1. In short I can say 'it's a human thing' lol but fact
2. Such things rise out of many things such as one's requirement to be seen as 'good', showing they are your friend thus earning your faith etc
3. I call such characters 'frenimies' - those who actually not only don't care but also are happy at your discomfuture & by showing they care, they make you talk about it thus making you feel worse while they feel secretly elated & ofcourse then they have more dope on you too lol. Again there are those who really care but most of them again more out of habit of their cultivated nature than actual caring. Then again there are these very few who actually care and these will or may not give you a shoulder but certainly point a way out for you & even maybe walk you along
4. No I don't do this to people. I help where I can and deny where I can't. Result: I have people who'd die / kill for me like I have those who'd love 2 c me dead lol
5. No people don't do this to me cause I don't allow them to. I don't ever cry on anyone's shoulder especially when they insist on me talking to them. Luckily I discovered such characters very early in life ;)
6. Deal with them? I just don't let them anywhere near me - ensure that they are scared enough of me to even come anywhere close lolol
Life is riddled with people like this.
In my experience, people "pretend" to care because they are seeking something from the person they're pretending to care about. Its a selfish way of getting the things they want / need.
I can't think of anytime in particular that I've done this, but its something we're all guilty of at some point in time. You have to admit, even though you may not remember it or may not have intentionally done this, odds are everyone has.
The only time that comes to mind for me is when I would just shake my head when hearing about my ex-fiancé's drama in her workplace. I didn't care about which one of her friends said something to another. It wasn't to hurt her, I just don't care about people's drama.
To answer your last question, a girl I was dating recently did this to me. We spent two great months together. She showed me affection, we kissed, held hands, met each others' friends, and completely led me on until this week she gave me the "its not you, its me" speech.
Girls have done this to me over and over again. Otherwise, I (don't think) any friends or family have done this to me.
Sorry this happens to you so often. I guess just brush it off and do your best to forget about it.
How are they pretending to care?
Sometimes what you feel like you need from them and what they feel you need from them/are getting from them are two different things.
Discuss it with them before deciding they're just pretending to care.
I've had times with my sister when I didn't realize something was a huge deal to her when it actually was. She thought I didn't care; I didn't know otherwise because she didn't tell me.
Because we've taught it is right to care about others.
That if we don't, we are bad people.
So, many people, fake it.. some, care sometimes.. and can come across as faking it...
I do it sometimes.. mainly when I'm get trapped and I don't want to hurt someone.
People used to.. not so much anymore..
i don't pretend to care, it's the other way around I pretend not to care cause I don't want to be seen as weak.
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No. If I care about something, I don't pretend to not care, unless I try not to show my feelings about something.
Some people pretend to care, when in fact they don't care, because these people are not true to themselves. These people feel the obligation to at least look like they're caring. It could be that they don't want to appear 100% uncaring, so they try to make at least some effort to appear that they care. On the other hand, it is also possible that these people just pretend to care, so as to let the situation pass by as fast as possible.
They're probably just trying to be decent... What's wrong with listening and a little understanding here and there
https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=2Wpof8s5ZTg. I think it's human, to care about your fellow man to an extent. It's only when they're a**holes and you lose respect for them that you say 'f*** um'. At least that's how I am. I give people a show of good faith to go the right direction. If they do well things go in a positive direction, if they don't I burn them. =D In order to earn loyalty, it takes time. It doesn't mean they pretend, it just mean's they're not fully invested.
It's all about appearances, and not having a tendency to "rattle the herd" (I.E. sheeple). So people pretend to care merely for the fact of its societal normalcy. But like others have said, it too may also come about due to someone's wanting something of you. It's pretty insulting when someone says they "care" but demonstrate otherwise. "Actions speak louder than words."
The important thing is to be able to separate the wheat from the chaff. As you've astutely noted, if it looks like a chicken, and walks like a duck...it must be a duck.
simple answer: they want you to like them
i deal with it by being an a**hole to them
They want you to like them.
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