Many of the questions/myTakes regarding sexuality and female promiscuity have had at least one guy point out, "MEN DON'T WANT WOMEN WHO HAVE SLEPT WITH A LOT OF WOMEN" (totally fair if that's a requirement for you, you have your own standards and I may disagree with them but that's fine). That's all good, BUT THEN they like to quote a study that says it's women who have slept with a lot of men are at a higher risk of divorce. That claim, turns out to only be partially true.
It turns out...that:
Women with exactly two premarital sex partners have consistently higher divorce rates than women with three to nine sex partners.
Some background on this study, researchers at the University of Utah looked at the five-year divorce rate for over 10,000 women, and took into consideration how many sexual partners the women reported having prior to the marriage. Unsurprisingly, women in recent years have far more sexual experience prior to marriage than those from previous decades. Makes sense, I think we can all agree that premarital sex has become more acceptable nowadays.
Additionally the age in which most people are getting married in the US is becoming later and later so it is reasonable to assume that if you get married later you are likely to have a few more partners than if you were to get married earlier. in the 1970's about 21% of women were likely to marry as virgins, compared to only 5% in the 2010's.
TRUTH: women who marry as virgins had the lowest divorce rates within 5 years, and women who only had one partner had the second lowest.
ALSO TRUE: in the 1980's and 1990's, the highest five-year divorce rates were seen with those who had two partners.
These women had divorce rates of 28%, which is substantially higher than those who had ten or more premarital sex partners with a rate of 18%.
ALSO ALSO TRUE: in the recent 2000's, yes, women with ten or more premarital sex partners had the highest five-year divorce rates among those marrying in that decade at 33%.
There are many factors that this study does not take into consideration in drawing such a conclusion. Additionally for anyone who has taken statistics, we all know that "Correlation does not lead to causation." I have a few issues with the study both in how it was conducted and how the conclusion was drawn, outlined below.
1. This study is based off a 5 year divorce rate, not an overall divorce rate. My parents got divorced after 19 years (only partner). So their divorce statistic wouldn't even have been counted. Although indicative to a certain extent, it is definitely not broad enough to apply this study as an overall blanket conclusion to female promiscuity and divorce rate.
2. The number of premarital sexual partners was SELF REPORTED by women. Which inherently leads to a huge potential bias. Many women could have under-reported numbers making it seem like they had only been with a few number of guys and if they haven't divorced yet, would lead the study to show lower = better.
3. This study does not take into account the sexual behavior of men in marriages, and its effects on divorce. Rather, it is ONLY the women's sexual behaviors were closely observed, and linked to high or low divorce rates. This leads to a portrayal of women’s premarital sexual behaviors as solely responsible for helping or harming a marriage.
4. Divorce, like premarital sex has followed a recent trend where it is only now more common. Divorce used to also be a similarly taboo and unacceptable practice, and it could just be a matter of these two upward trends (higher number of sex partners, higher number of divorces) occurring at the same time that has lead to someone trying to establish a correlation between the two. Remember in certain countries and cultures, divorce is still very greatly frowned upon.
As a final note, it’s important to take into account that those who avoid or have trouble with commitment may find it easier to have more sexual partners while being more naturally inclined to not settle with one. So, it’s not that more partners lead to divorce, it’s just already a part of their personalities leading to less satisfaction with only one partner. Again, assuming that they have commitment issues already, which would be the eventual cause for divorce NOT the number of partners itself.
Thanks for reading friends. 👍