I get hella play and im white (well Hispanic but white of skin lol)

[Anonymous]

I've had a couple of black girlfriends. Their black female friends were friendly and accepted me without reservation. The racism I encountered for dating them came from black males (mostly) and a few white females.

For black women, the opinion of other blacks looms large, i. e., many do not want to viewed as "sellouts".

[SmartButBroke]

I see you're still up to your same "make black women look racist" tricks, pink anon, lol. You know good and well that [most] black women like white men but [most] white men don't like us.

[Asker]

That's not true, and actually studies have shown MOST black women don't like white men at all.

[badgal1998]

It's not racist, it's a preference. Just like there are many people who will not date us black girls.

[Chico_brah]

Black chicks have always seemed to be attracted to me. Blacks can indeed be racist as well. It goes both ways.

[Asker]

I notice white guys say that, but I've never actually seen a black girl hit on a white guy or go out of her way to date one. Overall it seems most aren't interested.

[Chico_brah]

I'm usually either hated of liked. It's never in between. I've had black women hit on me a lot though. It is a different culture which is understandable to an extent.

[Chico_brah]

Nah this was mostly bouncing at clubs lol. And before you say hookup.. they were already in and had nothing to gain from me.

[Asker]

LMAO. Oh sweeteheart all girls do that so they can keep getting in for free.

[Chico_brah]

To the extent if getting my number and wanting to meet up? I also worked at a place called RA sushi as a barback and we had a decent amount of blacks coming in. Same deal. Always got hit on.

[Asker]

Hitting on the help is the great way to get free shit.

[Sweetiecristina]

Are you attracted to black chicks?

[Chico_brah]

@Sweetiecristina Yeah sometimes

[disgustingweebtrash]

I don't really care what a black girl's preference is.

But they are wrong, not all white guys are """""""""""racist"""""""""" trump supporters. (trump is not racist) or Nazis.

Most are the left-wing cultural Marxists type of people.

[Asker]

Most black girls I've talked to thought white men were scum

[disgustingweebtrash]

Good for them.

[Laquandads96]

I'm black and I don't date white guys because most of them racist and none of them approached me for me to even date white guys

[Browneye57]

Pretty broad-brush there don't ya think?

There are certainly a lot of stupid people out there. [sigh]

[abundantlyrich]

Llololol that's pretty rare to hear black women say that in Merica

[Asker]

You must not know a lot. Most are really racist and anti-white

[abundantlyrich]

My exposure to them is very limited

[JCT666]

Well, since history, black women and white men traditionally hate each other and still do today. So I can see her point on them having nothing in common.

[NYkid27]

Because some of the most racist and intolerant people in the world are black

[Lord_Lol]

Ikr!!!

[Anonymous]

If anything the majority of them ain't tryna date us. Just sayin

[Opinion Owner]

Some like me but the majority say they'd screw outside their race but never date/marry outside

[Asker]

I know that, but the thing is Chris was interested and she dismissed it. I've heard it happen a lot where a white guy liked a black girl and she wouldn't date him because he was white.

[Anonymous]

I'm White and I have been hit on by Black girls most of my life. They don't even realize that I am racist.

[Asker]

I always hear white guys say black girls hit on them but have never seen this happen

[Opinion Owner]

They usually don't do it right in front of another person. I mean, isn't most flirting or asking out done when the person is alone for a moment?

[Asker]

lmao, i really think white guys lie about black girls hitting on them. because it never happens. i usually see black girls outright rejecting white guys or only dating them for money

[Opinion Owner]

You must be a butt hurt Black girl with that comment. Got turned down by too many White guys or something? lol
You know the majority of White people won't date Black people. Even the non racist ones.

[Anonymous]

most of my black friends love them some vanilla as they call it. I guess it's just personal preference. I think everyone is a little racist...

[Asker]

that doesn't sound like black girls. but if you say so

[Opinion Owner]

Well at least my black friends are like that. but it's true I hear people at my school saying they hate white people in general.. sad

[Asker]

Most of the black girls I've talked to think white guys are the scum of the Earth

[Alpha89s]

Maybe the white boys are being feminized and women in general ( not only blacks ) don't like that !