My boyfriend hit me and he said he regrets it, should I stay?

[Noxnamexneeded]

So here is the story, I am with my boyfriend for about a year and we live together. He has never been mean to me or hit me in the past. The company he worked for closed down so he started looking for a new job, but he remained unemployed for a month and before some days he went for another work interview and we really hoped it would work, but it didn't. He came home really sad about it and he started yelling. I talked to him about how he could try more and about how we are running low of money and he got really mad. He slapped me and ther grabbed mh wrist really tight and then threw me to the floor. As soon as i got up i went to the bedroom and after some time he tried to excuse himself. I really love him and understand that a lot of preassure is on him so i can't really blame him, but i am afraid it might happen again...

[SaintRichie23]

I think dumping him might be a bit extreme, although his actions are certainly horrible. People do boil at different temperatures. I'd sit him done and explain to him that you understand the pressure that he is dealing with and that you want to work with him on getting through it, but if he *ever* tries to touch you again like that, you're leaving him. If you don't bother at least addressing the issue, some other poor slob will have to deal with the possibility of that sort of violence.

If it happens again, you know what to do, and I wouldn't put it against you to get the law involved.

[knight1986]

For me, no matter how angry or stressed i am i can never ever hit the girl i love. It would kill me. However i have never been in that situation and sometimes people do strange things when going through tough times. I am not saying that you should allow him to hit you, no no. Also if he has done it once it will most probably happen again. Its so hard to gauge a situation though and you should think about it carefully before you decide what to do. But again there is absolutely no reason to hit you at all. Hope it all works out for the both of you :)

[KAZ-2Y5]

he does not love you. no man should ever hit a woman no matter how stressed or drunk he is. My cousin stayed with her husband and he threw her through a wall in front of her kids. they got a divorce but it is common for victims of domestic abuse to find themselves in another abusive the last time i heard about her, the last person she was involved with threw her out of a moving car got out of the car and continued to beat her. get out while you still can.

[kitterns]

You shouldn't be with someone who resorts to abuse as soon as pressure is put on them, sure, he's going through a rough time but if you guys are running low on money, then this is just as stressful and hard on you too. There's never a valid excuse as to why you should abuse someone, whether he regrets it or not, please don't be consumed by the love you feel and get out of there as soon as you can.

[Beautifiedgirl123]

I've always said "if it can happen once, it can happen again"

I personally wouldn't stick around if a guy hit me. The minute he raises his hand on me, I'd walk out of his life.

This is obviously your decision and I'd hate to sit here and give you advice that may probably ruin your life. Do what you feel comfortable in. Sit down and think about it well.

[Onlyinit4fun]

Many people have been in that situation. I have as as well. Abusing someone becausw of that is not an excuse.

There's never an excuse to hit someone unless you're defending yourself from a physical attack.. or if someone spits on you (that's a green light from me for attacking someone)

[Jay-Are]

Not easy to say because I wasn't there.

He seems to be under a lot of pressure. And sometimes do things that they should not do. How terrible it is a slap can happen... but throwing you to the floor afterwards? I would guess that people when they slap immediately realize that they were wrong and stop.

He did apologize so that is good. I guess you can forgive him but make it damn clear that the next time there is no going back. Tell him that and don't hint it or say it in so many words. He needs to hear that you draw the line there. Because if you don't he might think he can do it again.

[Dave-x11]

A boyfriend should never, never, never hit her girlfriend, even under stress he has no right to work it out on you:the girl he apparently loves. If he hit you one time, he is capable of doing it again, keep that in mind.
Im just being honest here.
Hope this helped

[Vesuvius87]

It will happen again if you keep staying with him. It's not normal for someone to hit just because they're stressed out and can't find a job.

I wouldn't just break up but I would press assault charges against him.

[Anonymous]

Oh he regrets it? That poor man, he lost control, you should forgive him, that poor guy.. Are you stupid? Leave him now! If he hits you once, he will hit you again. Are you gonna forgive him, when he beats the shit out of you in front of your children?

He maybe won't do it again for 1, 5 or 7 years but when he he hits once, he will do it again. Don't be one of those women who gets their whole life ruined, because they are too stupid to leave the first time.

[Anonymous]

If he did it once he's likely to do it agian. And he will most likely have an excuse for why he did every single time. I say you leave him, don't be with someone that hurts you physically or emotionally

[TaureanBull81]

A man should never ever hit a woman no matter how stressed or mad he might be! It's called "Domestic Abuse". If you're worried that this could happen again then for your own safety get out of the relationship!

[jacquesvol]

Next time he'll regret it again.
The time after that he'll regret it too.
The time after that you'll be used to it.
Nice future.

[Ren-Riven]

if you still care about him and he is sincere about his apology, then ya you can stay with him
If it happens again... Get out of there

[zombiebabe]

there are chances it will happen again... its not healthy to stay in a relationship with someone who hits you

[sexyphil]

Time to pack your bags by the sound of it. If he can do it once then he will do it again so get out as quickly as you can

[cinderelli]

i don't know what to tell you.. but i would dump his arse there and then..

[SandyDee]

It shouldn't even be accepted. I have been stressed out many times in my life and even had to deal with two family members dying and never hit anyone.

[SandyDee]

Or you willing to tolerate that behavior the next time he's stressed out over something else that's more serious or whenever he can't find a job?

[bubbletrouble]

No just leave. File charges if you want.