No, you shouldn't. The right person will come to you at some point. I understand your point. I got out of a bad breakup as well. But I still believe that love is possible. Don't give up. Love is the most beautiful thing that you can get. But you need to work on building the relationship. And first, see if that relationship is worth it. I didn't, I fell in love with a girl who proved not to be the right one for me... We stayed together for a while, then the inevitable happened... I wouldn't want to believe. I fought for my relationship till the last second and afterwards. But it fell to pieces anyway. If someone deceives you, it doesn't mean that you cannot get to be with someone that's good for you. Just find that guy. Socialize more and talk to guys. Eventually, you will find him
I'm late to the discussion but to whoever wrote this: I'm sorry 🙁 It seems hurt people hurt people. It's a vicious cycle. I know I've been hurt and have hurt people myself. It took a lot of deep self reflection to really see and understand things. Then it took another kind of strength to grow and move forward with the things I've learned in life. It sounds like I've been (maybe in a way still am) where you are. Honestly I don't sleep around. I can't it's not me. Now I keep all my naughty stuff anonymous and online til I can find real love again. It's my only way of still keeping my sanity and being the good boy I once was. Direct message me. Maybe we can support each other. I'd love to hear your complete story and share with you mine.
The fact is, everyone gets hurt at some point in their lives, but holding onto that only really hurts you. Taking that pain out on people who don't deserve it will only leave you all alone and feeling worse. You're only really punishing yourself for what someone else did. Cutting off your nose to spite your face. Don't give those people from your last that kind of satisfaction. The right person will see your worth, but they can't if you can't.
Yes I have I wish the answer was no but yes . I lost the only women I have ever loved. There is not a day that I don't regret it , but I got to put ownership of what she or you are doing No one can change how you are living but you . You have a good heart , I'm sorry that your got your heart broke , believe me I hate it. I can really relate to your situation. But using sex to numb the pain is not the way to deal with it. You have self worth , there is not another you , you are one of a kind. Be proud of who you are. Dont turn away from the pain , face it and take one step at a time and walk through it , ask God to take your hand and lead, you through all the pain and mess. You will be afar better person for it. We all lose our way from time to time Its not wrong for you feeling like you do but you got to go through the pain And I feel that If God put you to together then you will always be together. Nothing to it just do it Godspeed
Seems like you go for bad boys. Like a lot of women would. It's human instincts, the bad boy "seems" like the perfect match, the hunter, the protector, and all that. But in today's world you do not nessarly need those types. That is why personality is a priority for me. Getting to know the person intellectually first, then physical when you approve of mental interactions. You should not even have any kind of sex for a while, a couple of month's. More? At that point you can find out if it's a match.
To be fair, a lot of guys pretend to be something they’re not in the beginning. So you fall in love with them. And then after, they change. And you end up waiting for the guy you met to come back but it was all fake. It’s not this whole “women like bad boys”. It’s bad boys are good at pretending and lying.
I had a rough patch. It just made me feel disgusted with myself. The best thing to Do is to Invest in yourself. Don’t be someone you know you’re not. Stay true to you, time heals everything. Respect yourself & your body, if you don’t, no one will. Don’t give anyone the power to make you bad.
Honestly I've been through some pretty rough stuff my self but i know a lot of girls that went down that route and they are miserable as hell with everything in life don't degrade yourself over some one that didn't see your worth love does exist but i know your like b. s no not really love isn't something you choose when too come or go it comes when its the right person be strong and stay whole some losing your self and degradating your self will change absolutely nothing at all it sucks i know but trust me once you find the right person they are gonna make you happy as hell
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wow maybe this is why noone likes you? you say you give others love but when one truly loves they expect nothing in return. yet you're selfish. you're selfish and expect people to love you and care for you. do you have any idea how hard some people try to keep people around them? obviously not. maybe try harder.
and to answer the question in the end. it is the girl's own fault for being so weak. numbest people are the weakest ones. so technically you're weak. and whiny. and needy. selfish. all those things come to mind. so in the end its your fault.
I don’t think you are as “bad” as you say you are. Something may have happened to that “good girl” still inside you, but if you say she’s there, then she must be. Give yourself some credit, you made it through all that, and you’re still alive enough to reflect on your inner self, publicly, like this. That’s a lot. The hurting will stop someday. Keep looking for and working on it.🤣
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My first love was horrible, after we broke up I almost committed suicide, and I get panick attacks when I see her because of the trauma she gave me, yet I don’t find myself being a jerk to other girls, and I am willing to love someone else, someone better, but you need to find your strength. I also wanted to be numb and never love again, but you need to be strong, because someone that goes through pain and still able to find a way to love, is a strong person hang in there, because I did and you can too.
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Same. I've had too many bad experiences, been too trusting and too hopeful and believed in love too naively. Would hardly say i've "gone wild" though as I am still introverted but I do have men in the friendzone and I just don't care if someone tries to be romantic, give me flowers etc. It's like it's empty inside I just feel neutral regardless of what any man does for me now, if anything I feel annoyed an that he's a dumb fool who thinks love is real. Turned into a bitch definietely but that's life I guess
"... but I do have men in the friendzone and I just don't care if someone tries to be romantic, give me flowers etc. It's like it's empty inside I just feel neutral regardless of what any man does for me now, if anything I feel annoyed an that he's a dumb fool who thinks love is real..."
All of you who hang out in the friendzone hoping she will change her mind, take note.
Ah, yes.. Blame someone else for your feelings; that always effective.
Here's the thing. THEY didn't make you into a "bad girl"; you did. More to the point, your whole idea of "good girl" and "bad girl" are INTERNAL! YOU are the one who condemns yourself. You're the one who makes you feel bad, makes you want to be a bitch, makes you trade sex for the illusion of love that you don't even believe in any more.
Stop giving "them" power over you. Accept that these things come from within you, not from them. That is the very first step in getting over past mistakes.
And decouple sex from love. You can have love without sex, and enjoy sex without love. They're not related, except in your mind. You're beating YOURSELF up over this.
Being a bad girl takes 5 years of being a brat. Simply put you aren't qualified... You simply don't have the experience. Don't fret too much because even as a bad girl you're at least 3 years from a bad bitch and true satanic ascension. Lol.
There's some truth in that though, you have the heart to *do* bad but it's clear simply from the fact that you're out here confessing like it's Sunday that you're really quite afraid to *be* a bad girl. Justification is a form of denial.
You can treat yourself as a sexual object only and you know that such girls never actually get anything not even respect.
I had my heart broken before so i decided to give 200% and get my degree and a good job and i did, i felt like sh*t for so long esepcially after meeting so many girls and seeing how many bs they throw at men whether they mean it or not, but i didn't ruin my life i decided to fix it and turn it around to show everyone that iam as valueable as i believe i am.
You are responsible for your own life if a guy decided he doesn't wanna be part of if then fine, dont ruin it cause once you go there its over and you lose.
Maybe your hiding. You've been hurt so much you've tought yourself to be numb to protect yourself with seeking only sex so you don't get hurt. If you don't deal with your pain you're either going to drive yourself to an emotional rock bottom, or you're just going to be able to connect with anyone pass just sex.
I think you answered your own question - When you put armour on to keep hurt out, you tend to keep the hurt that is already there in Hope is stronger and more pleasant than embitterment - I have had my heart broken and inadvertently broken hearts but I choose to never change because I like who I am with my heart on my sleeve , it may hurt at times but at least it feels real and if you can feel pain, you can feel happiness again
Someone needs some counseling badly. People like this usually wind up hurting themselves through cutting or some other means. They turn self destructive, seeking something that some bad choices in men took from them, and the only thing I can think of the outcome is in the movie "Looking for Mr. Goodbar"
I did use a girl and regretted it after. Not because of who she became. She continued to be the same girl. I felt bad because she was a good girl and did not deserved it. I felt a piece of shit for what I did to her! Anyway I am still her friend and she is happy today. She forgave me even if I did not deserved it. Kept being my friend. She is amazing.
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No, you shouldn't. The right person will come to you at some point. I understand your point. I got out of a bad breakup as well. But I still believe that love is possible. Don't give up. Love is the most beautiful thing that you can get. But you need to work on building the relationship. And first, see if that relationship is worth it. I didn't, I fell in love with a girl who proved not to be the right one for me... We stayed together for a while, then the inevitable happened... I wouldn't want to believe. I fought for my relationship till the last second and afterwards. But it fell to pieces anyway. If someone deceives you, it doesn't mean that you cannot get to be with someone that's good for you. Just find that guy. Socialize more and talk to guys. Eventually, you will find him
I'm late to the discussion but to whoever wrote this: I'm sorry 🙁 It seems hurt people hurt people. It's a vicious cycle. I know I've been hurt and have hurt people myself. It took a lot of deep self reflection to really see and understand things. Then it took another kind of strength to grow and move forward with the things I've learned in life. It sounds like I've been (maybe in a way still am) where you are. Honestly I don't sleep around. I can't it's not me. Now I keep all my naughty stuff anonymous and online til I can find real love again. It's my only way of still keeping my sanity and being the good boy I once was. Direct message me. Maybe we can support each other. I'd love to hear your complete story and share with you mine.
The fact is, everyone gets hurt at some point in their lives, but holding onto that only really hurts you.
Taking that pain out on people who don't deserve it will only leave you all alone and feeling worse.
You're only really punishing yourself for what someone else did. Cutting off your nose to spite your face. Don't give those people from your last that kind of satisfaction.
The right person will see your worth, but they can't if you can't.
Yes I have I wish the answer was no but yes . I lost the only women I have ever loved. There is not a day that I don't regret it , but I got to put ownership of what she or you are doing No one can change how you are living but you . You have a good heart , I'm sorry that your got your heart broke , believe me I hate it. I can really relate to your situation. But using sex to numb the pain is not the way to deal with it. You have self worth , there is not another you , you are one of a kind. Be proud of who you are. Dont turn away from the pain , face it and take one step at a time and walk through it , ask God to take your hand and lead, you through all the pain and mess. You will be afar better person for it. We all lose our way from time to time Its not wrong for you feeling like you do but you got to go through the pain And I feel that If God put you to together then you will always be together.
Nothing to it just do it
Godspeed
Seems like you go for bad boys. Like a lot of women would. It's human instincts, the bad boy "seems" like the perfect match, the hunter, the protector, and all that. But in today's world you do not nessarly need those types.
That is why personality is a priority for me. Getting to know the person intellectually first, then physical when you approve of mental interactions. You should not even have any kind of sex for a while, a couple of month's. More? At that point you can find out if it's a match.
To be fair, a lot of guys pretend to be something they’re not in the beginning. So you fall in love with them. And then after, they change. And you end up waiting for the guy you met to come back but it was all fake. It’s not this whole “women like bad boys”. It’s bad boys are good at pretending and lying.
I had a rough patch. It just made me feel disgusted with myself. The best thing to
Do is to Invest in yourself. Don’t be someone you know you’re not. Stay true to you, time heals everything. Respect yourself & your body, if you don’t, no one will. Don’t give anyone the power to make you bad.
smiles, is that how your makeup hoarding began?
Honestly I've been through some pretty rough stuff my self but i know a lot of girls that went down that route and they are miserable as hell with everything in life don't degrade yourself over some one that didn't see your worth love does exist but i know your like b. s no not really love isn't something you choose when too come or go it comes when its the right person be strong and stay whole some losing your self and degradating your self will change absolutely nothing at all it sucks i know but trust me once you find the right person they are gonna make you happy as hell
wow maybe this is why noone likes you? you say you give others love but when one truly loves they expect nothing in return. yet you're selfish. you're selfish and expect people to love you and care for you.
do you have any idea how hard some people try to keep people around them? obviously not. maybe try harder.
and to answer the question in the end. it is the girl's own fault for being so weak. numbest people are the weakest ones. so technically you're weak. and whiny. and needy. selfish. all those things come to mind. so in the end its your fault.
I don’t think you are as “bad” as you say you are. Something may have happened to that “good girl” still inside you, but if you say she’s there, then she must be.
Give yourself some credit, you made it through all that, and you’re still alive enough to reflect on your inner self, publicly, like this. That’s a lot.
The hurting will stop someday. Keep looking for and working on it.🤣
My first love was horrible, after we broke up I almost committed suicide, and I get panick attacks when I see her because of the trauma she gave me, yet I don’t find myself being a jerk to other girls, and I am willing to love someone else, someone better, but you need to find your strength. I also wanted to be numb and never love again, but you need to be strong, because someone that goes through pain and still able to find a way to love, is a strong person hang in there, because I did and you can too.
Same. I've had too many bad experiences, been too trusting and too hopeful and believed in love too naively. Would hardly say i've "gone wild" though as I am still introverted but I do have men in the friendzone and I just don't care if someone tries to be romantic, give me flowers etc. It's like it's empty inside I just feel neutral regardless of what any man does for me now, if anything I feel annoyed an that he's a dumb fool who thinks love is real. Turned into a bitch definietely but that's life I guess
"... but I do have men in the friendzone and I just don't care if someone tries to be romantic, give me flowers etc. It's like it's empty inside I just feel neutral regardless of what any man does for me now, if anything I feel annoyed an that he's a dumb fool who thinks love is real..."
All of you who hang out in the friendzone hoping she will change her mind, take note.
Ah, yes.. Blame someone else for your feelings; that always effective.
Here's the thing. THEY didn't make you into a "bad girl"; you did. More to the point, your whole idea of "good girl" and "bad girl" are INTERNAL! YOU are the one who condemns yourself. You're the one who makes you feel bad, makes you want to be a bitch, makes you trade sex for the illusion of love that you don't even believe in any more.
Stop giving "them" power over you. Accept that these things come from within you, not from them. That is the very first step in getting over past mistakes.
And decouple sex from love. You can have love without sex, and enjoy sex without love. They're not related, except in your mind. You're beating YOURSELF up over this.
Being a bad girl takes 5 years of being a brat. Simply put you aren't qualified... You simply don't have the experience. Don't fret too much because even as a bad girl you're at least 3 years from a bad bitch and true satanic ascension. Lol.
There's some truth in that though, you have the heart to *do* bad but it's clear simply from the fact that you're out here confessing like it's Sunday that you're really quite afraid to *be* a bad girl. Justification is a form of denial.
You can treat yourself as a sexual object only and you know that such girls never actually get anything not even respect.
I had my heart broken before so i decided to give 200% and get my degree and a good job and i did, i felt like sh*t for so long esepcially after meeting so many girls and seeing how many bs they throw at men whether they mean it or not, but i didn't ruin my life i decided to fix it and turn it around to show everyone that iam as valueable as i believe i am.
You are responsible for your own life if a guy decided he doesn't wanna be part of if then fine, dont ruin it cause once you go there its over and you lose.
Uhhhhhh so you're gonna let strangers fuck up your life even after you kicked them out of it?
You think they'd give a shit? No.
Would their lives get affected? No.
Would YOUR life get destroyed and become a miserable shit wreck? Yup.
I feel like dumbass music has affected your mindset, correct?
Way to take responsibility... Take it from Ginelle here... it doesn't end well to act like a man to get back at a man... you'd only hurt yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qdInoObT8b4Don't be this chick. And pick better dudes.
Maybe your hiding. You've been hurt so much you've tought yourself to be numb to protect yourself with seeking only sex so you don't get hurt. If you don't deal with your pain you're either going to drive yourself to an emotional rock bottom, or you're just going to be able to connect with anyone pass just sex.
I think you answered your own question - When you put armour on to keep hurt out, you tend to keep the hurt that is already there in
Hope is stronger and more pleasant than embitterment - I have had my heart broken and inadvertently broken hearts but I choose to never change because I like who I am with my heart on my sleeve , it may hurt at times but at least it feels real and if you can feel pain, you can feel happiness again
Someone needs some counseling badly. People like this usually wind up hurting themselves through cutting or some other means. They turn self destructive, seeking something that some bad choices in men took from them, and the only thing I can think of the outcome is in the movie "Looking for Mr. Goodbar"
I did use a girl and regretted it after. Not because of who she became. She continued to be the same girl. I felt bad because she was a good girl and did not deserved it. I felt a piece of shit for what I did to her!
Anyway I am still her friend and she is happy today. She forgave me even if I did not deserved it. Kept being my friend. She is amazing.