Not even two weeks ago, after returning from my trip in Bulgaria I simply finished packing up my stuff, told my girlfriend and my sister I was done with them, and walked away. The relationship simply wasn't sustainable anymore and was going nowhere.
It wasn't easy, but it was necessary to walk away.
I realized I couldn't help her anymore with her mental issues and obsessions, especially since she had no intention to work on it herself. I hold no bitterness or hatred towards her, I thank her for all the beautiful moments we had together and wish her every happiness and luck for the future.
Naturally, they had none of it - they cried, they screamed, they threatened, they did it all. But my mind was set and in fact I had already prepared another apartment (family property) and set up varying contingencies.
Thankfully a great friend helped me with that, and her support in that moment had been crucial.
Or so I thought.
I knew she was following closely my situation as I confided a lot in her, and she constantly advised me to break up and cut off all contact, which in the need was good advice. But then she started playing into her hidden goals and tried to get closer to me, and being very insistent about that - not even a week after I broke up.
So I did the right thing - I thanked her for all her effort and support and then lowkey cut her off.
But as the days went on, I noticed something. My friends started treating me differently. They never really liked my girlfriend, and although they were being supportive, they didn't hide how much they were happy she was gone.
In my eyes that's the worst slight.
Even if I still love her but have no intention to get back to her, my ex girlfriend was right on that - most of my friends are goons, mercenaries, lackeys who tried to cull my favor for their interests - especially a couple of the guys and girls.
So I started treating them just like what they are - my goons.
Once I saw that, I rightly started to be cautious and more distant with them - especially another female friend who's trying to get close to me - one side of me is heartwarmed and grateful, but the other one says "What does she wants from me? What is she seeking to gain?"
Maybe I'm being paranoid or too distrustful, but after noticing how my ex girlfriend, my own sister and my friends piggybacked on me for my money and positions, it's just natural I start asking myself questions.
And that's what I learned: to focus more on my goals than other peoples and care strictly about my interests.
It's a ugly thing to say, but such is life's law.
I have a career to pursue, social goals and more and I can't let myself to be slowed by people who don't care or worse, deliberately henpeck me.
I'll still take care of those in my inner circle and this includes my sister and ex girlfriend - financial support and help with their issues but minimum personal contacts, and same with certain friends.
But I'll be focusing on my goals first and above everything from now on.
Thank you for reading