My best friend invited me to his birthday party.
I was surrounded by cookies, pies, cakes and ice cream cones.
Being that I was on a strict diet,
that was last thing I could have ever envisioned myself wanting.
The visual appeal of those sweets had pulled me in like a gravity force.
In no time, I found myself quickly devouring all of the delicious sweets and snacks.
I could easily have blamed the party host, for having tempted me with such delicious pastries.
He knew I was on a diet but still gave me an invitation to his home.
If the commitment to my diet were strong enough, no amount of temptation
would have allowed me to give in.
Afterall, the responsibility was mine and not his.
When you are committed to something you are fully devoted to it.
You would have invested time, energy, dedication and loyalty.
Sure, the party host could have helped to support my efforts to maintain my commitment.
He could have locked away the pastries, leaving the party empty and bare.
But would my expectations be realistic?
Should the strength of my commitment be his concern?
In everyday life, we will be surrounded by the many things that tempt us.
Those of you that are in meaningful relationships,
will know that a healthy foundation will exist in the very beginning.
Nothing anyone says or does, will allow your loved one to stray.
Another person’s advances or flirtatious words will not allow someone who “loves you”,
to cause deceit.
Your significant other should be able to be in a room with hundreds of attractive human-beings,
and still walk out the same faithful person he/she entered in as.
You cannot blame the “party host” for causing temptation in the room or “making”
your significant other cheat.
He/she did so because he wanted to.
He made that choice.
The foundation was not solid in the very beginning.
Someone who is filled with devotion, loyalty and dedication cannot be led away.
The power of their commitment to you, would be so strong that it
would deflect any negative outside influences.
No one has the power to steal someone who loves you away.
If that person is led away, then their love was never real.
I know it is second nature for some of us to blame the other person for their part in the ordeal.
Although the "party host" could have never given you an invite,
he does not share a commitment to your relationship and can do as he pleases.
It is up to the person given the invite to reject the advances and escape the situation of discomfort.
You cannot blame the other person,
your significant other cheated with you on.
Even If the initial pastry were not chosen,
it would have eventually been another because of your significant other’s mentality.
When someone lacks commitment it's only a matter of time before they cheat.
The healthy foundation of trust is not there.
Trust is the glue that holds a relationship together.
Without the glue, the relationship will fall a part.
In a room surrounded with sweets,
all of them are tempting.
Since I’m not committed to my diet,
I can only be trusted for so long in doing the right thing.
I will eventually give into my temptation because
It is what I wanted all along.
I never took the vows to my commitment seriously and it shows in my actions.
A committed person can walk into a room filled with pastries,
never having the urge to reach for one at all.
No matter how beautiful the display or inviting of an atmosphere,
this person never has the desire to be filled with any of those sweets.
This person is satisfied and contented with what he already has.
This person is willing to stick to his/her diet plan.
No amount of sweets will ever influence this person's mind.
A person's heart can never be stolen. It was this person who was never contented in the first place and took opportunity to leave for another.