It used to be that what other people thought of what choices we made with regard to our appearances mattered a lot. With a lot of the parent generation now, who grew up in the 80s and 90s, there was a social movement promoting good self-esteem. The kids who had low self-esteems were the ones who either didn't do well in school or had been teased about the way they looked or dressed. These kids went to therapy and were told they were good people and were important and special. There was nothing wrong with changing anyone's low self-esteem perception about themselves. What I think is inappropriate is forgetting to tell these kids even though they are great the way they are, there is nothing wrong with always striving for self-improvement. That last part got left in the dust. These kids are now parents and have told their own children they can dress the way they want. Hollywood and advertising promotes a lot of revealing clothing that gives the notion of "you'll get lots of attention if you dress this way." It all started with mediocrity, where all the teams of a softball or baseball league would all get the same trophy at the end of the season. Now, no matter what age you are, or how you look, wearing revealing clothing is one of the best attention-getters. It's not the cure for the need for popularity. My opinion is that parents are living their lives through their kids.
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My niece is six months. She wears tanks and shorts all types of cute clothing. She's a baby so of course no one thinks it's too revealing.
You're talking about an eleven year old. You shouldn't be "sexualizing" an eleven year olds body anyway. So how she's dressed shouldn't concern you to the point where you need to get on the internet and talk about it.
And when she's older and has more choice in what she wears then it'll be her decision.
Instead of pointing fingers and talking about the risk or rape and pedophile because regardless of how she is dressed it can still happen and it still won't even be remotely her fault. How about you talk about those sick people who do those things instead of how women and children are dressed.
No one ever has an issue when a man or even a little boy is running around without their shirt on..why ? isn't that the same thing ? that's because there isn't a heaps of harassing , perverted females running around making it hard for him to go shirtless and accusing him of being a f***ing slut, right ?
I'm not even a feminist
There was a time when kids were portrayed as they were GOD's gifts to women. They were seen as the innocent beings they were. Now, their being portrayed as tiny sex objects for messed up men who have dirty intentions to do as they wish with them in their mind until they can get their hands on them. I'm glad my little sister doesn't wear such clothes.
I actually noticed this today. I was walking through a building and passed by a girl wearing a black but completely see through knit-like shirt which was extremely visible underneath. You could see her white bra very noticeably through it. This girl had to be between like 10-14. 15 tops since I am not a good judge of age honestly. I've seen other girls in revealing outfits as well that were totally not of age to be dressing in such a manner. I can understand it when they start hitting the teens but at such a young age I think it's irresponsible of the parent to have their kids wearing that stuff because they aren't really of age to make those kinds of decisions.
First thing that came to mind was me wondering who makes these kinds of clothes for little girls and then who would let their kid wear such clothes? These are probably the same moms who wish they were eternally young and would dress the same way yet get aggravated at anyone who hit on them.
Sure people can wear what they want and it is their child, but when they dress to send a message, people are going to have an opinion about the messages such clothes send. Plus, we're not talking about the clothes themselves, we're talking about the lack of clothes here and the exposure of private parts. Teaching kids to expose their private parts at a young age is nothing but bad news.
In modern society children are much like Poodles and are a fashion reflection of the parents. They are born, and then you dress them up as you see fit, and then when they grow up you let them go and buy a real poodle and dress it up. After all $300 Jordan baby booties don't sell themselves in any other type of society.
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I totally agree with you and understand where you are coming from. I honestly felt like I was the only person on this world that felt like that. Everywhere I go I see girls dressing like that and it annoys the heck out of me . If you want respect as a women then don't degrade yourself by wearing skimpy clothing. I even have beef with women that are overweight, wearing tight clothing . Nobody wants to see your flab hanging out. They should cover themselves too. Those women would look more attractive if they dress themselves properly. I have nothing agianst chubby people. I'm just saying that if its "in", you don't have to wear it. Those clothes are made for really skinny women from a superficial fashion industry. People should dress properly according to the height and weight. Their body should look well proportioned.
Totally agree it is like they are serving their daughters up to sexual predators on a platter. The real question we should be asking is who is making all of these clothes and why is there a market for extremely revealing clothing for children? I mean they even have lingerie "training bras" for girls as young as 6. It's sad how childhood is lost especially for girls it's all about pleasing boys and trying to get boys attention and make them love you so that you can be happy. It's a really warped way that we raise our children in society. For a western society that praises individuality most happiness or "individuality" is gained by being approved by strangers, being desirable to the opposite sex and having others' value you because of the clothes you wear...it' pathetic.
In some cases I believe it is because mothers don't know any better. They themselves think all women have to portray themselves as sexual objects to get what they want so that's how they're raising their daughters.
I think another portion is due to parents unwilling to fight with their daughters. They have established a pattern of letting their children throw tantrums. To forgo hearing yet another screaming tyraid, mothers just go ahead and let the girl have the clothes she wants instead of instilling the mentality of self-respect and polite, lady-like behavior.
It's a sad truth but you simply cannot teach an individual anything that you don't already know yourself.I agree that kids clothes shouldn't be designed to be sexy. On the other hand I don't think short shorts were designed to be sexy. Hot pants yeah but I've been wearing short shorts all my life because they just suit me better than longer shorts. And it's great to have your kid looking good and feeling good about how they look because it will build life long self-esteem but good should never be confused with sexy. I know there was talk about regulating the children's clothing market in some countries.
It's just making kids grow up too fast and it's a shame.It really depends on where you are. Have you ever looked at the clothes available in the girls' section? It's hard to find cute but appropriate clothes unless you can sew yourself.
I see nothing wrong with tube or tank tops. But short skirts yes. They do make skorts but since that's "out" they're harder to find. Personally, the little girls I babysit wear T-shirts and jeans or dresses with tights under them.
I have a bigger issue with what 13-15 years wear nowadays.They won't understand until they go through a bad experience. They're innocent and think nothing will happen. Girls are seeing what they believe they have to be in order to get attention. They see celebrities and other females and think they have to do the same. Of course clothing companies will want to cash in on it even if it looks too revealing on a young child. The young girls need to be taught self respect from their parents and need to see it in themselves no matter if everyone else dresses that way. Love and seeking approval is two separate things.
I agree with you man. I think it's deplorable how people either dress or let their kids dress these days. I was out at some store a month ago and almost vomited at a itty bitty teeny weeny bikini for a BABY. As in the triangle was smaller than half a piece of American Cheese. And people wonder why pedophiles are so prevalent these days? I blame both the parents and the clothing companies for marketing this sh*t.
Wow... I've seen that too. I've seen baby girls wearing those.
Gosh... It's nothing compared to how my mom clothed me... I notice that some very young girls even are encourage to use "high-hills." Nope, nope, I didn't use those when I was young.
I was reared in an "innocent world-like." Nothing like now.
boys can walk around in shorts with no shirt without anyone caring- yet it doesn't get more revealing than that.
if you don't see women as objects then why do you think you have a right to control how they dress.
it isn't the dress that defines the girls as slutty. its the outlook/ ideology. without the emotional reaction, clothing is just clothing. the skin just skin. because you look at them and see sex is your problem. not the clothing. not the kid,tank tops were in style when I was 11 and those aren't really slutty cause they don't have boobs. But mini skirts that are too short are a problem because little girls still play in parks and like things such as the monkey bars and slides at that age. Yeah I remember wearing scorts . Its because people today are stupid and they want their daughters to be popular.
I would imagine it depends highly on the area and country you're in but I personally never see young girls being dressed like prostitutes and normally the most 'edgy' thing they wear is a bathing suit in summer.
But I would certainly never dress my (hypothetical) daughter in such a way that her arse was literally hanging out. Especially at such a young and impressionable way.I don't get it either. I'm sure as heck not letting my daughter wear revealing clothes. Nor are my sons going to wear some of the styles I see teenage boys wearing nowadays, like tight pants that look like they belong on a girl, and that sagging crap that just won't die.
i think its a sad thing. and if I have a daughter I don't know how I'm suppose to buy her clothes even the bathing suits are slutty
I agree with you, kids should look like kids not future hoes...some parents are just plain unfit
Ik right, its a sad thing for the parents to let their kids wear that stuff, when I was growing up I was never allowed to wear that stuff and I thank God everyday that they didn't let me wear it
My daughter isn't wearing skimpy sh*t lol Daddys buying a shotgun ... People are sick and writers now days!
To be honest, it just looks like the child is uncomfortable, but I guess it's because most people think it's cute. And, most people don't look at a child's body and think "damn, she looks good in that tube top and those shorts."
Prolly just because some of the cuter clothes are revealing or maybe because we're in the middle of a heat wave? Lol
I agree with you. I don't see why parents would dress their children up like that...
I think it's ridiculous that an 8 year old girl can't walk outside in a tank top without creeps like you perving on her. She's a little girl. Who cares?
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