To specify a bit more, this is a take that addresses why men deal better with break ups THEY DIDN'T WANT. It does not address which gender tends to do better after dumping someone but I'd guess men do better with that too for entirely different reasons. Anyway...
Attraction For Men Is Often Instantaneous
For many women it seems that attraction for a guy builds slowly and when it goes away it goes away slowly (although to the oblivious guy it may seem sudden since he didn't notice the signs.) As such, we are quicker to fall in love and quicker to fall out of it a lot of the time. So, when we're dumped it hurts really badly but we go out and eventually see lot of women we are attracted to and once we get ourselves going we find we can love another without too much time passing.
Takeaway for Women: Embrace the fluidity of life and realize that to get to a better relationship, you often have to lose the one you have
Men Tend To Put Themselves First
If you look at a lot of self help directed at women, the overarching theme is to have the woman start putting themselves first. If you look at self help directed at men, a lot of is learning to actually you know care about other people than yourself if you want to actually be with a good mate. As such we can infer that women tend to have a problem putting themselves first. So when it comes to being dumped, guys can use their self centered attitude to think about THEIR needs and THEIR interests and spend less time considering how the girl dumping them might be feeling
Takeaway for Women: Its nice to think that your ex had good reasons and maybe if you worked them out it would work out but that doesn't help once a breakup has been finalized. if someone is willing to lose you then that says something about how much they still feel for you. someone who is willing to put you on the open market has made the decision that a future with you is probably not what they want
Men Don't Let Themselves Cry Too Long
Society gets blamed a lot for being too hard on men who are sensitive, but spending too much time in tears means staying too long in negativity and in the past. Men tend to give themselves only a little time for tears and then only in really serious situations and losses. Then they "man up" and move on even if they really really really don't feel like it.
Takeaway for Women: Limit the time you allow for feeling sad per day. its important that you get it out but its also important you don't let it consume you
Men Find Value In Themselves Through Career
A lot of women are finding a life dedicated to a career to be really rewarding, but the fact of the matter is for a man his career is tied to his idenitity. What this means is that as he does well at work he feels himself valuable as a man and therefore to women. what happens when you're dumped is you temporarily feel valueless since the person you care for the most doesn't value you as much. But when you can find ways to value yourself you start to feel better more quickly
Takeaway: Realize that there is nothing wrong with seeking out ways to make you feel like "a woman again." being dumped is not only humiliating on a general human level its an insult to who you are as a man/woman. the quicker you can regain that confidence the less power the dumping will have over you
Men Are Competitive
Lastly, we men tend to be competitive in all things including the person who dumped us. We want to prove that they made a mistake and that we can be better we WILL be better and this can be the kind of motivation that moves mountains that gets promotions that finally gets that six pack that gets the ACTUAL woman of our dreams. We look at being dumped as opportunity to prove that we are enough if we try hard enough and that we will not be losers.
Takeaway: Try looking at every feeling of inadequacy as a result of being dumped as an opportunity to do better be stronger and win in the end.
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